Maddie82 Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 (edited) Did he say he wanted you to go with him as his date or as his friend? Edited September 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 11, 2019 Author Posted September 11, 2019 (edited) We didn't talk about it, he just asked me to go with him and i said ill get back to him. I didnt even ask him what is he doing in town or is he back for good. I think I should ask him for such details before giving him an answer. Edited September 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Maddie82 Posted September 11, 2019 Posted September 11, 2019 (edited) @toomanyquestions123.... I agree. Ask him what his intentions are and what he wants exactly. Good luck Edited September 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
mortensorchid Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 Have you heard from him at all since your get together? If not then it seems like he's just one of those guys who is traveling and picks up companionship while on the go and has no intention of following up. And when I say companionship it could be platonic friendship or sex or something in between. If more than 48 hours have passed since the encounter, chances are it's just that. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 If he really liked you, he would have kept in touch. He's looking for an insta-date, possibly has connections like you in various cities. Beware. You're at high risk of being nothing more than casual fun for this guy. 1
Redhead14 Posted September 12, 2019 Posted September 12, 2019 You went with a complete stranger to an isolated area? You were lucky. Beyond that, deal with it when/if he does call. There's no way to know what he's thinking or even guess based on this post. And, I'd still think twice about going to a strange city to meet a man you've only met in person once. I don't like that this guy makes or suggests plans that take you to isolated areas and/or "out of your own element" already. Let him come to you if he's really interested when he can. Proceed with caution. 1
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 13, 2019 Author Posted September 13, 2019 The guy is from a town just next to my town. He traveled two months ago for business and now he is back. As per his say, he is back for at least one year. When he was away, we had this small talk that i posted here before he traveled and i just stopped thinking about him because he made it clear that although he liked me, he can't think of a relationship because he was going away. While he was away, he contacted me once, he sent me a song that i think a message that it reminds him of me, i just replied by nice. When he was away, he sent me many times messages replying on my stories and i replied back so i wont be rude. When he came back, he messaged me this and invited me to this wedding, its not like i want to be in a relationship with every guy i go out with. I will go to the wedding with him but for me i will go as a friend and enjoy my time, we will go for a road-trip before so I'm going to have fun not to date him and peruse a relationship with him. If i felt like something potential can come out of this from his side and my side, that's another subject.
Maddie82 Posted September 13, 2019 Posted September 13, 2019 As per his say, he is back for at least one year. He made it clear that although he liked me, he can't think of a relationship because he was going away. I will go to the wedding with him but for me i will go as a friend and enjoy my time, we will go for a road-trip before so I'm going to have fun not to date him and peruse a relationship with him. If i felt like something potential can come out of this from his side and my side, that's another subject. The key sentences here are 'he is back for at least one year' and 'he can't think of a relationship because he is going away'. He will be going away again and this means you are not a permanent fixture, just something to pass the time. I think it'a a bad idea to go to this wedding and on a road trip with him because you are clearly going with the hope that something will happen. And it might, but it wont be in the way you want. Your hopes will only be dashed when he still wont commit to a relationship. You're heading for heart break.
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 13, 2019 Author Posted September 13, 2019 I don't let anyone breaks my heart because i know how to cut off once i see not-very-serious vibes, i did it the first time he left, i can do it again if i saw he is fooling around,I've been doing it for the last 2 years. I will just go to the wedding to dance,drink wine and enjoy the road-trip in the mountains and come back to my cozy mozy bed.
Maddie82 Posted September 13, 2019 Posted September 13, 2019 (edited) He's already showing not-serious-vibes, but it's obvious you're only going because you hope he will fall in love with you after you spend some time together. I'm sorry but he wont. Edited September 13, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 13, 2019 Author Posted September 13, 2019 Definitely his loss haha
Maddie82 Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 Definitely his loss haha Your heart that's at stake
MindYourBusiness Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 I'm in the exact same situation right now and my guy hasn't texted me so far with an exception of a follow up text after I saw him last time. It wasn't a great romantic date because he had to leave last minute for work but he made time to see me. I will wait for him to reach out when he's back. It really depends on how long he gone. In my case he will return in 2 days but if it's longer than that you should expect him to text you.
spiderowl Posted September 14, 2019 Posted September 14, 2019 It sounds like he's one of these guys that will pick you up and then drop you when he moves back to where he is now. You took a risk meeting him in an isolated place. You still do not know him just because you kissed him. There are plenty of more public places you can meet him. If you want to go to the wedding with him, then go, but do not expect that this will turn into a romance and he will come to love you and be more committed. He has already shown you he will not keep in touch in between meetings. Personally, I think I would: - turn down his invitation saying it was nice of him to invite me but I don't meet up with guys who do not keep in touch - refuse to meet anywhere isolated. He is just being far too casual here. If you want to be taken seriously, you need to be the one that stands out as not putting up with his 'casual' crap.
winny Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 dont go. if he liked you even a bit, he would have been in touch while he was away. i think he reached out to many girls and you are the one who responded to be his plus one.
elaine567 Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Seems to me, you want something conventionally serious, yet get drawn to guys who seem like they want anything but. It is almost like you want these guys to change just for you. They will think you so wonderful, that they would do that for you. This guy has casual/short term written all over him.
Maggiemay1 Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 One thread about one guy that turned into about two guys?? Geez girl!! Clearly neither guy is interested!!! Why are YOU entertaining either? They are both looking for sex only. Are these guys going to work in Muslim dominated countries ?? And therefore would love a girl come visit them? Sorry but why are you being so available on non dating sites such as Twitter? This is just so so sad! 1
stillafool Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 @Maddie82... What he meant back then was that he thought i am locked emotionally or emotionally unavailable and since i felt connection with him to learn from that and try to connect with other men. I dont say he blew off, but he simply was going abroad for work and he didnt want to make any further promises. This is bull. One can only tell from this thread alone that you are anything but "emotionally locked" or 'emotionally unavailable'. You admit your self that you attach to men quickly so this was just an excuse from him. I think you need to be more strict with your emotions than falling for every guy you date so soon. 1
Maddie82 Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Whatever any of us advise now, OP has decided that she is going to the wedding and on a road trip with him, but only because she is hoping for something to happen and that he will fall in love with her. He will likely sleep with her but that's it. After the trip is over he will just discard her again. 1
stillafool Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 Definitely his loss haha If only he felt that way but he doesn't.
justwhoiam Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 If a man told me to see other men, I'd get the hint. If he's the kind enjoying his woman having sex with other men, it'd be such a turn-off for me that I would stop being interested in him even remotely. If he's just not into me enough, the outcome would be the same. It's odd how magic it was to you and how inconsequential it was for him... Devote your energies to someone who'll be able to appreciate it. 1
justicegrl Posted September 15, 2019 Posted September 15, 2019 "Traveling". I notice lately a lot of people are going on dates with men who just happen to be traveling the next day or the next few days after the date. Is this a coincidence or just an excuse the guys are using. Agree except it's been happening for awhile, not just lately. Guy meets girl, they have a great date and suddenly guy announces he will be "traveling" and gone for awhile. Just my own personal thing but I stay away from men who tell me they are "going on vacation" or otherwise traveling, after our date. In my mind, it's a one and done. It's just an excuse to seek distance, same for any man who tells you he gets "bored" easily. Seriously stay away, he's most likely just another commitment phobe who doesn't do "relatjonships." Or even wants one. 2
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted September 16, 2019 Author Posted September 16, 2019 Wow too much interpretations:P What isolated place? Our first date was in a public place & our community on twitter in small given that my country is small and we all know each other, meetups are always scheduled with other tweeps and many people started relationships from Twitter. When he traveled he thought he is traveling for a long period, and he was being honest about it, that he liked me a lot and im so much fun but it can't work unless i come and visit him which i declined since he didnt make an effort to see me before traveling. I went to the wedding with him, and before that we did a roadtrip. I may say it was fun, but i totally was in a mindset that we were friends. He tried to flirt with me, i shut him down many times, we spent more than 8 hours together yesterday and i did not really feel i would lower myself for him in case he is not really interested. On our way back from the wedding, he suddenly said you are so much "fun", i told him yeah you said that the first time and you stopped talking to me when you traveled. He said that's because i was going to travel, now I am staying here and would love to give it a shot, that this is the second time he goes out with me and he never felt a moment of dullness. Because i was keeping my guards up, i told him well thank you and did not comment on the dating part. We didnt kiss, he kissed me on my cheek when i arrived home. He is starting a new job today in my country and he wants to open his business from here so he is not going to travel anymore. I am not sure i like him to start with, he is very smart and fun, but people think here that i immediately fall in love with any guy who asks me out, that's not true, i need to see if someone who is really interested in me so i can start manifesting in feelings. If he is, time will tell.
winny Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 Wow too much interpretations:P What isolated place? Our first date was in a public place & our community on twitter in small given that my country is small and we all know each other, meetups are always scheduled with other tweeps and many people started relationships from Twitter. if you know everything then why come here and ask questions? :lmao::lmao: 1
winny Posted September 16, 2019 Posted September 16, 2019 Whatever any of us advise now, OP has decided that she is going to the wedding and on a road trip with him, but only because she is hoping for something to happen and that he will fall in love with her. He will likely sleep with her but that's it. After the trip is over he will just discard her again. yeah... i cannot count how many similar situations i have seen here on this site... same mistake.. same advice... same reaction 2
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