Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 I just started seeing this beautiful woman a month ago. She's very mature and sophisticated. We've been out on 3 dates and everything is going awesome. We text and talk on the phone and she seems very sincere. We've spoke about many topics and basically share the same thoughts on life and about our pasts and what we want. She's showed me pics of her friends and family on her phone and I've showed her mine. She's told me that she mentioned me to her kids and her mom and her best friend knows about me because she was there when we met. She said I have an aura of goodness that surrounds me and her best friend told her the same thing. She also told me she trusts me. There's just one thing I don't get. We are both on Facebook, but she hasn't even suggested being friends, even though she told me scopes people out. She's even told me she's Googled me when we first went out, which is fine because I have nothing to hide and she told me she has nothing to hide either. Things are going great. Her I have a beach day planned tomorrow. Is there some way to hint to her that I would like to be friends on Facebook? Why do you think she hasn't suggested it herself?
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 don't look a gift horse in the mouth V5 Believe me, I'm appreciative of what I have, but the question remains. Most couples are friends on Facebook. Why wouldn't she suggest it or friend request me?
alphamale Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 Most couples are friends on Facebook. Why wouldn't she suggest it or friend request me? you two are not a couple yet 3
frus69 Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 You are bit too old to be worrying about social medias? There are many reasons why she hasnt suggested it. My reason is I dont want any unnecessary social media drama. But if you want to befriend her, just do it, send her a request. Im sure she will accept. Dont ask her "why you havent done it". It makes you look naggy.
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 you two are not a couple yet No, we're not, but what does that have to do with being Facebook friends? I have many people on my friends list I've never even met and here I am going out with this girl, we're very close, but yet we're not fb friends. It doesn't make sense.
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 You are bit too old to be worrying about social medias? There are many reasons why she hasnt suggested it. My reason is I dont want any unnecessary social media drama. But if you want to befriend her, just do it, send her a request. Im sure she will accept. Dont ask her "why you havent done it". It makes you look naggy. You never too old to be concerned about social media. Trust me. Infidelity goes on in that site at any age. I've seen it first hand.. I wouldn't point blank ask her why we're not friends on Facebook. Like I said, I'm just curious why she hasn't suggested it. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 Is there some way to hint to her that I would like to be friends on Facebook? Why do you think she hasn't suggested it herself? Why haven't you friended HER on FB? 1
frus69 Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 (edited) You never too old to be concerned about social media. Trust me. Infidelity goes on in that site at any age. I've seen it first hand.. . So you wanna..keeps tags on her to make sure she doesnt do anything shady thats why you wanna befriend her on FB? oh boy do you not trust her already? lets be honest, do you suspect she didnt ask because shes hiding something? tell me, is there at least some part of you that is doubting her integrity already Edited July 4, 2019 by frus69 1
crispytoast Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 I'm gonna try to summarize this... so you are wondering why she hasn't friended you on Facebook and you are bothered because you want to be able to watch to make sure she isnt cheating? 1
Inspire Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 She could be thinking the same thing about you? (i.e. I wonder why he hasn't friended me yet). If you want to friend her, then send her a request. Everyone approaches social media differently. Some are open and out front, while others tend to be more private. I wouldn't read into it at this point. 1
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 Why haven't you friended HER on FB? Because I don't want to feel like I'm intruding in on her life. I don't want to be pushy.
alphamale Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 Because I don't want to feel like I'm intruding in on her life. I don't want to be pushy. No, you are afraid that she will reject your request
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 No, you are afraid that she will reject your request No. Not at all. I'm fairy certain she would. Like I said, I don't want to feel like I'm being overbearing with her. 1
Art_Critic Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 Why would you want someone on your FB friends list that you have only been on 3 dates with... You don't even know her yet... What happens if after 6 dates she thinks there is no future and there you are having to decide to remove her from your list.. 2
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 Even if she did say no, what would that say?
crispytoast Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 No. Not at all. I'm fairy certain she would. Like I said, I don't want to feel like I'm being overbearing with her. Youve only gone on three dates and want to be her Facebook friends because "infidelity goes on in that site at any age". I don't see what part of this isn't overbearing. 1
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 Why would you want someone on your FB friends list that you have only been on 3 dates with... You don't even know her yet... What happens if after 6 dates she thinks there is no future and there you are having to decide to remove her from your list.. Like I said previously, I have people on my Facebook that I've never even met, so why not someone I've been out with and getting to know? Even if things did end there isn't any reason why we couldn't stay friends on Facebook.
crispytoast Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 You are already creeping on her that is reason enough to not be Facebook friends. 2
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 You are already creeping on her that is reason enough to not be Facebook friends. That's bologna. I hate that word. This isn't about creeping. It's about getting to know who someone is to protect my own heart. I like her a lot and it appears that she likes me just the same, but I've been through lies and deceit before. I've had people tell me some very wonderful things and I believe it only to find out they were wearing a mask. Creeping would be driving by her house and I'm not about to do that.
Flame Aura Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 That's bologna. I hate that word. This isn't about creeping. It's about getting to know who someone is to protect my own heart. I like her a lot and it appears that she likes me just the same, but I've been through lies and deceit before. I've had people tell me some very wonderful things and I believe it only to find out they were wearing a mask. Creeping would be driving by her house and I'm not about to do that. You are very weird. I suggest you overcome your issues (you appear to have quiet a few) before you start a serious relationship. And seriously who cares about FB? Place is such a waste of time, start living in the real world not in a world with your imaginary 'friends' you have never met. 1
basil67 Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 Like I said previously, I have people on my Facebook that I've never even met, so why not someone I've been out with and getting to know? Even if things did end there isn't any reason why we couldn't stay friends on Facebook. But I assume you're not FB friends with those acquaintances so that you can scour their information looking for clues as to whether or not they are trustworthy. Given your motive, I think it's good that she hasn't suggested being FB friends. 1
Author Johnson1 Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 (edited) But I assume you're not FB friends with those acquaintances so that you can scour their information looking for clues as to whether or not they are trustworthy. Given your motive, I think it's good that she hasn't suggested being FB friends. There's the typical double standard. Let me tell ya, the last 3 women dated were notorious for 'checking up' (i.e. 'creeping') on me or their ex's. The last one told me she drove by her boyfriend's house to see if he was home. The one before that told me she scoped her boyfriend's Facebook to find out that he was cheating. The one before that used to drive by my house at 3 a.m. in the morning. This isn't about scoping her. It's about staying in some sort of communication so we don't have to talk on the phone. Most couples are friends on Facebook. Many of the couples that I know are. Let's face it, you can never really get to know who someone is if they hide another whole side of their life that you know nothing about. That's not how you get to know someone. Trust these days is earned, not automatically given. I'm not saying it's necessary that her and I be friends on Facebook. So far I've been perfectly fine without it. The only reason why I'm even considering it it's because there are a couple of minor discrepancies that are concerning and I'd like to understand a little more to put them at rest without drawing my own conclusions. Words mean nothing these days. Edited July 4, 2019 by Vocals5
frus69 Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 There's the typical double standard. No double standard. Your ex should not have done any of those either. Trust these days is earned, not automatically given. . I trust people unless they prove me wrong. I dont assume someone is shady until I do a throughout background stalking to prove their innocence... 1
emeraldgreen Posted July 4, 2019 Posted July 4, 2019 Three dates in a month don't get you life privileges. It's not your business who she's friends with, what she posts about, what pages she follows or anything else. You don't own her thoughts or her connections to other people. You've probably spent 6-8 hours of her entire life with her. Come on. You sound like a teenage girl. You have her (well, while you still do) in the real world. Why **** that up by mixing it with the digital world?
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