Should I assume he’s no longer interested?

[Els]

Sorry to hear that Cora.

 

I definitely agree that if you want a LTR, it's generally best to allow the first few dates at least to be "proper" dates - where you go out together, not to someone's house. There's absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with a man on the first date at all IF that's what you want - but it's quite clear that that isn't what you want.

 

Don't beat yourself up. You learned something about yourself, and (hopefully) had a bit of fun during the night itself, even if the aftermath wasn't great. We all make mistakes - the only person who hasn't made a mistake is the person who has never tried anything new. Chin up.

[Curiousroxy86]

 

I don’t know about the OLD....I have been talking to one guy who I’m not really attracted to looks wise, but looks isn’t that important to me and he has an awesome personality....we seem to have a lot in common. And we both found out we lived in the same small town 22 years ago and never met. We both moved and just so happen to live in the same state now. However, he does live an hour away which isn’t really much, but still don’t know how that would work out if we did decide to date. Anyway, thanks for your response. I guess I just didn’t expect to feel these roller coaster of emotions getting back into dating. It’s exhausting feeling all these highs and lows.

 

do take it slow. take the time to get to know guys and let them show you that that they are "worthy" (for lack of better word) before investing your body and "give a dang" lol. know that your own emotions can play you when your attracted to a man. know that many men will be wrong for you. so knowing those two things you have to make decisions based on logic such as "I dont really know this man so does it make sense to get all hyped up about him?" "men who like me will show me that they like me" "I may like him and he may show me that he like me but he still have to show that he is right for me over time therefore I still need to get to know him"

 

so if you get overwhelmed take breaks if you need to but dont give up as long as you truly desire to be in a good long term relationship

[Hiya85]

I don't mean to be harsh but you should know the game at your age. While making a man wait doesn't guarantee any type of commitment.. It does gain a little respect. It's very rare one night stands turn into something but it does happen. In your case I think you should just move on. I am curious to know if he ends up contacting you again. Lol

[Cora]

I don't mean to be harsh but you should know the game at your age. While making a man wait doesn't guarantee any type of commitment.. It does gain a little respect. It's very rare one night stands turn into something but it does happen. In your case I think you should just move on. I am curious to know if he ends up contacting you again. Lol

 

Nah, I don’t think I’ll hear from him again. Even if I do, it will probably be just to meet up for sex again and the more I think about it the more I don’t want that situation. Thought it might be fun, but it just leaves me feeling ****ty in the end. So I think I’ll pass.

[Lotsgoingon]

Honestly, not sure what I want. I mean I ultimately want a relationship at some point with someone I connect with. Not sure I see him as relationship material though....at least not for me. I guess it would have been nice just to have fun for a bit since it’s been awhile. Like a fwb kind of thing, but apparently he doesn’t want that either.....or at least not with me. Who knows, maybe I just didn’t do it for him sexually. I have no clue...or maybe he found someone he likes better.

 

Hey, watch what you're doing here! You're turning a lapse in judgment into deeper self-rejection ...You're projecting that maybe you didn't turn him on ... or he found someone else. Do not go there. Get your mind away from there.

 

The sex could have been a 20 on a scale of 10. He was never going to call you because he doesn't want a relationship.

 

And an fwb is tricky to establish ... often people have to have those conversations immediately ... or with someone they're sorta friends with.

 

Doesn't sound, however, like you wanted an FWB.

[mortensorchid]

I've done that before. Why? He was there and we felt like it. Don't expect a relationship other than what you did. When you give it up too quick, except the fact that it's what it is and move on.