vshnpriy Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 So I am married with a kid, and i recently joined a job, where this guy, who is 7 years younger to me, approached and started talking to me, saying I'm beautiful.. I told him i m married that i am older, he doesn't mind all that..(Who does nowadays anyway)? In the beginning he talked to me, used to stare at me, said he liked me, he wants to go out with me, etc.. I wasn't interested at first, but then I thought why not let me make a friend and just go out with him, so we just went to have a drink one day.. Some reason, i started to fall for him, we talk well with each other.. I got so attracted.. So after that though, I noticed at work, he talked less and less, no more compliments, no more staring at me, or smiling at me.. Now we barely talk.. I don't know why he suddenly shut down? I know he likes me, randomly he may talk here and there, we had gone for walk 2 weeks back where he would hold my hand, even kiss.. hug.. But i don't understand why he completely shut down stopped talking to me, doesn't ping me.. And since I am not the kind of girl to go behind any guy, I also never initiate any convo with him, but man it is HARD.. seeing him everyday(he sits right behind me) and not talking?! I don't get it.. usually guys I come across, they talk they approach, they initiate.. It has been 3 weeks now with no talk between us.. I am just disappointed, even if I am not going to involve romantically, i thought I had a friend.. I don't know what to do, I am thinking to just let it go now and forget about him.. I am sure he only wants me for physical purposes, because he has indicated that he would do *that* with me.. I don't want to be the one to talk or initiate, after all I am older and I am the married one and I would feel ridiculous if I went after him, esp if he has no interest (thats what its looking like right now) and just wants physical or whatever..Then I thought maybe he got shy and doesn't want to get too involved with me, as I am married.. Should I just leave it? Or is he expecting me to talk to him? But why would i..I am the girl, and married.. we never got serious anyway and he is a player type.. I don't want to get more disappointed and hurt in the future.. I just ignore him when he is around, but it is so hard daily to work while he is around..
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 You guys held hands and kissed, but nothing romantic was going on? Would your husband agree if he knew? 1
Orokotikki Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 Maybe he grew a conscience. Maybe he is the sort with enough common sense to see a cheater is not worth pursuing. Maybe he just wanted to see how easy it might be to get you interested. Maybe he realized fooling with someone marriage can imperil one's life. Maybe he is setting you up with game playing, maybe he wants to see how easy to make you beg. Be glad it went no further (if that is true). I am sure others might have more specific advice for you. Hope you turn to your own marriage for fulfillment, even though it can be hard work.
Author vshnpriy Posted July 2, 2019 Author Posted July 2, 2019 You guys held hands and kissed, but nothing romantic was going on? Would your husband agree if he knew? Well Ok, it was a tad romantic.. But i know he is not the serious type, for him it is all fun, more like friends with benefits.. and me too, I mean I can't get serious with him.. but even as a friend, he was good to talk to.. now he completely shut down so it is hard daily come to work and see him.. how do I handle this.. I also did not talk to him, I shouldn't right?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 You are a married woman! Why is this bothering you so badly? 1
preraph Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 He just wanted quick easy no strings sex, and he has no business coming on to women at work. Once he saw you were just wanting to be friends, he moved on. Which is best considering you're married. Now, be mature and forget about him. 2
emeraldgreen Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 Spare us the crocodile tears. You knew exactly where this was going from the start and now you're bummed out you don't get to keep cheating on your husband. 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 Spare us the crocodile tears. You knew exactly where this was going from the start and now you're bummed out you don't get to keep cheating on your husband. I think it's more likely she just has a boring job and was really liking the ego boost from the attention. She said many times she would not cheat on her husband.
Orokotikki Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 ^^^ I think a great many people say that who end up in affairs. And then the line becomes some species of "It just happened" or "We found we have such a connection" 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 ^^^ I think a great many people say that who end up in affairs. Agree. I might have been being a bit sarcastic . 1
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