Quokka Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 so I found a girl that I really like, a new girl. I’m 22 M and she’s 28 F If you know anything about my posts before I was in an on and off again relationship. Due to that, I’m generally not so good in the dating area. We met at a tattoo parlor. She tattooed me and I just messaged her a thank you and we ended up exchanging contact information. From there, we established we liked each other and agreed to hangout. Last night we hung out at her place I brought over a bottle of wine and some Chinese take out. I was nervous, as was she. Initially her dog didn’t like me and I was like oh **** this sucks but by the end of the night the dog was in my lap so it worked itself out. The conversation flowed very well, no real awkward moments she was putting off clear signs of interest I.e. playing with her hair, higher voice, eye contact, and as she let her guard down kept inching closer to me. We talked until 5 in the morning and I decided before I even went in that I wasn’t going to initiate sex just to show that I respect her. We ended with a hug and she texted saying she enjoyed having me and I asked her if she wanted to do it again some time and she said absolutely. Now where I need advice is, I’m terrible with communication I don’t know how much is too much, I know not to blow up someone’s phone but like how much time should you wait between dates to text, should you text every day, etc.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 I would ask her out on a proper date next. She seems interested so I would step it up a bit and suggest dinner out on a certain day, for example. If you like her, there is no need to wait X number of days to do so. Her response will tell you what you need to know.
Author Quokka Posted July 1, 2019 Author Posted July 1, 2019 I would ask her out on a proper date next. She seems interested so I would step it up a bit and suggest dinner out on a certain day, for example. If you like her, there is no need to wait X number of days to do so. Her response will tell you what you need to know. Cool, thanks for replying. Yeah I wanted to take her out on a proper date but my finances didn’t see it as a good fit for this week. This coming week I’ll be in much better shape and will throw out the offer for dinner somewhere. Maybe see what her 4th plans are.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 If finances are an issue, you could always invite her out for a walk and ice cream or some such thing. Poke around an interesting local neighbourhood. Stroll under the stars. Plenty of free or low-cost ideas if you think outside the box a little. I'd suggest getting her out, anyway, just to set the impression that you would like to get to really know her. Home dates can be nice, but early on run the risk of sending the message that you only want to get her in bed. Us ladies are always on the alert for that sort of thing, so going out of the house can help set the right tone. See what her plans for the 4th are, but be prepared to offer a different date if she's already tied up.
Author Quokka Posted July 1, 2019 Author Posted July 1, 2019 If finances are an issue, you could always invite her out for a walk and ice cream or some such thing. Poke around an interesting local neighbourhood. Stroll under the stars. Plenty of free or low-cost ideas if you think outside the box a little. I'd suggest getting her out, anyway, just to set the impression that you would like to get to really know her. Home dates can be nice, but early on run the risk of sending the message that you only want to get her in bed. Us ladies are always on the alert for that sort of thing, so going out of the house can help set the right tone. See what her plans for the 4th are, but be prepared to offer a different date if she's already tied up. Oh yeah definitely understandable. That’s why I went over to her place with it already in my mind that I wasn’t going to be making any moves on her and to just part with a hug. I’m definitely going to be asking her for dinner this week because finances aren’t a big issue just all my bills are around this time of month so this week wasn’t ideal. I know you’ve already stated that I shouldn’t worry about the communication but the only reason I added that was because in the past I’ve always either texted too much or too little. Too much causing disinterest and too little causing them to think I’m not interested and looking elsewhere. I’ll admit it’s hard for me to find that middle ground where communicating is natural instead of appearing needy or on the other hand, distant. Thanks again for your help.
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