Author SmartDude Posted July 2, 2019 Author Posted July 2, 2019 Forget subliminal or autistic-to-austic communication --- non-verbal cues.. etc etc -- Forget it all -- Why? Because you dont need to read into what is already abundantly clear. She received your message, saw it, ignored it and told you she was 'too busy' to reply. A text reply takes seconds to minutes --- NOBODY is too busy to reply to someone they want to reply to. I think you need to accept that you are looking for hints and cues where they do not exist. She ignored your text, thats all there is to it. We seem to be compatible but maybe its for no reason. If she is autistic I could imagine some pretty funny situations that led to her not responding. She might be sitting in her room, alone, doing something and very involved in it. Remembering a cute guy texted her, she realizes its been two weeks now and decides its too late to text back or respond.
PegNosePete Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 did she even give him her number or does she just throw out random numbers to every guy who asks OP should try the old digit switch trick. When she gives her number, read it back, but "accidentally" get the last 2 digits the wrong way round. If she corrects you, it's a real number, and she's interested. If she doesn't correct you then she's not interested, just walk away and bin the fake number.
littleblackheart Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 We seem to be compatible but maybe its for no reason. If she is autistic I could imagine some pretty funny situations that led to her not responding. SD, you don't know her! You are in fantasy mode. ASDs reply to texts too! You are not helping your case by not looking at this situation rationally - in the absence of clear, unambiguous, tangible proof of mutual interest, the logical conclusion to her not replying to any of your texts (not just the one) is staring you in the face, and it has nothing to do with an imaginary ASD diagnosis. 2
beentheredonethat77 Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 We seem to be compatible but maybe its for no reason. If she is autistic I could imagine some pretty funny situations that led to her not responding. She might be sitting in her room, alone, doing something and very involved in it. Remembering a cute guy texted her, she realizes its been two weeks now and decides its too late to text back or respond. Just too much imagining going on and not enough looking at facts. You could also imagine she freaked out when you asked for her number and gave it to be polite (ive done this) .. or imagine she feels really uncomfortable (awkward even) having to admit she ignored a text to the guys face (the worst feeling). Best to just stick with facts though... she didn't respond and hasn't asked you out when given the chance. I think definitely better to just move on to someone who shows verbal cues of interest. 1
Els Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 She is a store worker being friendly to a customer... for all you know she was smiling so much because she was just told off by her supervisor for not smiling enough, gosh. OP, genuine question, do you go out and talk to people much? Most of us have received similar treatment from good customer service workers before - you should see how flirty the waiters get when I tip them! I can't imagine why anyone would take it to mean that they're attracted to you or want to have sex with you, unless they said or did something REALLY out of the norm. 2
Author SmartDude Posted July 2, 2019 Author Posted July 2, 2019 SD, you don't know her! You are in fantasy mode. ASDs reply to texts too! You are not helping your case by not looking at this situation rationally - in the absence of clear, unambiguous, tangible proof of mutual interest, the logical conclusion to her not replying to any of your texts (not just the one) is staring you in the face, and it has nothing to do with an imaginary ASD diagnosis. Yea but look at what I said last. I am imagining possible scenarios. That means I am using my imagination. So we are not in disagreement. I have 3 other women I can go see at other places. I am just staying open to possibilities.
littleblackheart Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 I am just staying open to possibilities. Good to hear. I hope they are realistic possibilities and are considering you as a possibility themselves 1
smackie9 Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 I worked in the service industry and smiling, being flirty with customers is what we all did...part of the job to keep guys coming back. Sure I handed out my number a few times, because I didn't want the confrontation of rejecting them. I blew them off by saying I was too busy, blah blah blah over the phone. I was young and that is what young girls do. Not proud of it, but it is what it is. 3
littleblackheart Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 (edited) ^^ Yes, I worked the till in my student days at my local supermarket. We used to exchange stories of sleazy guys and their various methods of hitting on us during our breaks. I never handed my number out but still had a regular wait for me with a bunch of flowers and a handful of other creepy stories, and I was only doing my job. Some guys really think the cashier / shop assistant is fair game. There is something unsettling about a guy hitting on you at your place of work - I agree with you, Smackie, you don't always know how to handle it. Edited July 2, 2019 by littleblackheart 1
alphamale Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 I have 3 other women I can go see at other places. I am just staying open to possibilities. always keep your options open SD
lana-banana Posted July 2, 2019 Posted July 2, 2019 Honestly, my guess is she gave you a fake number. It's very common in situations like this. Every bartender I know (male AND female) has a fake number or a shared number they use for these situations; whether it's a real number or fake digits they have memorized, they all do it. A local radio station even has a number they will DM you to sufficiently creepy dudes, and if a guy leaves really creepy messages the DJ will call him back on-air. Whatever the case is she's definitely not interested. Let it go. 4
Author SmartDude Posted July 2, 2019 Author Posted July 2, 2019 Honestly, my guess is she gave you a fake number. It's very common in situations like this. Every bartender I know (male AND female) has a fake number or a shared number they use for these situations; whether it's a real number or fake digits they have memorized, they all do it. A local radio station even has a number they will DM you to sufficiently creepy dudes, and if a guy leaves really creepy messages the DJ will call him back on-air. Whatever the case is she's definitely not interested. Let it go. Ya, but I am not creepy. Most women treat me as though I am smoking hot. Maybe I am and I just don't give myself enough credit. It complicates things.
lana-banana Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 Nobody said you were creepy, it's just that she chose to give you a fake number. It happens. Needless to say a woman who wants to hear from you will give you her real number (and text you back).
alphamale Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 Most women treat me as though I am smoking hot. like what do they do or say to you?
Rayce Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 Honestly, my guess is she gave you a fake number. It's very common in situations like this. Every bartender I know (male AND female) has a fake number or a shared number they use for these situations; whether it's a real number or fake digits they have memorized, they all do it. A local radio station even has a number they will DM you to sufficiently creepy dudes, and if a guy leaves really creepy messages the DJ will call him back on-air. Whatever the case is she's definitely not interested. Let it go. I'm also guilty of this. In my younger days... and I wasn't a bartender... lol... I use to hand out my ex's number to guys who wouldn't leave me alone and insisted on a #
Inspire Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 It is amazing how you are able to imagine all these scenarios yet you don't imagine any in which she isn't interested. Just based on the title of the thread alone speaks volumes. 3
Johnson1 Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 Yes, you're definitely reading too much into her intentions. Her not responding is her way politely brushing you off because she's too friendly and polite to tell you she's not interested. She gave you her number so she wouldn't have to hurt your feelings by saying 'no' on the spot. She put on the happy face when she saw you because she felt bad about leading you on and didn't have the courage to tell you she wasn't interested face to face. Don't bother pursuing it anymore. It'll only end up in the same result.
rightondude Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 man SD no judgement but could it be possible your judgement is clouded by paying for sex for so long? Those pros always "want" it...maybe this woman doesn't? 2
Author SmartDude Posted July 3, 2019 Author Posted July 3, 2019 man SD no judgement but could it be possible your judgement is clouded by paying for sex for so long? Those pros always "want" it...maybe this woman doesn't? No, but I was just waiting for someone to say that.
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