Venn Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 I met a woman in Tinder back in 2017.. at that time she seem interested in me and she even initiated calls.. but I was the one who wasn't that much interested.. around 2 months later she didn't bother chatting me anymore. she didn't have a relationship with a guy in her whole life but she did have some intimate moments with a guy in her life once and wanted to have one... I was feeling like maybe I can give it a shot at her... but a new work happened, I was super busy and we kinda didn't have contact for almost a year. A year later, we talked back again... like old acquiantances, we re introduced ourselves, talked about hows life been going on so far, and other more stuff... later on she again was interested in meeting me and even my parents... in the course of around 3 months we chat, we video call as friends, sometimes I sang a song for her and even planned when we would meet... she even jokingly said about meeting with my parents. fast forward today she tried testing me if I was going to be discouraged when she told me she had sex once with a guy... I said I am okay with it because with my previous exes I never had sex with any of them. After that we kinda got intimate with each other and sent virtual kisses and hugs... and she requesting songs for me every night... all seemed well at one point I did something wrong that I truly regret... she gave me a picture of her and then me commenting about her "chest".. I thought she was okay with me saying stuff like that because she did share about her past, and asking me if I know how to kiss, and asking about french kisses instead she said I was a pervert and rude and immediately blocked me on facebook, I can't call her anymore, and she probably can't ready my messages. After that, I tried calling her on my moms phone and at first answered it and then knowing it was my voice, also blocked my moms phone... I think she really wants to forget me... but what I thought was okay.. was actually not... all that build up and this happens... i'm truly saddened by regret and am really hurt.. I know its my fault for sounding perverted. I was kinda hoping she would contact me after she's not mad or forgets the whole thing... I am so pissed off with myself for commenting such a thing.
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Never comment to a woman you haven't met in person about her body. Generalize comments like you look beautiful are fine. While the comment about her boobs was over the top for her, that wasn't your mistake. Your bigger problem was that you were talking to this woman for 2 freakin' years without ever having met in person. You have to take someone on a date. Let go of her. There was nothing real about this anyway. It was all a big contrivance. Go back on Tinder or some other site. Match with somebody & go meet them, sooner rather then later. Actually kiss the woman. Then you can talk about & possibly have sex. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Why have you never met in person? I agree that you should save any comments about a woman's body for after you meet her and get to know her. However, it doesn't sound like this was going anywhere if you two still had not managed to meet even once in all this time. Forget about her, and next time, don't get invested in someone without having spent together in person. 1
Author Venn Posted June 30, 2019 Author Posted June 30, 2019 well for some reason she called me and acted like nothing happened about me commenting about her body. she wants to meet me after my resignation in my current work... God i don't understand her... but she had a very caring tone
ExpatInItaly Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Again , why have you not met in person already?
schlumpy Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Your bigger problem was that you were talking to this woman for 2 freakin' years without ever having met in person. You have to take someone on a date. I realize I'm probably sounding like my parents but the ability of young people today to be satisfied with Pen-pal relationships is astonishing. 2
smackie9 Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 I don't think this has anything to do with you...it's her. If she was mature, stable adult she would have met you a long time ago. I would be amazed if she did go through with meeting you....don't hold your breath. She's got issues.
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 well for some reason she called me and acted like nothing happened about me commenting about her body. she wants to meet me after my resignation in my current work... God i don't understand her... but she had a very caring tone You can't tell anything from tone. But if she wants to meet, meet sooner rather than later. Do not wait until you figure out what the heck you are doing with your career.
Normm Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 All of this happened in the span of about an hour? She gets pissed off, she blocks you, you try contacting her different ways and you're blocked, and then she calls and acts like nothing happened? Sounds like she just lost her temper. Or she's bipolar. Or both. 1
The Outlaw Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Don't ever assume anyone is going to be OK with any comment you make. When you made that comment, you breached her comfort level. Don't beat yourself up over it, but use it as a learning experience. And it sucks to be blocked, but all you can do now is just move on. Get back on Tinder, Match or whatever dating site you're using an try again. Talk to her for a bit and then try to set up a date and don't wait too long. Good luck.
Inspire Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 Why didn't you meet her already? I can understand not having gone out with her initially if you weren't interested but once you reconnected, you should have made the move to meet her. It would be hard for me to take anyone serious that didn't want to meet in a fraction of the time you two spoke.
Author Venn Posted July 3, 2019 Author Posted July 3, 2019 (edited) now I don't understand this. she keeps on playing her mobile game (which she has been doing for some time now). I was expecting she was going serious with me now but it seems she just kinda ghosted me again. I don't understand her at all. She did mention that she has bad days and such but I don't know if she's totally ditching me or if this is part of an initiation test whether I stay with her or not with her bad mood. She's never had a boyfriend by the way... she did have sex with a man once but never truly had a label with their relationship. If this is how she treats her suitors, then this might be the reason why she never had a boyfriend in the first place. Edited July 3, 2019 by Venn
d0nnivain Posted July 3, 2019 Posted July 3, 2019 . If this is how she treats her suitors, then this might be the reason why she never had a boyfriend in the first place. Exactly. Forget her. Go find a woman who actually wants to meet you & go on a date.
Author Venn Posted July 4, 2019 Author Posted July 4, 2019 Exactly. Forget her. Go find a woman who actually wants to meet you & go on a date. she did want to go on a date with me. she wanted to meet me in person, travel with me on her travels, even wanting to meet my parents at some point... and then this happens. When I call her she says she's super busy with her video games (which she has before we even returned to talking to each other). Then each time I try to message her on facebook, she doesn't even check to see if i have new messages for her (having that "seen" status on the messages). is she actually ghosting me or is she super busy at work?
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