Lishy Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 If you persue a guy and he in turn gets less interested because he has not had to persue you is it too late to turn the situation around? or will his interest have been lost for good? Would not calling him anymore re-spark his interest? Any stories you have about this would be great for us all to read and learn! :bunny:
fusangite Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 Your first mistake is assuming that the reason he has lost interest is because you have done the pursuing. He has become less interested because his image of you has changed for the worse for some reason. I notice that the idea that men enjoy pursuing women has become a very popular myth in recent years. Men pursue women because that is what society in general and women in particular want. But don't confuse that with us actually needing to do the pursuing or enjoying the process Fortunately, depending on what is turning the guy off, there are things that you can do. Whereas women generally determine if a guy is sufficiently attractive to be worth their time when they first meet, you can make multiple "first impressions" on guys. Not to sound overly shallow, but changes in appearance and style are the equivalent of pressing a RESET button on a guy's brain/other brain. So, act like an ad agency and plan a re-launch/re-branding of yourself in a few weeks and see if that buys you a second chance.
Author Lishy Posted September 25, 2005 Author Posted September 25, 2005 hmmmmm thats an idea but how does he see the change?
Curt Posted September 25, 2005 Moderators Posted September 25, 2005 hmmmmm thats an idea but how does he see the change? Talk to him. See how he feels at the present time. It's always going to yield more information than just waiting by and guessing. Curt
Author Lishy Posted September 25, 2005 Author Posted September 25, 2005 I already text him and told him i missed his cuddles and if he wants someting less casual to let me know - That was a week ago and i still havnt had a reply
Nyasa Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 Hey Lishy, been there. You know what I found through things like that and with the current guy, the more you back off, the more they become interested. It's a game, men seem to have that desire to hunt and to be the the one in control of the outcome. As much as I hate to admit this b/c I have been conditioned to think otherwise, it's part of a man that continues on and on. I have confused all this and have put myself in dumb situations b/c of this. I found that you can (through advice here and experience in my more confident days) that you can give that to them that illusion of the hunt and that they choose the outcome w/o giving up your pride. Give them just enough to keep them satisfied and keep them coming back without having to sacrifice your self-respect. You texted him something sweet, ball is in his court, now wait for him to come to you. IF he doesn't move on, if you really think he is worth it (which I am not sure you do, I think your ego was bruished and he is winning the game and you don't like it) then follow fusangite's advice, get his attention, play back.
Author Lishy Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 Nyasa i was so pleased to see your reply you seem to understand just where i am coming from! I think you are right that its my ego but yet i STILL cant get him out of my head. I am thinking about him all trought the day and night!!!!!! Eeeeeeeks I think i screwed it up by giving him too much and i took any chase away from him as i am sure he is a man who likes the chase. I cant help but wonder tho if he will miss me and try to bump into me as he only lives around the corner. I guess this is just a fantasy cos i am sure if he liked me he would have made an effort to let me know! Wish me luck getting over this guy lol
SuperMonk Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 All I know is that if a guy is single and interested in dating you, what you do doesn't matter. Stop asking too many questions in one post.
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