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Britney25 Established Member

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be careful B25....they found that college girl dead in Salt Lake City today. who knows wtf she was doing on the internet

 

Now you're just being stupid with me

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If a guy behaved like this before meeting, I would find it creepy and cancel everything with him. I wouldn't be flattered.

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It's pretty lame. I think it means he has no game whatsoever and has a chance with a girl above his level. He's repeating the same boring, bland statement every day in a form of faux-flattery. At this point you should be annoyed that he doesn't think it take more mentally to connect with you and seriously worried that he is boring AF. He sounds like he has never dated much or never lasts that long with anyone he is dating.

 

I would add that he maybe is the type that believes this vague, nothing statement on a daily basis is what he "needs' to do to stay in the game with you, yet never can manage any real or fun little snippet. Wrap your head around that! Guessing it's a foreshadowing of his whole vibe.

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Britney25 Established Member

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It's pretty lame. I think it means he has no game whatsoever and has a chance with a girl above his level. He's repeating the same boring, bland statement every day in a form of faux-flattery. At this point you should be annoyed that he doesn't think it take more mentally to connect with you and seriously worried that he is boring AF. He sounds like he has never dated much or never lasts that long with anyone he is dating.

 

Yes but maybe he is saving the convo for in person?

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Yes but maybe he is saving the convo for in person?
That would actually be a good thing,...but he is screwing it up with the "Thinking of you" text everyday.
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Now you're just being stupid with me

 

no, i'm just telling you to be careful when meeting people off the internet

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be careful B25....they found that college girl dead in Salt Lake City today. who knows wtf she was doing on the internet

 

Actually, they do know what she was doing on the Internet. She was into the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby thing. :(

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Actually, they do know what she was doing on the Internet. She was into the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby thing. :(

 

wtf???????

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Could also mean he is a player. In my experience, players tend to do this type of generic sweet talk love bombing. It works on a lot of women in creating false sense of emotional connection. This is especially true if he is very good looking and confident. He could be grooming you for fast sex.

 

 

Or he could be socially awkward, needy and insecure.

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Yep exactly why I don't get excited about anyone until I interact with them in person.

 

Cautiously optimistic is the best policy.

 

I would be wary of someone pouring it on so thick that quick. You haven't done anything yet to earn him thinking about you all the time. Usually a combo of lust and neediness.

 

I had one girl telling me how proud she was of me, how amazing I am, etc. and we've never even met! I mean, yeah, I know I'm a good person. But she doesn't and for all she knows I could be a nut job. It just makes you think the person is lusting or creating a fantasy of you in their mind you'll never be able to live up to.

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@Britney.....ehhhh I'd be surprised if he had much of interest or value to say in person. Agree with Eternal that it's a false sense of giving a connection that is vague and means almost nothing.

 

It is effort so one should be wondering if a guy puts effort in but it is just generic and basic, why? I think it's usually because they are boring or you are on a rotation where they cast a wide net and don't "tailor" the messages to YOU, i.e. it's not about you really it's about getting a "girl" lined up basically.

 

My friend gets a snap almost every day from this great looking guy that she met over a year ago in person out. The snaps are hilarious--because they are completely generic and make you think he is interested but in reality say almost nothing of significance or personalization. I'm 99% sure he sends 5-10 girls the same generic snap every day--that while some of them might think it's a "connection" is really about himself and trying to keep a handful of girls "on the hook" with actually avoiding any real connection. The texts messages between them are boring AF. He doesn't know this but the only reason she hasn't blocked him is because we die laughing at his snaps. It's pure entertainment :)

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Britney25 Established Member

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@Britney.....ehhhh I'd be surprised if he had much of interest or value to say in person. Agree with Eternal that it's a false sense of giving a connection that is vague and means almost nothing.

 

It is effort so one should be wondering if a guy puts effort in but it is just generic and basic, why? I think it's usually because they are boring or you are on a rotation where they cast a wide net and don't "tailor" the messages to YOU, i.e. it's not about you really it's about getting a "girl" lined up basically.

 

My friend gets a snap almost every day from this great looking guy that she met over a year ago in person out. The snaps are hilarious--because they are completely generic and make you think he is interested but in reality say almost nothing of significance or personalization. I'm 99% sure he sends 5-10 girls the same generic snap every day--that while some of them might think it's a "connection" is really about himself and trying to keep a handful of girls "on the hook" with actually avoiding any real connection. The texts messages between them are boring AF. He doesn't know this but the only reason she hasn't blocked him is because we die laughing at his snaps. It's pure entertainment :)

 

 

All good and everything but this guy asked me out...its not like he is just texting me and not wanting to meet. Hes not even asking for selfies or other photos.

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Could also mean he is a player. In my experience, players tend to do this type of generic sweet talk love bombing. It works on a lot of women in creating false sense of emotional connection. This is especially true if he is very good looking and confident. He could be grooming you for fast sex.

 

 

Or he could be socially awkward, needy and insecure.

 

 

Hmm I had players message me before and not pouring it on this thick and guess what at the end they wanted just a hook up from me so I'm confused

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Britney25 Established Member

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Honestly I'm really tired of the dating scene....all I get is men who are obsessed probably like this guy, and men who want to hook up. Honestly is this what it comes down to? I'm at a point where I'm honestly scared of accepting a date with a Man I might like because of thinking they only want a hook up. No I'm not on a dating site, I dont believe in those dating sites. I just had a other guy who I've been talking to on instagram message me today asking if we should get together to have sex. Wow! Thanks for being honest and not wasting my time at least.

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Oh I'm not saying your situation is exactly like my friend's 100%. (which in her case he has wanted to meet also and she met him at a bar to begin with).

 

I'm basically saying the GENERIC nature of his messages should be a yellow flag to you. If I were in your shoes, I'd be bored out of my mind with those. The fact that he has done virtually the same thing days in a row with no real traction or change to what he messages you IS boring, signals what is likely to come as far as how interesting he is. Of course I could be wrong but this is what I'd be leaning toward guessing.

 

He could also be a somewhat good looking or a good looking player or wanna player who actually has no real personality (which is the gist of what I was trying to say about my friend's situation). If you are attracted to him physically you might let it slide or not notice until you are into something with him. As you want to settle into a relationship at this point in your life, I can see that happening. I would just say, you should never have the reason that you are frustrated or annoyed by things in life be the reason that you are attaching to another person--the reason has to be better and more compelling than this, as in the person is drawing you toward them as a stand alone thing, not cause you are wanting to escape something else. Good luck

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Honestly I'm really tired of the dating scene....all I get is men who are obsessed probably like this guy, and men who want to hook up. Honestly is this what it comes down to? I'm at a point where I'm honestly scared of accepting a date with a Man I might like because of thinking they only want a hook up. No I'm not on a dating site, I dont believe in those dating sites. I just had a other guy who I've been talking to on instagram message me today asking if we should get together to have sex. Wow! Thanks for being honest and not wasting my time at least.

 

This is what kicks a lot of women’s butts about dating is the fear that the guy they like may be the wrong guy....well guess what? He just might be. There. No need to fear it.

 

I get it. It sucks. You like someone. Your hopes are up. And then boom he shows you he is not the one. And it can be deflating.

 

But part of what makes dating so uninspiring is your own expectations a lot of the time.

 

So op let me help you out

 

Majority of the men you meet that your attractive to more than likely wont be the one for you. But you only need one. If you keep dating you will find a guy that is right for you. But know that your going to meet those who are not the one along the way.

 

So if you expect it but at the same time still believe you will eventually find the right guy for you then you won’t feel as exasperated I think and just try to enjoy/make do with the inevitable journey

 

So get to know him or other guys, take a chance, if he is wrong for you get rid of him sooner rather than later, and the right guy will stick

 

Good luck

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Britney25 Established Member

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This is what kicks a lot of women’s butts about dating is the fear that the guy they like may be the wrong guy....well guess what? He just might be. There. No need to fear it.

 

I get it. It sucks. You like someone. Your hopes are up. And then boom he shows you he is not the one. And it can be deflating.

 

But part of what makes dating so uninspiring is your own expectations a lot of the time.

 

So op let me help you out

 

Majority of the men you meet that your attractive to more than likely wont be the one for you. But you only need one. If you keep dating you will find a guy that is right for you. But know that your going to meet those who are not the one along the way.

 

So if you expect it but at the same time still believe you will eventually find the right guy for you then you won’t feel as exasperated I think and just try to enjoy/make do with the inevitable journey

 

So get to know him or other guys, take a chance, if he is wrong for you get rid of him sooner rather than later, and the right guy will stick

 

Good luck

 

 

Thank you for your advice!!!!

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I do understand what you mean. I'm in a similar situation. The guy I'm in touch with is a minimalist when it comes to conversation. In fact, I pretty much lost interest before because of that but he came back. He seems a nice guy just does not seem to know what to say.

 

I think you have to be careful in this situation. You already know what to do - meet in a public place, make sure he does not follow you home/to your car, know your address, last name, where you work, etc.

 

For me, the most striking part is that this text convo is boring! Has your guy or the guy I'm in touch with got anything to say? I'm going to chat with him this weekend to find out, or I'm going to give up. He has always been sweet but limited. Only one way to find out if it is a texting problem or personality problem!

 

One thing I would say is if he carries on with this 'love bombing' especially if you tell him not to, then please do not meet him. A guy who cannot respond appropriately to your feelings could be dangerous.

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He may not mean anything by it, but it's a bit too much. Once every now and then is fine, but the constant need to text the same thing relentlessly is pushing it. Just wait until you meet him face to face and then see how it goes.

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He may not mean anything by it, but it's a bit too much. Once every now and then is fine, but the constant need to text the same thing relentlessly is pushing it. Just wait until you meet him face to face and then see how it goes.

 

im sure he's very nerdy or lacks social skills

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Britney25 Established Member

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I do understand what you mean. I'm in a similar situation. The guy I'm in touch with is a minimalist when it comes to conversation. In fact, I pretty much lost interest before because of that but he came back. He seems a nice guy just does not seem to know what to say.

 

I think you have to be careful in this situation. You already know what to do - meet in a public place, make sure he does not follow you home/to your car, know your address, last name, where you work, etc.

 

For me, the most striking part is that this text convo is boring! Has your guy or the guy I'm in touch with got anything to say? I'm going to chat with him this weekend to find out, or I'm going to give up. He has always been sweet but limited. Only one way to find out if it is a texting problem or personality problem!

 

One thing I would say is if he carries on with this 'love bombing' especially if you tell him not to, then please do not meet him. A guy who cannot respond appropriately to your feelings could be dangerous.

 

So far no texts from him today and we are maybe going to meet tomorrow lol at this point I'm thinking I'm going to reschedule this meeting with him if he texts and see how he reacts and if he helps messaging me the same thing.

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Britney25 Established Member

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He may not mean anything by it, but it's a bit too much. Once every now and then is fine, but the constant need to text the same thing relentlessly is pushing it. Just wait until you meet him face to face and then see how it goes.

 

Yes I'm wondering if our convo will be how amazing and gorgeous I am :rolleyes:

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So far no texts from him today and we are maybe going to meet tomorrow lol at this point I'm thinking I'm going to reschedule this meeting with him if he texts and see how he reacts and if he helps messaging me the same thing.

 

you should reschedule this meeting for never

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some dudes just suck at conversation. Are you at least attracted to him? What does he do in life?

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some dudes just suck at conversation. Are you at least attracted to him? What does he do in life?

 

 

Yes he's cute. He is a local show host.

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