Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Ok what does he mean when he keeps texting me "Was thinking about you" every day before we even met. We are meeting on Monday, but are these text messages normal or should I be worried?
Redhead14 Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Ok what does he mean when he keeps texting me "Was thinking about you" every day before we even met. We are meeting on Monday, but are these text messages normal or should I be worried? It's a little odd. Seems a little overzealous to me. Make sure you meet him in a public place. Do not let him pick you up. Meet him some place with your own car. Don't get into his car. Say goodbye and leave after him if you can. You don't want to give any one you meet for the first time the opportunity to follow you home.
alphamale Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Ok what does he mean when he keeps texting me "Was thinking about you" every day before we even met. We are meeting on Monday, but are these text messages normal or should I be worried? be worried, very worried B25...he apparently has very little experience with the ladies 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 be worried, very worried B25...he apparently has very little experience with the ladies Really? I mean he of course first says hi how are you and then after I answer says was thinking about you and that's it, but he does it every day once a day after I agreed to meet him.
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 Sounds like he likes you...... Yes he did tell me that I'm very beautiful
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 It's a little odd. Seems a little overzealous to me. Make sure you meet him in a public place. Do not let him pick you up. Meet him some place with your own car. Don't get into his car. Say goodbye and leave after him if you can. You don't want to give any one you meet for the first time the opportunity to follow you home. Of course I would never meet in a private place. I didnt meet him from a dating app , cuz I dont do that. He messaged me on Instagram
Kitty Tantrum Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 How many days are we talking about? More than once or twice and I would probably be like "stop it or I'm changing my mind." If he reacts poorly to that, meeting called off - and he gets a lecture about coming on way too strong before even meeting in person and how that scares women away. Yes, I have done this. No, it doesn't go over well initially - but I like to imagine I did actually help one or two of them figure out what they were doing wrong and how to recalibrate. A lot of men don't seem to have any idea that this behavior is a lot less flattering than it is UNNERVING. 1
PRW Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 This isn't complicated. He is very insecure/needy. He is a afraid you are going to "forget" about him if he doesn't constantly remind you that he still exists. He could also be obsessive... ...Or both of the above at the same time since they are kind of related and similar in how they are seen. 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 How many days are we talking about? More than once or twice and I would probably be like "stop it or I'm changing my mind." If he reacts poorly to that, meeting called off - and he gets a lecture about coming on way too strong before even meeting in person and how that scares women away. Yes, I have done this. No, it doesn't go over well initially - but I like to imagine I did actually help one or two of them figure out what they were doing wrong and how to recalibrate. A lot of men don't seem to have any idea that this behavior is a lot less flattering than it is UNNERVING. I would say 2 times so far
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 This isn't complicated. He is very insecure/needy. He is a afraid you are going to "forget" about him if he doesn't constantly remind you that he still exists. He could also be obsessive... ...Or both of the above at the same time since they are kind of related and similar in how they are seen. I had a feeling that's what it was. Would you say this is a red flag? I totally dont want a sick obsessive man or a very insecure guy either. Hes 35 btw.
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 Oh and he apologized for maybe texting me too much, he says he wants to check in everyday before meeting.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Really? I mean he of course first says hi how are you and then after I answer says was thinking about you and that's it, but he does it every day once a day after I agreed to meet him. I think he just wants to stay in contact with you to let you know he's interested and just doesn't know what to say other than that. 1
PRW Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 I had a feeling that's what it was. Would you say this is a red flag? I totally dont want a sick obsessive man or a very insecure guy either. Hes 35 btw.Of course it is a red flag. It doesn't make him dangerous, but it is really annoying. It usually means they guy doesn't have the leadership and relationship skills to navigate a relationship. It is a catch-22, the guy needs the practice to get better at it, but the condition prevents him from doing anything that would give him the practice. Age doesn't matter. 20's & 30's act like that due to how many were raised without a father in the house to learn from, and have a lack of experience. The middle aged guys in their 40's and 50's do the same thing because they are so out of practice and culturally out of touch because they've just got divorced from a marriage they have been in for the last 20+ years and don't have a clue what they are doing. 1
alphamale Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 he says he wants to check in everyday before meeting. wtf? who does that?
kendahke Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Oh and he apologized for maybe texting me too much, he says he wants to check in everyday before meeting. There are women who post on this site who would welcome this level of interest before meeting. There are other women here for whom this is anathema. No one knows what his motivation could possibly be--he may be inexperienced or he may be really taken by the idea of you. If it's too much contact for you, speak up--he may have heard that interested women like it when you maintain contact before meeting. If you feel otherwise, let him know so he doesn't continue putting the wrong foot forward. 2
TheFinalWord Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 He's insecure and knows if you're attractive, you're getting bombarded with messages. He wants to make sure you don't forget about him, so he's trying to create an emotional connection/commitment. Be wary because you two haven't met yet. You may have zero chemistry in real life... 2
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Yea it’s annoying. Could be inexperienced, could be fake love bombing, could be genuine...time will tell as you get to know him. I wouldn’t hold it against him...yet. See what happens when you meet him and then report how you feel about him. Meet him at a public place though lol. 3
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 Yea it’s annoying. Could be inexperienced, could be fake love bombing, could be genuine...time will tell as you get to know him. I wouldn’t hold it against him...yet. See what happens when you meet him and then report how you feel about him. Meet him at a public place though lol. Plus everytime he sees my post he has to message me to say how beautiful and amazing I am. I seriously dont know how many times I can say thank you already to him lol
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 He's insecure and knows if you're attractive, you're getting bombarded with messages. He wants to make sure you don't forget about him, so he's trying to create an emotional connection/commitment. Be wary because you two haven't met yet. You may have zero chemistry in real life... Yep exactly why I don't get excited about anyone until I interact with them in person. 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 There are women who post on this site who would welcome this level of interest before meeting. There are other women here for whom this is anathema. No one knows what his motivation could possibly be--he may be inexperienced or he may be really taken by the idea of you. If it's too much contact for you, speak up--he may have heard that interested women like it when you maintain contact before meeting. If you feel otherwise, let him know so he doesn't continue putting the wrong foot forward. I spoke with many Men before and non have kept on texting me "thinking about you" everyday when we haven't even interacted face to face yet, so I am flattered but also cautions with his attention.
emeraldgreen Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 wtf? who does that? Someone who can only get a date by sliding into DMs.
Author Britney25 Posted June 28, 2019 Author Posted June 28, 2019 Someone who can only get a date by sliding into DMs. Oh come on, there's nothing wrong with messaging someone who you think is attractive.
emeraldgreen Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Oh come on, there's nothing wrong with messaging someone who you think is attractive. Maybe on it's own, but this guy has built quite the fascination over you and is scared as **** you'll break his wittle heart and find someone else.
alphamale Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Oh come on, there's nothing wrong with messaging someone who you think is attractive. be careful B25....they found that college girl dead in Salt Lake City today. who knows wtf she was doing on the internet 1
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