snailz Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 hi all i met this lad last week and he seemed really nice so i went out for a drink with him and decided he wasnt really what i was looking for. i told him this and that i enjoyed his company and would like to be friends but nothing more. The problem is- the next day he rang me and told me he had taken the week off work because he likes me and wants to spend the week with me, i told him that was silly. since then he keeps turning up at my house, buying me stuff- which i never accept, when i go out he turns up and watches me all night, if i leave he follows me. Now ive found out that he's actually left his job and started working near my house- all this has happened in just over a week, im really scared and told him to stay away from me, but he told me he wouldnt because he's in love with me and that one day i'll be in love with him. i dont know what to do because he constantly txt's me and hangs around the end of my road. He's also started posting letters through my door- today i got 2, this is the final straw for me, i txt him and told him to stay away from me, and even being friends is totally out of the question.i know this all sounds like a teenage crush or something but he's 23 and should be past all that stuff. what can i do to make him go away??? please help.
AnHonestGuy Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 If this is continuous, get a UK version of a restraning order. Enough is enough and living in fear of waking up the next day and seeing him stuff himself through the mail-slot just to lap at your feet is not a good thing. You have done all you can. You've said "no." and "Not friends". Time to get a clue!
fusangite Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 Treat this seriously. I recommend that you visit a lawyer on Monday and begin exploring your options for dealing with this guy. Depending on where you live, it may or may not be too early to talk to the police. Given this crazy, out of proportion behaviour, you should probably let your friends and co-workers know what has happened in case he approaches them.
Tankgirl Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I agree with fusangite - treat this seriously. Let ALL your friends know of him, and let people know where you will be if you go out nites. Got any big guy friends that could maybe "chat' with him and tell him to back off? If not consider the cops or restraining order - dont let it get more out of hand!
Author snailz Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 thankyou for your replies. ive made it clear to him that he should no longer contact me and since then ive not heard from him so hopefully he got the message. thanks again.
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