loversquarrel Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 It's not that the joke was bad, she probably didn't think it was funny, which also isn't bad. I don't think its wise to send something like that in a budding relationship as it shows immaturity. Next time choose a better type of joke, or do a joke with a more serious romantic card as well. I dont know your dynamic but if she is of the more mature type then you need to match that and a crude image of a man's ass is not that.
Versacehottie Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Yeah agree it was an immature joke. If you wanted to be flirtatious, you've got to think or know what a woman usually finds sexy. That starts in the mind for most of them. You would have gotten farther IMO with sexy with her, if you had given her a compliment or a slightly romantic type observation about her that pushed the envelope a bit (keeping in mind that she is shy and you are not realllllly dating).
Author elfamale Posted July 22, 2019 Author Posted July 22, 2019 Update: So this girl and I have been messaging for a while since her birthday, something’s cropped up at home and she was away for a couple of weeks. Then she gave me a voucher for a free box of a meal kit delivery service which she knew I like (worth a whole week’s meals), and cheekily said I should cook at least one meal for her. Not believing my luck, I clarified with her in person again, that if she wanted me to cook her a meal from that box, it’ll have to be within a few days of that box being delivered, which neither of us are free. Or I could just cook her a meal myself another time, and she said sure, just let her know when. Am I winning?? 1
Bobbyb82 Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 Update: So this girl and I have been messaging for a while since her birthday, something’s cropped up at home and she was away for a couple of weeks. Then she gave me a voucher for a free box of a meal kit delivery service which she knew I like (worth a whole week’s meals), and cheekily said I should cook at least one meal for her. Not believing my luck, I clarified with her in person again, that if she wanted me to cook her a meal from that box, it’ll have to be within a few days of that box being delivered, which neither of us are free. Or I could just cook her a meal myself another time, and she said sure, just let her know when. Am I winning?? Ask her when she's free, and then ask her to come enjoy the meal on that day.... You'll know if you're winning, in timeout, or wasted the past few months based off her response.
d0nnivain Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 Seems like you are on the right track. Set up a date & cook her a meal, whether from that box or the grocery store. The important part is that you will be dining together.
Author elfamale Posted July 22, 2019 Author Posted July 22, 2019 Ask her when she's free, and then ask her to come enjoy the meal on that day.... You'll know if you're winning, in timeout, or wasted the past few months based off her response. Yup, she’s already told me when she’s free or travelling for work. I just haven’t worked out my schedule yet.
Versacehottie Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 This is great! It's a basically open invite. Don't take it literally--ie it doesn't have to be a meal from that delivery service, or even meal that you cook at your place--it can morph into a meal anytime, anywhere. She's opened the door; all you need to do is follow through. I'd say use the momentum and do something as soon as possible. Sometimes discussing the plans becomes a fun, flirtatious thing as I'm imagining it could in this situation. I'd suggest running with that! Good luck
Marc878 Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 If you fix her dinner. Don't bake a butt cake for desert.
preraph Posted July 22, 2019 Posted July 22, 2019 If you don't kiss her soon, you're just going to end up her chef. Just sayin'. She probably doesn't know exactly what you are wanting. Don't TALK about it. Just try this. When you cook for her and she comes to your house or wherever you cook, when you let her in the door, kiss her once quickly on the mouth. But do not then try to sleep with her later (since she's at your house) unless she initiates more touching or kissing. If she doesn't have any objections to the mouth kiss upon arrival, kiss her again when she leaves. Maybe better that time.
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