max3732 Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 I'm going to a Match.com bowling event that's supposed to have an equal number of men and women and was wondering if anyone has any tips about how to approach women there and get to know them. One thing is I haven't gone bowling is over 10 years and never really learned how to do it so I'm sure most of the guys there will be better bowlers than me. Obviously my concern is meeting women and not bowling so I'm just going to laugh off my bad shots and try and focus on the women. They also have drinks and snacks included. What are some good conversation topics? What should I wear? I'm already getting nervous.
mortensorchid Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 I'm not sure how you would go about this, since it's not exactly a MeetUp, but everyone there presumably is also a Match user. I would approach others (if I am going to approach others) as I would at any party or gathering. If you're a bad bowler? I'm sure others are as well, you might have a good laugh about it.
rightondude Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 This sounds awesome; wish they'd do one in my area. This is a great idea for OLD apps; get every subscriber together. Although it might be awkward if people who have gone out before and it didn't work both showed up. Anyway... Go dressy casual, maybe polo and shorts. Or my go to now is rolled up sleeve button up shirt and shorts (NOTE: NOT CARGO SHORTS). Wows `em every time. If any guy there is an "awesome bowler" I doubt it will impress the ladies much, assuming they are younger. Just go with your plan to be funny. I guess you could go ahead of time and try to bowl a game or two just to work some kinks out. My technique is to use a heavy ball and just sling the hell out of it towards the middle in a diagonal line, and that keeps me in the high 100's. That's impressive enough. Conversation topics: so you from around here? What kinda stuff do you do for fun? Have you been to (new place around town) yet?
bluesfan Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 Never been to these events but if it's like the website experience I wouldn't expect much. Probably men outnumber women 6 to 1 there and probably a lot of older men there too creeping out. How many even show up for these things women wise? If it's my area within a 50 mile radius I wouldn't expect more than a couple decent women to show up if at that. With a 50 miles radius the population is about 1.2 million in my area and active users within my age range I'm looking for of 24 to 41 maybe about 25 decent looking normal women who are active regularly on the site. Rest look like fake profiles, users not regularly active or are ugly. And how many will actually go to that event? Not a lot of women in my region use match.
smackie9 Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 If I were you I would be goofy/cheeky and make fun of myself on how crappy I can bowl...make the ladies laugh. In these types of events you need to peacock (draw attention to yourself) to get the ladies to notice you. You only need one or even two to have an interest in you so if you highlight yourself they will want to be around you. You make it fun, that takes away the tension, makes you approachable. Be cheeky with some one off comments, smile, confident, friendly, get their name and remember it.
alphamale Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 What are some good conversation topics? What should I wear? I'm already getting nervous. well definitely don't bring up US-Iran relations right now. keep it light, talk about movies or tv or what you do for a living. etc... I know its only bowling but try to dress up as much as you can, maybe a white shirt, dark pants and nice shoes
Author max3732 Posted June 29, 2019 Author Posted June 29, 2019 While I didn't meet anyone I liked I was extremely happy with how I did at the event and thought it was a lot of fun. The main problem was only 4 women showed up with something like 11 men! It's supposed to be equal numbers of both. Of the 4 that were there I wasn't romantically interested in any of them. That being said, it was a rare opportunity for me to hang out with single people around my age again and I was determined to make the most of it. When they asked for volunteers to be team captains I jumped right in and they also asked for volunteers for a game to get to know each other and I jumped in with that. I was telling jokes and think I succeeded in getting the women (and men) to laugh and have fun. There was only 1 other guy that seemed to be trying to enjoy the time there. Kind of like when I went to another sports singles event most of the guys looked like they were just going through the motions. When they had us just walk around and mingle it was a bit awkward with a 3-1 ratio of guys all trying to approach the women. If it had been a 50/50 ratio and if there was someone there I was interested in I think it would have been a great success. Does anyone know if there are more group singles events besides the ones that Match does? It's a lot more fun to actually meet people than sending these unanswered messages with OLD 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 Good for you, Max! Have you tried Meetup?
preraph Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 While waiting for everyone to arrive, introduce yourself to everyone (not just the women) there and just be social and smiling and conversational so you are approachable. As they come in (get there early a little), greet them and introduce yourself and then help them introduce around whoever else is there, the ones whose names you remember. You'll be making yourself the leader, the go-to guy people are comfortable with.
alphamale Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 You'll be making yourself the leader, the go-to guy people are comfortable with. the leader is the organizer or host of the event, that is what you wanna be
bluesfan Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 While I didn't meet anyone I liked I was extremely happy with how I did at the event and thought it was a lot of fun. The main problem was only 4 women showed up with something like 11 men! It's supposed to be equal numbers of both. Of the 4 that were there I wasn't romantically interested in any of them. That being said, it was a rare opportunity for me to hang out with single people around my age again and I was determined to make the most of it. When they asked for volunteers to be team captains I jumped right in and they also asked for volunteers for a game to get to know each other and I jumped in with that. I was telling jokes and think I succeeded in getting the women (and men) to laugh and have fun. There was only 1 other guy that seemed to be trying to enjoy the time there. Kind of like when I went to another sports singles event most of the guys looked like they were just going through the motions. When they had us just walk around and mingle it was a bit awkward with a 3-1 ratio of guys all trying to approach the women. If it had been a 50/50 ratio and if there was someone there I was interested in I think it would have been a great success. Does anyone know if there are more group singles events besides the ones that Match does? It's a lot more fun to actually meet people than sending these unanswered messages with OLD Wow. That's what I about figured would show up. I'm actually shocked that 15 people showed up for this event. Figured it would be 12 the max. What did the 4 women look like? Unless it's somewhere like NYC I would think these things are a waste of time.
alphamale Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 match.com real world events are just as lame as their OLD
bluesfan Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 match.com real world events are just as lame as their OLD I agree. I mean bowling lol. Is this for 11 year olds birthday party.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 Bowling can be fun! Lots of opportunity to talk to people, and then "escape" when it's your turn if you want to start talking to someone else lol. 1
alphamale Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 I agree. I mean bowling lol. Is this for 11 year olds birthday party. most women don't even like bowling
healing light Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 Aw, I like bowling. I bowl the ideal weight of an anorexic, though, so I sometimes ask for bumpers. They're pretty inconspicuous these days, not the big old blue things that announce to everyone lanes over. Haha! Glad you had fun but pretty surprised that the ratio of women was that lopsided. I wonder if there were a lot of no shows or if the organizers just allowed something like that to happen.
alphamale Posted June 29, 2019 Posted June 29, 2019 Glad you had fun but pretty surprised that the ratio of women was that lopsided. I wonder if there were a lot of no shows or if the organizers just allowed something like that to happen. for these match.com live events one must pay up front
Author max3732 Posted June 30, 2019 Author Posted June 30, 2019 Wow. That's what I about figured would show up. I'm actually shocked that 15 people showed up for this event. Figured it would be 12 the max. What did the 4 women look like? Unless it's somewhere like NYC I would think these things are a waste of time. Well a few people brought friends and one of the women was someone who was "just friends" with one of the guys. As for the 4 women. One was Asian and skinny, one was in great shape and Hispanic who wore next to nothing, one was a bit on the tall side, and the other was on the short side that I found the cutest of the bunch, but still not what I'm looking for. The one who wore next to nothing was the most flirty of the bunch, Asian one was rather reserved and the other 2 were in the middle. Why do you say these are a waste of time if it's not in NYC? The next events are happy hour and speed dating. I did speed dating years ago and it was good practice, but again didn't meet anyone in the demographic I want and I get pretty nervous only having a few minutes across the table from someone. I felt much more natural in this kind of environment.
Author max3732 Posted June 30, 2019 Author Posted June 30, 2019 Aw, I like bowling. I bowl the ideal weight of an anorexic, though, so I sometimes ask for bumpers. They're pretty inconspicuous these days, not the big old blue things that announce to everyone lanes over. Haha! Glad you had fun but pretty surprised that the ratio of women was that lopsided. I wonder if there were a lot of no shows or if the organizers just allowed something like that to happen. I was pretty surprised too. My last active event was kayaking and there were 3 women no shows. There was another match event I had signed up for years ago that was cancelled due to lack of women signing up.
preraph Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Many years ago I went to a meet-up with a child-free group and the bowling one was the only one I really enjoyed. The group had more than one kind of fatal flaw. There was a guy there who had a lot of problems to the point where I'm sure he'd never had a date. The men's team purposely threw the ball so it would go in the gutter so they can make this guy feel like a winner. then on the next meet up with the same group where it was just at a person's house it was much worse and they were trying to pressure women into going out with this guy. A lot of people there really were just there to hang out with people and be friends not to try to date or hookup. A lot of them were already married and a lot of them were lesbians, but these guys kept trying to make it into a pair up everybody situation and just made it uncomfortable for all. Still I do think bowling is a fun group thing to do.
bluesfan Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Well a few people brought friends and one of the women was someone who was "just friends" with one of the guys. As for the 4 women. One was Asian and skinny, one was in great shape and Hispanic who wore next to nothing, one was a bit on the tall side, and the other was on the short side that I found the cutest of the bunch, but still not what I'm looking for. The one who wore next to nothing was the most flirty of the bunch, Asian one was rather reserved and the other 2 were in the middle. Why do you say these are a waste of time if it's not in NYC? The next events are happy hour and speed dating. I did speed dating years ago and it was good practice, but again didn't meet anyone in the demographic I want and I get pretty nervous only having a few minutes across the table from someone. I felt much more natural in this kind of environment. So one was slutty? So really narrows it down to even less women. This Asian chick, did she look like a Moranbong girl? I mean if she was pretty I would have been hitting on the Asian chick like crazy!!!!! Especially being reserved and shy. You should have hit her up.
Author max3732 Posted June 30, 2019 Author Posted June 30, 2019 Many years ago I went to a meet-up with a child-free group and the bowling one was the only one I really enjoyed. The group had more than one kind of fatal flaw. There was a guy there who had a lot of problems to the point where I'm sure he'd never had a date. The men's team purposely threw the ball so it would go in the gutter so they can make this guy feel like a winner. then on the next meet up with the same group where it was just at a person's house it was much worse and they were trying to pressure women into going out with this guy. A lot of people there really were just there to hang out with people and be friends not to try to date or hookup. A lot of them were already married and a lot of them were lesbians, but these guys kept trying to make it into a pair up everybody situation and just made it uncomfortable for all. Still I do think bowling is a fun group thing to do. Guess you never know what kind of people will be in these groups. In all these singles events designed to meet someone I've never understood why some guys act like they're just hanging out with their buddies and not focusing on the women. There was one guy at the bowling event when he was talking about himself he said told everyone he has no friends or social life and wouldn't talk to anyone. I felt sorry for him and talked to him a bit, but was really trying to gain experience talking to women. 1
bluesfan Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Guess you never know what kind of people will be in these groups. In all these singles events designed to meet someone I've never understood why some guys act like they're just hanging out with their buddies and not focusing on the women. There was one guy at the bowling event when he was talking about himself he said told everyone he has no friends or social life and wouldn't talk to anyone. I felt sorry for him and talked to him a bit, but was really trying to gain experience talking to women. Otherwise, did he look and talk like a typical person or was he like Ralph from the Simpsons?
Author max3732 Posted June 30, 2019 Author Posted June 30, 2019 So one was slutty? So really narrows it down to even less women. This Asian chick, did she look like a Moranbong girl? I mean if she was pretty I would have been hitting on the Asian chick like crazy!!!!! Especially being reserved and shy. You should have hit her up. Guess I was trying to be more polite than saying she was slutty, but that sounds pretty accurate. They gave us name tags and she didn't have much clothing to put it on. When I talked to her she got really close to me and I can't say I wasn't tempted since it's been about 10 years since my last kiss, but that's not the kind of person I want to date. The Asian one was pretty and we had some things in common, but I just didn't care much for her personality. She hardly smiled the whole time. The other ones would giggle or make funny comments and she was so serious and quiet the whole time. Talking to her was like pulling teeth.
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