smackie9 Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 IMO your BF is being pretty gullible. That would be enough grounds to kick him to the curb. It goes to show you he has no trust in you....who needs that kind of bs?
Author SunFeel Posted June 26, 2019 Author Posted June 26, 2019 What an ingrate! He's selfish in the extreme. You aren't his savior or his mother--you're not supposed to be. He's grown, not a child. You don't owe him a financial solution because his finances are trash behind the decisions he's made. He didn't offer you one, did he? You have to look out for your own financial best interests, not his. That's his heavy lift. If he needs more money, he needs to get another job or get a bank loan. I’m not sure what to do at this point other than to take him to small claims court.as soon as i have him my money he stopped talking to me and started talking about me to my boyfriend and I’m having a hard time proving myself and standing up for myself
Author SunFeel Posted June 26, 2019 Author Posted June 26, 2019 It was in May and the lease was for July?! I wouldn't have given the guy a single dollar. The guy sounds like a turd, no offense. And it looks kinda bad that you paid him off like that. He made me feel bad because he said i told him on short notice. So i have him as much as i could
mark clemson Posted June 27, 2019 Posted June 27, 2019 This is sneaky, so approach with caution, but you could consider: Call the bad friend from your house on speaker phone with your boyfriend silently listening. Give him a hard time about the lies - ask him to explain why he lied. At some point he will probably confess he is lying during the discussion. *Don't* tell your BF in advance about your plan - you don't want him to expect a confession in case the friend doesn't give one. Just tell him you want him to hear the conversation. Hopefully with this method you can show that the friend lied. It may or may not occur, so be cautious. 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 27, 2019 Posted June 27, 2019 I've been through a lot of crap, but I can't recall a situation where anyone has lied about me.
crispytoast Posted June 27, 2019 Posted June 27, 2019 He made me feel bad because he said i told him on short notice. So i have him as much as i could Two months is not short notice. If a close friend tried to guilt trip me into giving them money in this situation, I would tell them to kick rocks regardless of gender. In general, if a friend blows up on me or makes a habit of disrespecting me, I tell them to get out of my life until they know how to act like an adult. People will manipulate you and try to define your worth if you let them. I'd rather not have friends than have friends who try to control my actions or emotions. 2
Author SunFeel Posted June 27, 2019 Author Posted June 27, 2019 I've been through a lot of crap, but I can't recall a situation where anyone has lied about me. He told my bf i was blowing up his phone and coming over his house etc a whole bunch of stuff
Author SunFeel Posted June 27, 2019 Author Posted June 27, 2019 Two months is not short notice. If a close friend tried to guilt trip me into giving them money in this situation, I would tell them to kick rocks regardless of gender. In general, if a friend blows up on me or makes a habit of disrespecting me, I tell them to get out of my life until they know how to act like an adult. People will manipulate you and try to define your worth if you let them. I'd rather not have friends than have friends who try to control my actions or emotions. Instead of being the bigger person i confronted my friend and we argued i was pretty direspectful
kendahke Posted June 27, 2019 Posted June 27, 2019 (edited) we argued i was pretty direspectful You had blatant cause to be!!!!!!! Considering the amount of unnecessary and uncalled for damage your "friend" did to you and your relationship, I'd say you are justified in being as rude and disrespectful as you can get with him. I’m not sure what to do at this point other than to take him to small claims court. Consider that money gone. It was an expensive lesson about you not giving him a dime that you bought. It's not worth it to go to small claims court because it's your word against his if you didn't have him sign some kind of promissory note... and then you'll have to pay court costs. as soon as i have him my money he stopped talking to me and started talking about me to my boyfriend and I’m having a hard time proving myself and standing up for myself Neither of them are loyal to you, so let them think whatever they wish because they're going to do that anyway. There is one true thing in life: a lie will get halfway around the world before the truth gets its boots on. Time will exonerate you... Edited June 27, 2019 by kendahke
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