Johnson1 Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 (edited) I just started dating this very smart, beautiful Cardiologist/Accountant. After meeting at a bar we just had our second date this past Saturday. Everything's going fantastic. On Saturday night after dinner we sat on her porch and talked till 4:30 in the morning, then spoke for a little while on Sunday evening, but didn't make plans to get together again. She wants to see me and we talked about me coming over to her place to help trim some trees, but it was never discussed when. She told me she'll have to work overtime at her job all this week during the week. So far I've only seen her on Saturdays. I'd like to see her more, but I don't want to push it. She's very sweet and understanding, but I don't want to be the one that's fighting to see her or always asking when should we get together again. She seems to be perfectly fine with the once-a-week thing, but I'd like to see her more. It feels like a month in between seeing each other. I feel more or less like we're strangers in between dates, but our dates are awesome. That's why I'm surprised that she doesn't bring up about us getting together sooner. What is the general rule as far as how much is enough and how much is too much as far as seeing each other within the first few weeks? Edited June 24, 2019 by Vocals5
alphamale Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 a cardiologist/accountant is probably pretty busy and makes a lot of dough. you will find that you'll have to fit into her schedule, not yours 3
Author Johnson1 Posted June 24, 2019 Author Posted June 24, 2019 a cardiologist/accountant is probably pretty busy and makes a lot of dough. you will find that you'll have to fit into her schedule, not yours Yea. I agree. She really doesn't like working overtime during the week. It just feels like everything is going so slow, considering how great we get along on our dates. I miss her in between our dates, but I know I can't tell her that, not yet. She's an incredible woman. No baggage in her life whatsoever, no games, no drama, nothing.
Ami1uwant Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 It’s helpful to know your ages and any relationship history known. Saying she’s an accountant in real work and a student wanting to go to med school sounds like someone very busy so weekends are it with her.
alphamale Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 She's an incredible woman. No baggage in her life whatsoever, no games, no drama, nothing. how exactly do you know this after 2 dates?? 1
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 Just take it at the pace of her availability. It's Monday now. Try setting up another date for the weekend. I wouldn't be rushing over to trim her trees any time soon. She can afford to hire a gardener. You are there to be her date not the hired help. 2
smackie9 Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 You take her by the hand and say "I wish I could see you more, because I think you are so amazing." Starting dialog will get you the action, or the answers you need. Communication is key. Just keep it simple. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 You take her by the hand and say "I wish I could see you more, because I think you are so amazing." Starting dialog will get you the action, or the answers you need. Communication is key. Just keep it simple. Communication is key but smackie's suggestion might be a tad much after only the 2nd date. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 Question: Are you guys making out part of the night leading up to 4:30 a.m. in the morning? How intense is the making out?
smackie9 Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 Communication is key but smackie's suggestion might be a tad much after only the 2nd date. It would be at the end of the third date....usually people are in the sac by that time.
smackie9 Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 I wouldn't be rushing over to trim her trees any time soon. She can afford to hire a gardener. You are there to be her date not the hired help. Maybe she wants to see what he looks like with his shirt off when he's trimming the bushes in the hot sun.... 2
preraph Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 You can't expect a lot of time with doctors, especially if she's a working cardiologist. That's the problem. They need the type people who have their own life to fall back on and also stay busy or are content. 3
Author Johnson1 Posted June 24, 2019 Author Posted June 24, 2019 You take her by the hand and say "I wish I could see you more, because I think you are so amazing." Starting dialog will get you the action, or the answers you need. Communication is key. Just keep it simple. Her and I just texted. She texted me at lunch and I reciprocated, then she got back to me through text at 6:30 and said 'Hi! My day was good thanks! Went by fast which is good! ' . I told her mine did as well and that I was shopping at the store, then home work in the yard, the she abrutly ended the conversation with 'Have a good evening . She did that once last week too. I don't know if she's home or if she's out, but whatever the case I guess she's too busy to talk. Either that or she thinks I'll be too busy to talk further. I did want to talk a little more. Her and I had a real heart to heart about a lot of things about our pasts. She tried dating sites and still has a subscription to one she purchased back in January. It's for 6 months, but she told me it's just in idle right now. On Friday before our date we were texting at 8pm and on Sunday as well. She told me she's under pressure to work overtime by her two female co-workers because they work constant OT. She said she has to work OT this whole week. Judging by everything she's told me I highly doubt she'd entertain other offers during the week. In our conversations she mentioned about how guys she dated were vague at times, but that's the way she's being now not giving any details about where she is or what she's doing. She went out with some gf's for dinner on Thursday and told me about it. We text every day and talk some nights during the week. I don't want to doubt things based on rhe things she said and the wsy she's been because so far it's bern great. I just don't understand the lack of details and abrupt end to our text tonight.
Author Johnson1 Posted June 24, 2019 Author Posted June 24, 2019 You can't expect a lot of time with doctors, especially if she's a working cardiologist. That's the problem. They need the type people who have their own life to fall back on and also stay busy or are content. Actually she's not a working Cardiologist. She has a degree in it and worked doing Cardiovascular insome capacity, but right now she's working doing accounting at a health favility and has normal day hours. She's not an actual doctor. I misunderstood.
alphamale Posted June 24, 2019 Posted June 24, 2019 She's not an actual doctor.. well...that changes everything V5
Ami1uwant Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 Actually she's not a working Cardiologist. She has a degree in it and worked doing Cardiovascular insome capacity, but right now she's working doing accounting at a health favility and has normal day hours. She's not an actual doctor. I misunderstood. This doesn’t make sense You don’t go to be a cardiologist and not be in residency. She might have gone to be a cardiology tech. Very different.
frus69 Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 How can you be Cardiologist and Accountant at the same time? Both require significant amount of time (years) to even get qualified and these two areas are completely non-related whatsoever. I would really doubt she is legit.. 1
alphamale Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 How can you be Cardiologist and Accountant at the same time? Both require significant amount of time (years) to even get qualified and these two areas are completely non-related whatsoever. I would really doubt she is legit.. yea I think she is pulling V5's leg
frus69 Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 yeah and it takes several years to get an accounting degree from Uni and another several years to get qualified. Then cardiologist is a doctor which means she needs to have done 7 years or something at Uni.. No way she can be both. And normally people wouldnt want to jump from a doctor to an accountant (or vice versa) for the sheer amount of years you need to put in to get the degree. Not to mention the knowledge for those two areas are just too far-off Unless she is just some hospital technician and some amateur bookkeeper.. which, changes the whole story.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 She's not a cardiologist, OP, as you seem to be realizing. Did she tell you that, or did you erroneously come to that conclusion on your own? In any event, she doesn't sound overly interested, sorry to say. You have been out a couple times, yes, but she I am not getting the impression she's as eager as you are.
Foxhall Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 You can't expect a lot of time with doctors, especially if she's a working cardiologist. That's the problem. They need the type people who have their own life to fall back on and also stay busy or are content. I like this reference, am thinking this Malaysian lady well it might work out ok based on the logic as you outline.
clia Posted June 25, 2019 Posted June 25, 2019 You've known her for, what, two weeks? And been on two dates? I think at this point it's way too soon to say that she's comfortable with the once a week thing. She told you she had to work OT this week, and she might've already had other plans on her calendar with friends or otherwise that were made before she ever met you. There's nothing wrong with seeing someone once a week when you've just met. If you want to see her more, then just start asking to see her once during the week also. I don't think you need to have a discussion about it or tell her how amazing you think she is. By asking her out, she'll get the idea. 1
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