pioneer Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 Well its been a couple of days now since I found out that my ex, within 12 months of us splitting and after being together for nearly 6 years, has brought a house with her new boyfriend of 6 months. I was having a hard enough time trying to get over her as it is, when I first found out she was seeing someone else (I saw his car parked outside her parents) I rang her and we talked on the phone for a while. She told me he was just a friend. She used to try and chat to me now and again on msn, but it all stopped about 3 months ago. I cannot understand, after being with me for so long, how she could just do this with someone she only recently met. I mean she is on my mind almost all the time, surely she must still think of me. I really want to talk to her more than ever now, to try and understand how she feels, but I know if I did it would probably really upset me, we haven’t met face to face since December. I guess in my heart, I always expected us to get back together, but now I know that defiantly isn’t going to happen, its really stressing me out, I don’t feel as if I can talk to anyone about it, and I have to act like I don’t care about it, but really I feel devastated, It was only last year we were on holiday together. I can’t help wondering what went wrong, and how much her life has changed in just a year. I know it’s not a good idea, but I really want to contact her to talk, it’s been months since we’ve spoke, but I don’t know what else to do.
hoppy28 Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 what you need to do is Not Call. whats the point??? believe me when i say i know how you feel. you want to understand......you want answers but all you really want is her to come back. reality is she maynot. i know thats not what you want to hear....id didnt either. the faster you learn to except this the faster you will heal and move on with your own life. if she is with someone else then that is even more of a reason to leave it be. calling her will only keep you in the this "temproray hell" you are facing. walking away is the hardest thing ive ever head to do. often the right thing is also the hardest thing, but doing the hardest thing can make you strong. remember that man...........
loveisallaround Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 You're in a tough situation. What anybody says to you will most likely climb in one ear and stream through the other - with right reason - until you dig yourself out of the hole you are currently living in. You've got no choice: Face your pain head on, draw your conclusions and closure and move on. And fast. She's moved on. Do what's right for you and move on too. I'm not saying she doesn't think of you or is over you. Quite the contrary actually. By moving in with her short term boyfriend, it seems she's forcing herself to be over you. Feelings aren't gone overnight - they'll always return - no matter how much you try to repress. The adage time heals all wounds is incorrect, it should read: time conceals all wounds. If she hasn't dealt with her pain, it will eventually come back. What goes up must come down. Good luck. You can do it.
Razorback05 Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I feel your pain man and I've totally been there. Me and my ex separated and within 2 weeks she had a new man. I know how hard it is to want to talk to her. Don't. It will only hurt you more. My divorce will become final (I think) in November and we've been separated almost 2 years and I still have nights where I cry myself to sleep so I can totally relate with you. I can tell you that it does get better. The bad days will get fewer and further apart and the good days will become better and better. Hang in there, man.
Author pioneer Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 Yeah, im not going to try and talk to her, i know she wouldnt want it. The whole situation has just kind of set me back 12 months. I feel as bad now, if not worse than when we first split.
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