sweetsportschic Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 Hello again. I feel like I am being such a pain, but I feel better coming here and posting for some reason. I think it is because I don't know anyone here and it's a lot easier to hide behind a computer. Anyways for those of you that read my post from last night here is an update. So he finally called me back at 1 A.M. and as upset as I was I kept a really cool head. He told me he was out thinking about things all day and that is why he didn't call. I was fine with that because we both needed time away to think. Here is the catch though....he wasn't alone nor was he at a reflective place. He was at a freakin amusement park with some friends from work that he has only known for a few weeks. We were supposed to be going there in a few weeks and he went there today. Then afterwards he went to his friend's condo nearby for a small house party and was drinking. You'd think someone that hurt like he did last night between the things he said and admitted to would be trying to make things right with me and not off partying with his friends. I sat at home and reflected and was miserable all day. When he called me he couldn't talk long because his cell wasn't getting a good signal out there and that made me more angry. It was fine that he needed to think before we talked, but not to party too. I think in this situation his priorities should have been to come talk to me and straighten things out with the girl he claims he wants to marry. He can have all the fun he wants but I think he owes me talking to me like mature adults first. Again I need to know what I should do about this. I am so lost right now. His actions are not typical of him as he is one of the good ones. I feel so confused and I am questioning if I should forgive him now for last night and just forget what he did today? I am not making any sense so someone please help me see. Thanks!
Copingsaw Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 As a guy, let me say this. I don't see a significant problem with what he did yesterday. Guys sometimes handle their emotions different than women. Actually, thats probably too much of a generalization. I know women who would have done the same thing he did. Just because he was at an amusement park, doesn't mean he wasn't doing some heavy thinking. Even going to a party may be a persons way of coping with a difficult situation. I think your being too tough on him (ignoring the initial issue, which you have a right to be mad at him about). He probably needs time to think. Just make sure he understands that this is important to you and a serious discussion needs to occur when he is ready. If he is indeed one of the good ones, You don't want to push him away with by what he probably perceives as an over-reacting girlfriend.
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