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I've been seeing a girl for roughly a month (one week at a time) and things generally have been going well.

 

She came on to me pretty hot and heavy on our first date and we slept together on our second when she invited me into her apartment.

 

On our third date, she came over to mine, we cooked dinner together and she stayed the night.

 

Last night we had our fourth date and after going out for dinner, she invited me back to her apartment.

 

As she made a bee-line for the bedroom I was thinking to myself the signs were pretty clear what was going to happen. However, as we were laying on the bed she turned to me and said she didn't want to have sex. She admitted she had a lot on her mind.

 

I'm one to take people on face value so I am just rolling with it. To be honest, things have moved a bit faster than I would have liked so I don't mind slowing things down.

 

Should I just put it down to her being a little tired/having things on her mind or is there something I should be cautious about?

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she is most likely using you for sex,

 

Personally? i would move on

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she is most likely using you for sex,

 

Personally? i would move on

 

You missed the 'issue' he's having . . . she had sex with him after all four previous dates, but the fifth one she said she didn't feel like having sex so he's worried about her libido and whether this means he won't be having sex non-stop if he keeps seeing her . . . paleeze.

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Shouldnt the more important issue be...why did she lie about her age??

Have you ever solved THAT problem?

 

Or do you like her that much and you are afraid of the answer and you rather pretend everything is fine and dandy

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You missed the 'issue' he's having . . . she had sex with him after all four previous dates, but the fifth one she said she didn't feel like having sex so he's worried about her libido and whether this means he won't be having sex non-stop if he keeps seeing her . . . paleeze.

 

she will dump him soon

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she will dump him soon

 

Yeah, probably. Just because a woman has sex often with a man, doesn't mean she really appreciates being expected to have sex every single time they get together either.

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I didn't know there was another thread about this woman and that she had lied about her age. Either way, some times a woman just wants to cuddle regardless of her age. If this happens often, yeah, maybe there's a problem. But it's just been one time so far. You're jumping the gun.

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Maybe she didn't feel like having sex.

 

Maybe she has her period.

 

She's allowed to not want it every time you see each other.....

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Yes it was likely that time of the month. I can almost guarantee it.

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Maybe she didn't feel like having sex.

 

Maybe she has her period.

 

She's allowed to not want it every time you see each other.....

 

Thanks for this Cautiously!

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she is most likely using you for sex,

 

I don't mind when women use me for sex.

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Maybe she didn't feel like having sex.

 

Maybe she has her period.

 

She's allowed to not want it every time you see each other.....

 

Totally fine by me.

 

I guess she invited me in for a cuddle in bed then?

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She admitted she had a lot on her mind

 

This. I would take what she said at face value.

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Too soon to be jumping to conclusions.

 

If she continues to invite you in and to her bed and doesn't want to have sex, then you can start to question whether or not this is something worth worrying about.

 

Even the most sexual women have the right to decline sex if they're not feeling up to it for whatever reason.

 

Doesn't necessarily mean there is a problem.

 

Chill.

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