Trying online dating again. Waste of cash? Not working.

June 28, 2019

It's absurd to expect that paying for a dating site will do anything more than increase the functionality of the service. You are paying for more swipes, increased access to your matches, longer distance, etc. Paying for the site doesn't make you more attractive, it cant force women to text you or want to meet up with you. If you want to pay to sleep with someone hot, pay an escort. Or better yet save up money and move out of bumf**k Florida to a place with a larger, younger, and more diverse population.

I read a lot of complaints about Floriduh it gets me down. On here from time to time I read it too about dating problems to due demographics and such.

But it just seems like tons of scammers here in FL. People are plastic and such.

There are young people in places like Miami but the people are very superficial there and expensive to live, plus I don't speak spanish.

The people in FL seems more insular though, not as sociable and outgoing and rude too. No sense of community.

Would a place like Dallas Texas be better for example?

FL keeps growing. A large number of the population though is immigrants and old people moving here. Not the demographics I'm looking for.

June 28, 2019

@bluesfan

Come to the Desert... It's a dry heat!!

June 28, 2019

@bluesfan

Come to the Desert... It's a dry heat!!

AZ has great gun laws too which i like!!!

June 28, 2019

You know, has anyone thought of this before? Like on the dating profiles message girls who are maybe 15lbs overweight but still have a pretty face, smile and such but just need to lose a few lbs or try working out more.

If you go out with them simply get them to hit the gym with you or eat better and then she loses that weight. Gotta figure they might get bombarded with less message so a better shot at a reply.

I'm not saying ugly land whales lol but you know ones who can lose a little weight.

June 28, 2019

@bluesfan

Don't be hating on the big girls.

I've dated women 98 lbs. to 305 lbs. and every weight in between. The 305 lbs. woman was actually a really nice person and we had a lot of fun together.

June 28, 2019

@bluesfan

Don't be hating on the big girls.

I've dated women 98 lbs. to 305 lbs. and every weight in between. The 305 lbs. woman was actually a really nice person and we had a lot of fun together.

WTF. 300lbs?? I'm sorry that's overboard. She could sit on you:eek: 98lbs is just too small unless they're only 5ft.

That chick on match who I talked to and asked to meeet up for a date was actually pretty hot but only listed herself at 5ft tall. Just seemed a tad small for me. If she was like 5-2 I'd gone for it, but more I thought about it she was only two inches shorter than that. Who knows, if I would have went on that date maybe I wouldn't be here complaing about online dating because I wouldn't be using it now.

She wanted to meet up close to her house to eat which is 30 miles away from me and I didn't feel like driving that far. She should have met me closer to me since it's an honor and privileged to be in my presence lol:laugh:

I guess I shouldn't be so picky next time. Us guys complain about girls being picky and I was over something so small like that.

June 28, 2019

@bluesfan

Height never bothered me... 4' 10" to 6' 2", although I'm 6' 1" and the 6' 2" used to wear heels and try to look down upon me... She was just weird, that one didn't last long.

2 inches??? Yes, (in my opinion) I think you are being too picky.

June 28, 2019

I have had very bad luck with OLD. It used to be that the paid websites were good while the free ones were not, but that's not the case anymore. EHarmony was/is an expensive way to talk to people (only met two guys - one face to face and the other lived in another state). I was surprised how much Match went downhill. I tried that at the beginning of the year and got the same trolls that I would have on a free website. Then the free ones (OkCupid, POF, etc.)? Well it's been troubling (see other recent threads). Appwise such as Tinder and Bumble? Also see recent threads.

If there was an answer, I would tell you what that answer is. But I don't have it. I can only tell you to keep hope alive. Which is ironic since I am once again back in the Man Haters Club.

June 28, 2019

I have had very bad luck with OLD. It used to be that the paid websites were good while the free ones were not, but that's not the case anymore. EHarmony was/is an expensive way to talk to people (only met two guys - one face to face and the other lived in another state). I was surprised how much Match went downhill. I tried that at the beginning of the year and got the same trolls that I would have on a free website. Then the free ones (OkCupid, POF, etc.)? Well it's been troubling (see other recent threads). Appwise such as Tinder and Bumble? Also see recent threads.

If there was an answer, I would tell you what that answer is. But I don't have it. I can only tell you to keep hope alive. Which is ironic since I am once again back in the Man Haters Club.

Yea, Eharmoney I signed up for basic free account and most of the matches were like 90 or more miles away in the Tampa area. Sorry, that's just too far. Christian Mingle and Catholic Match very few active users in the region.

If you're in a major city that has younger people Eharmony might be okay for the money. Match seems to been getting worse. If you seen my thread same thing. Fake profiles, lack of new members and seeing the same few select women on every single day. You do get new members sometimes but they stay active a few days, then they simply disappear. I literally see the same exact girls on everyday. Maybe 50 decent ones in my 60 mile radius that are active and that doesn't include some of them being bots or fake profiles which I'm sure some are.

June 28, 2019

It's absurd to expect that paying for a dating site will do anything more than increase the functionality of the service. You are paying for more swipes, increased access to your matches, longer distance, etc. Paying for the site doesn't make you more attractive, it cant force women to text you or want to meet up with you. If you want to pay to sleep with someone hot, pay an escort. Or better yet save up money and move out of bumf**k Florida to a place with a larger, younger, and more diverse population.

What states do you suggest that have younger demographics?

June 28, 2019

Which is ironic since I am once again back in the Man Haters Club.

MO, I've seen enough of your posts to understand that you're not having success with OLD and it's negative feedback for your attitude. But jeeeeez...even the women who don't want to continue to date me tell me I'm a gentleman and they enjoyed my company (yeah, could be lies). If I lived near you (height and age are very likely dealbreakers,too), I'd take you on a (platonic) date just to show you there are decent men out there. What I don't get is the idea that men like me are that rare. It's not rocket science.

Bullet points that have nothing to do with my attractiveness but that any guy 'should' be able to pull off with minimal effort:

- treat woman with 'traditional' respect: hold doors, help with coat/sweater if she's wearing one, pick up the tab (yes, you cheap bastards), keep hands to myself (in the absence of clear 'she wants it otherwise' signals)

- keep it interesting: walks or hikes, dances, meals, scintillating conversation, tennis/golf/bowling if she's into them, sightseeing, movies (though a bit passe) can be interesting, too

Is it really that unusual for a guy to be polite without being boring?

June 28, 2019

I have had very bad luck with OLD. It used to be that the paid websites were good while the free ones were not, but that's not the case anymore. EHarmony was/is an expensive way to talk to people (only met two guys - one face to face and the other lived in another state). I was surprised how much Match went downhill. I tried that at the beginning of the year and got the same trolls that I would have on a free website. Then the free ones (OkCupid, POF, etc.)? Well it's been troubling (see other recent threads). Appwise such as Tinder and Bumble? Also see recent threads.

If there was an answer, I would tell you what that answer is. But I don't have it. I can only tell you to keep hope alive. Which is ironic since I am once again back in the Man Haters Club.

Match I've basically tapped out I think. As I said in my 60 mile radius region not a ton of active users. All of a sudden the last 5 days new users, BUT the profiles look suspect like fake. With hot women with all their photos not taken locally and the profiles lack information on the summary sections and such. Bland which points to bots and they don't read messages and such and bad spelling.

Oh I did message some chick 4 days ago which the profile looked legit. Why did she act this way. So I see her view her profile then 10 mins later she views mine. Then about an hour later I message her. Then she reads the message about an hour later and after reading my message views my profile again. Then 2 hours later she again views my profile yet again. Why would she view it again after viewing it again after viewing my message? Was she kinda feeling warm to it but trying to decide who to reply to hence she was re reading my profile again? She was listed at 37 but looked more like 43.

That's another thing here in FL. Cougars lying about their age. Like instead of 35 they're really 45.

June 29, 2019

Well, I did get a reply back tonight after a week dry spell. A local chick in my town actually. Body build looks about average, maybe could lose 5lbs but works out a few times a week and move here to go to flight school for commercial pilot. Cute face and smile but could lose a couple lbs. Commercial pilots make $$$

She asked me what I do and told her small retail business owner and also work a part time job a couple nights a week at a grocery store. I hope the grocery store doesn't spell min wage loser:( might have shot myself in the foot again with that. She also asked me how I like living here.

I think my other problem is that most of the people I message live over 40 miles away sometimes up to 60 and most people don't want something that's that far away. There is very few people under 40 miles away on match from me and the very very few that are are probably bombarded with messages.

I've been watching more Moranbong videos again. This chicks with slim legs dancing around are a major turn on. They look exotic and whacky in bed too.

Also I had a chick 110 miles away checkout my profile. The pics and profile looked legit. Shoudl I message her?

June 29, 2019

I don't get the rationale for how watching porn has anything to do with online dating? Other than probably creating a fantasy in your mind that you'll never obtain. I mean, are you really going to reject what could be a good match for 5lbs? Are you in really good shape?

You also said financial success is a top requirement for OLD success in your area. If that's the case, then yes, your job is probably not going to be doing anything for you. Especially if you are going for women outside of your league, physically.

At this point, yes, I think OLD is a waste of money for you. You have unrealistic expectations and seem a bit needy. All OLD is doing at this point is undermining your self-esteem. It's no longer a healthy dating outlet for you.

In my opinion, OLD is a supplement; it shouldn't be your sole method. You have to also ask women out in real life. OLD is mainly for efficiency. Maybe you'll occasionally pull a date, but it's rare. You also seem to want a lot of convenience. They have to live really close to you, look like porn starts, overlook your lack of confidence for a minimum wage job.

What do you bring to the table? With OLD you have to look good on paper. You have to have something going for you that you can list on paper. Especially if you want to shoot outside of your looks match.

Good looking? Tall? Built? Can you write well and can display that in your summary statement? Good job? Interesting hobbies? ANYTHING? If you can't think of anything, then yes, it's a waste of time for you. Look at it from a woman's perspective. When she looks at your profile, what is prompting her to want to get to know you more? These are questions to ask yourself. It's not all about what you want. What do you have to offer them? If they're attractive, other men are writing them as well. What makes you stand out? If nothing, then OLD is a waste for you. You'll have better luck approaching in real life where you can display your personality, i.e. game.

Edited June 29, 2019 by TheFinalWord

June 29, 2019

I don't get the rationale for how watching porn has anything to do with online dating? Other than probably creating a fantasy in your mind that you'll never obtain..

Moranbong are a female pop group from North Korea, not porn stars but the OP is pornifying them that is true.

Big hit - "Lets' study, Let's study, Let's study, for the benefit of our country..."

June 29, 2019

I don’t understand this hangup about 5 freaking lbs. That’s almost nothing in today’s US standard. But if you are soooo picky, then you should notice that some of these Moranbong girls don’t exactly have slim legs; actually some of their legs are a little chubby in proportion to their petite size in other places.

Edited June 29, 2019 by JuneL

June 29, 2019

I don’t understand this hangup about 5 freaking lbs. That’s almost nothing in today’s US standard. But if you are soooo picky, then you should notice that some of these Moranbong girls don’t exactly have slim legs; actually some of their legs are a little chubby in proportion to their petite size in other places.

Depends. Lately they look more slim. Kim Sol-mi also had a couple children and in newer videos looks a bit heavier compared to when she was younger.

Lately they look more slim. Maybe it's the food rations but I would think they get the best food, a step down from the Marshal, Kim Jong-un.

Jo Kuk-hyang is nearly a perfect girl. Nice face, slim and nice butt and legs.

I prefer the slim legs because I'm a slim guy myself with tight abs, slim legs. I don't like thick legs or thunder thighs and I prefer smaller bone frame like Jo Kuk-hyang. I mean a woman who's slim and 5-3 is fine for example. I also don't like big chested women and huge boobs.

That Jo Kuk-hyang is the perfect body.

Also, 5lbs isn't a big deal. The girl looks big bone frame and works out. She sent me a long reply asking a lot of stuff today so I'll reply back.

At work today I saw it yet again. I saw a hot milf maybe mid 20s carrying her little girl around literally and her guy tagging a long was about 45, little chubby and balding head and overall didn't look in good shape. So how the hell do balding men with a beer belly get these younger, hot chicks and I'm in better shape, younger and get none? $$$$ must be a factor.

June 29, 2019

At work today I saw it yet again. I saw a hot milf maybe mid 20s carrying her little girl around literally and her guy tagging a long was about 45, little chubby and balding head and overall didn't look in good shape. So how the hell do balding men with a beer belly get these younger, hot chicks and I'm in better shape, younger and get none? $$$$ must be a factor.

Her father???

June 29, 2019

Ready to start changing her already over YOUR opinion on her weight? Leave her alone. Trust me, if you don't like her weight now then you won't when she's a professional pilot.

June 29, 2019

Moranbong are a female pop group from North Korea, not porn stars but the OP is pornifying them that is true.

Big hit - ''Lets' study, Let's study, Let's study, for the benefit of our country...''

Thanks elaine! But ROTFLMAO - insipid lyrics yet pretty good production values. Go Kim Jong-un! (do they have to sleep with him to get this gig and not be shot?)

June 29, 2019

Her father???

He looked a bit young for that and she a bit old for that.

You see some strange stuff in FL. A lot of sugar dadies that's for sure.

June 30, 2019

That girl that replied to me in my location replied again today with a long message asking me about how she likes this town (she's new) and where are good places to hangout and such. She was also asking me about my business and how I'm different from my competition and other stuff as well.

Anyway, I was at work and on my tablet so I replied and told her when I got home from work I'd reply to her message. So I got home and replied into detail her questions she asked me. She's been on for 3 hours tonight, or at least says she's online, yet she wont read the message now.

She read my message this afternoon telling her I'd reply when I got home she she has to be expecting it. Or was she turned off by having to wait? I'm sorry but I'm running a business and I can't just tell a customer I'm busy replying to messages on a stupid dating site and lose sales by having my head stuck in my tablet and not approaching potential customers.

June 30, 2019

You didn't need to tell her that you'd reply when you got home. With online in general, you don't want it to look like she's the only girl you're talking to. It's game playing, but you typically will have to do it. Just 1 reply a day is fine. Don't get into a habit of chit chatting. Ask her out and then you can tell her all about your business. Don't fall into the trap of sending massive messages back and forth...

June 30, 2019

I don’t understand this hangup about 5 freaking lbs. That’s almost nothing in today’s US standard. But if you are soooo picky, then you should notice that some of these Moranbong girls don’t exactly have slim legs; actually some of their legs are a little chubby in proportion to their petite size in other places.

Here is another video with some of them the B team in it. Much thinner. The lead singer I'd totally hit it. As you can see they look really sexy. If I had an Asian gf like them I'd buy them a Moranbong hat.

June 30, 2019

Here is another video with some of them the B team in it. Much thinner. The lead singer I'd totally hit it. As you can see they look really sexy. If I had an Asian gf like them I'd buy them a Moranbong hat.

You need to rethink your attitude because it's extremely objectifying. Most women will feel your lack of respect in the way you talk to them, act around them, even the way that you look at them. The type of woman that you are looking for honestly wouldn't let you in 100 feet of her. I think you need to reconsider your approach because online dating, or the demographics of your town, are going to have a far smaller impact on your dating life than an objectifying attitude will. You are asking all of the wrong questions. Sorry I'm trying to be real with you because if you actually want to attract women, you need to look deeper than the surface and seek to understand and appreciate the person inside.

And for God sake stop obsessing over the moranbong girls, they are the epitome of oppressed women. They are the personal all female band of Kim Jong Un, they are basically the property of North Korea and by extension Un's property, and I can only imagine what they must have to go through to end up in the position they are in. Nothing about it is glorious and that you see them as a blueprint for your ideal woman is really concerning. They smile because they are conditioned to & they do what they are told.

Edited June 30, 2019 by crispytoast

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