littleblackheart Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 These types of people are sick and have no self respect What? It's rude and a bit self-interested for sure, and you're understandably disappointed, but sick? Seriously, you need to scale it down a bit there. You've seen her a handful of times, you had a 5 second kiss, and she didn't want to come to your place. For all intents and purposes, she is still a near stranger to you, despite the 'great connection' from your end. Soon enough every girl who denies you will be labelled with some form of BPD or other if you're not careful. 1
Highndry Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 What? It's rude and a bit self-interested for sure, and you're understandably disappointed, but sick? Seriously, you need to scale it down a bit there. You've seen her a handful of times, you had a 5 second kiss, and she didn't want to come to your place. For all intents and purposes, she is still a near stranger to you, despite the 'great connection' from your end. Soon enough every girl who denies you will be labelled with some form of BPD or other if you're not careful. No, he's absolutely right. Anybody who treats others with such disrespect then concocts wild lies to try to cover up their tracks IS sick in the head.
littleblackheart Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 My natural instinct isn't to jump to a 'sick in the head' diagnosis about someone I don't know based on a one-sided version of events, though I can see that OP's ego has taken a bit of a hit so I get the frustration at the woman's lack of manners. I can also see how questioning someone's mental health makes it a lot easier to deal with rejection without a single ounce of introspection or keeping any sense of perspective at all. 2
smackie9 Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Every woman is different. Some take their time and observe, others throw caution into the wind and go for it. IMO she sat on it and realized she just wasn't feeling it and saw that sex was probably expected so she bailed. If she is a 10 out of 10 like you say, she's probably used to this from men trying to get her in the sac quickly, and didn't want to deal with it. 1
smackie9 Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 My natural instinct isn't to jump to a 'sick in the head' diagnosis about someone I don't know based on a one-sided version of events, though I can see that OP's ego has taken a bit of a hit so I get the frustration at the woman's lack of manners. I can also see how questioning someone's mental health makes it a lot easier to deal with rejection without a single ounce of introspection or keeping any sense of perspective at all. Agree 100%^^^ 1
Saracena Posted June 30, 2019 Posted June 30, 2019 Lol she left me an extensive voicemail yesterday and apologized claiming that her phone got wet at the beach on Sunday and she had to order a new one and just got it and now it’s not making calls, Yes, but what reason did she give for standing you up? I agree with Smackie in that she's more than likely having to fend off guys trying to get her into bed early and even if this is the case to just not show up is well and truly out of order! Passive aggressive. You're doing the right thing by ignoring her.
Author X1 anti Posted July 1, 2019 Author Posted July 1, 2019 Yes, but what reason did she give for standing you up? I agree with Smackie in that she's more than likely having to fend off guys trying to get her into bed early and even if this is the case to just not show up is well and truly out of order! Passive aggressive. You're doing the right thing by ignoring her. She didn’t. Just said that her phone broke so she had no way of contacting me on Monday lol
rightondude Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 She didn’t. Just said that her phone broke so she had no way of contacting me on Monday lol sounds like it's yours if you want it, take it. Or don't. But you probably could if you wanted. Get it while you can then decide if you want to forgive and forget.
Highndry Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 sounds like it's yours if you want it, take it. Or don't. But you probably could if you wanted. Get it while you can then decide if you want to forgive and forget. Bad advice.
rightondude Posted July 1, 2019 Posted July 1, 2019 (edited) Bad advice. Yeah I guess take it or leave it. Either he believes her phone broke, he doesn't believe it and just really wants to experience being with this woman (and maybe changes his mind about her afterwards), or he moves on ... either way, the choice is now his. I can't say what I'd do, it would depend on a lot of things. Primarily what other options I had exactly. If I had nothing, or nothing better ... maybe. Edited July 1, 2019 by rightondude
Author X1 anti Posted July 1, 2019 Author Posted July 1, 2019 Yeah I guess take it or leave it. Either he believes her phone broke, he doesn't believe it and just really wants to experience being with this woman (and maybe changes his mind about her afterwards), or he moves on ... either way, the choice is now his. I can't say what I'd do, it would depend on a lot of things. Primarily what other options I had exactly. If I had nothing, or nothing better ... maybe. It would take a lot of convincing for me to give her another chance after blowing me off. If I did decide to give her another chance, I wouldn’t be leaving my house
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