X1 anti Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 Women: How attracted to a man do you have to be to accept an invitation to make dinner together at his home? I’ve been dating this girl, this will be our 4th date. She is absolutely stunning 10/10 and I know she’s constantly being chased by other men. She called me on Sunday because we didn’t talk for a week and she wanted to see how I was doing, I invited her over and asked what her availability was. She said she was free that night (unfortunately i had to decline) mentioned a few other days but I have to work so we agreed on Monday And she sounded excited. I’m a little confused about her attraction towards me because she hasn’t laid one finger on me in 3 dates. We did kiss on the 3rd date and watched the sunset and drank wine during a picnic but at the end of the date, she went for the hug and I went for the kiss (it was awkward), she turned very quickly and gave me a tap kiss when she realized I was going for a kiss..
frus69 Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 How attracted to a man do you have to be to accept an invitation to make dinner together at his home? It varies from woman to woman and frankly wondering about this is a waste of time. She accepted the invitation, stop analyzing or it's going to ruin it. Relax and enjoy the date. 3
preraph Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 You just had a kiss fumble. She didn't initiate a kiss. She initiated a hug. Doesn't mean she wouldn't have accepted a kiss. It was just awkward, and that happens sometimes. Don't let it discourage you. Also, women don't all initiate touching. So just have your date. Don't act weird while cooking or try to come on to her then or make everything a sexual innuendo. But assume she's attracted to you or she wouldn't be there and afterwards, sit on the couch together, put your arm around her and see if you get comfortable cuddling or if she relocates. If you get comfy, by all means give her a big makeout kiss and see what happens. Good luck. So long as you've already kissed once so she knows you're not interested in just friendship, and so long as she hasn't said she just wants to be just friends, this is a real date and deserves a real kiss. 1
Inspire Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 No kiss on the first date can happen and even if there is chemistry. Going passed the 3rd date either means she isn't interested romantically or you haven't made the move. I am more inclined to think it is the latter. You said you two hadn't spoken for a week. Did you stop talking to her after your last date because of the fumbled kiss? 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 Well a girl is attracted to you when she let you kiss her and as your kissing her she kiss you back. She not just sitting/laying there like a rag doll getting molested. She got her hands on you too actually kissing you. So judging by the awkward tap kiss I would say that’s not a good sign BUT I would give it the date on Monday at your place and see how it goes then. Try to kiss her again then. If she still doesn’t kiss you back like she want you....Abort abort! 2
healing light Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 (edited) If I'm saying yes to going out with a man, that means that I'm not repulsed by the idea of him kissing me. That's the attraction level that is my barometer in general about dates--can I picture him kissing me and would that be okay? If it's neutral or I would like the idea, I'd say yes. Given that she corrected the kiss attempt and has contacted you since, I'd say she's attracted to you. Don't overthink this, just continue to initiate and pursue. If she didn't feel something she wouldn't continue accepting your invitations. Edited to add: my ex didn't kiss me until the 4th date. I am very attracted to him, but there's certain things I wait for a man to do first (the first kiss and I love you). If a guy went in to kiss me and I was giving him a hug and didn't want to kiss him, I'd be likely to give the cheek. Edited June 20, 2019 by healing light 2
DrNo1962 Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 No need to wonder what her attraction level is. You would be better served to just "live in the moment". If you become too outcome focussed, you will stop yourself from having fun and showing the best version of who you are. Stop worrying about stepping on fictitious landmines and just have fun, see where it goes. If it's meant to be, her attraction will grow for you organically. 3
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 If she didn't feel something she wouldn't continue accepting your invitations. Not to scare the op but this isn’t exactly true. Some women will gladly allow a guy to continue wine and dine her even though she know she not that attracted to him. Guys like this get friend zoned or become the mean time suitor until the suitor she really is attracted to comes along. So the op is right to want to know true signs of attraction from a woman because it is a thing. He should continue to intiate and pursue as long as she showing romantic interest. There are ways to tell and he should pay attention to those signs imo 1
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 this is a woman who gets excited to plan a date with you ....vetoes quite a few other men to spend time with you.......its in the writing......she attracted and likes spending time with you....just like spending time with her back ...stop over analysing,have fun and let things progress organic and natural/....thats the way the cookie crumbles...ps make cookies.....cookies rock.....deb 3
kendahke Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 Women: How attracted to a man do you have to be to accept an invitation to make dinner together at his home? I would feel comfortable if we've gone out a couple of times already, if we've kissed already and, most importantly, if I'm very attracted to him--enough to the point where I'm open to having sex with him. If I can't picture him huffing and puffing on top of me without it turning me off, then there is no hope of anything developing and I would decline invites to his house--actually, I'd tell him it's not working for me and end things. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 It's not a matter of attraction. It's a matter of safety & boundaries. I would have to trust somebody to go to his home. If I felt I didn't know him well enough, nope I'm not going on a 4th date. I would also have to be ready to have sex with him if I was going to his home. I tend to avoid early dates in private spaces with horizontal surfaces for just that reason. it sounds like she likes you but it may be too early for her to come to your house. 2
Highndry Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 I'm not a woman so take this with a grain of salt, but in my opinion if a woman has agreed to go to your place for dinner then she is open to having sex with you. I'm not saying sex is guaranteed, but you're already "in," because I've never heard of a woman who would go to a guy's place for dinner if she was not into him. 3
alphamale Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 I'm not a woman so take this with a grain of salt, but in my opinion if a woman has agreed to go to your place for dinner then she is open to having sex with you. I'm not saying sex is guaranteed, but you're already "in," because I've never heard of a woman who would go to a guy's place for dinner if she was not into him. agreed Highndry 1
d0nnivain Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 I'm not a woman so take this with a grain of salt, but in my opinion if a woman has agreed to go to your place for dinner then she is open to having sex with you. I'm not saying sex is guaranteed, but you're already "in," because I've never heard of a woman who would go to a guy's place for dinner if she was not into him. Hence, the reason most of the women on this thread are suggesting that it might be too early for a home cooked meal. Most women understand that such an invitation means she IS dessert. 2
Highndry Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Hence, the reason most of the women on this thread are suggesting that it might be too early for a home cooked meal. Most women understand that such an invitation means she IS dessert. Most women are hoping to be dessert, so there's that... 1
rightondude Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 I'm not a woman so take this with a grain of salt, but in my opinion if a woman has agreed to go to your place for dinner then she is open to having sex with you. I'm not saying sex is guaranteed, but you're already "in," because I've never heard of a woman who would go to a guy's place for dinner if she was not into him. This type of assumption can get you into trouble REAL quick. 4
Highndry Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 This type of assumption can get you into trouble REAL quick. How so? You make a move, she declines, oh well. What are you thinking of? 1
central Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Make a move during/after dinner, but respect it if she declines to move things forward. Odds are, she will. But some women need a little more time. She trusts you enough to come to your place for dinner. Advance your case, but be graceful if she demurs - the next time will almost certainly be a sure thing - if there is a next time. 2
rightondude Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 How so? You make a move, she declines, oh well. What are you thinking of? I agree completely with this statement. Women do need to realize that if a man invites her up to his place he is at least _considering_ trying to have sex with her. But I saw "if a woman has agreed to go to your place for dinner then she is open to having sex with you" ... and I'm not sure that's 100% the case. 75% of the time? Probably. But I've had a couple of "misunderstandings" where I made a move and the woman was honestly taken aback. Of course nothing further happened. 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Your looking at it right, rightondude. I have been over a suitors house without wanting to have sex. Op need to see if she even want to kiss him. I’m concerned about that pity peck. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 considering that the kiss was rather awkward and not expected by her......i would veto the idea that if she comes to your place she is ready for sex.....unless she says so....i have gone to a dates place for dinner...sex was never on the table and it never happened....we cooked dinner together watched a movie and he took me home .....i kissed him at my door...and it wasnt a tongue fest...it was a really lovely date......and he never tried anything...and we continued to date this way for over a year....i never had sex at his house....and i was attracted to him....deb
Author X1 anti Posted June 22, 2019 Author Posted June 22, 2019 Your looking at it right, rightondude. I have been over a suitors house without wanting to have sex. Op need to see if she even want to kiss him. I’m concerned about that pity peck. Well we had a 5-6 second kiss while the sun was setting on our picnic 1
Author X1 anti Posted June 22, 2019 Author Posted June 22, 2019 considering that the kiss was rather awkward and not expected by her......i would veto the idea that if she comes to your place she is ready for sex.....unless she says so....i have gone to a dates place for dinner...sex was never on the table and it never happened....we cooked dinner together watched a movie and he took me home .....i kissed him at my door...and it wasnt a tongue fest...it was a really lovely date......and he never tried anything...and we continued to date this way for over a year....i never had sex at his house....and i was attracted to him....deb I’m going to make a move regardless and if she declines, she declined. This is the first woman I’ve been with/dated since I found out my wife was having an affair and we divorced. Little nerve wrecking to say the least 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Well we had a 5-6 second kiss while the sun was setting on our picnic Good. Do you feel like the kiss from her end was genuine like she wanted you? If so then by all means I encourage you to continue. If it feels like you pretty muched just kissed her then I remain worried for good reason.
chillii Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Ahh, just jump her, see what happens, sorry couldn't resist. Nah look she's comin over , if things feel and get romantic they do , if they don't they don't. 1
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