He is still on the app and I am scared!

[Curiousroxy86]

I know it‘s still early on and we are not exclusive!

 

then what you dont do is look him up to see if he is dating other people. why? because yall are not exclusive. he CAN date other people because he is NOT YOUR MAN.

 

so in my opinion for future reference it is better to get to know the guy first WHY? to see if he would even make a decent exclusive boyfriend, and also he needs to decide if he even wants to be your boyfriend, and once he actually tell you that he does want to be your exclusive boyfriend and you agree theeeeen you can have sex without worry because he is actually your man and not dating anybody else.

 

but because you had sex first now your all anxious over some guy you dont know yourself and not sure if he even wants to be your boyfriend yet. so since you got the order all kinds of effed up what I recommend what you do NOW is realize this guy is not your boyfriend and he still has to choose whether he wants exclusivity with you regardless of the fact that yall had sex. sex doesnt change that. he still has to want to be with you as a boyfriend. so stop stalking him. know that it is a high possibility that he is dating other people. get to know this guy and see if you are even going to continue to like him. its your prerogative if you want to continue having sex or not. if your going to have sex you either have to be okay with the fact that he is not your boyfriend and that he could date other people at anytime. also just like he is free to date other people well so are you. if your not the type to date more than one person thats fine but understand other people dont operate that way. if your not okay with the idea of having sex, and him not being your boyfriend, and him being able to date other people then either stop having sex while dating him or put a premature rush on it and ask him for exclusivity or stop talking to him all together and try with someone else if you dont like either lol. I dont recommend you ask him for exclusivity btw. why? its early you dont really know him well, he hasnt expressed any desire to be your boyfriend....the offer for exclusivity just doesnt look good based on those dynamics and puts you in the risk to get shot down because its so premature or you could get an agreement of exclusivity from him because well he felt kinda presured into it and could just lie and say he is exclusive to you just to have access to continual free sex while continue to keep his options open with other women before you could have took the time to find out if he is really the exclusive type lol...just too many cons.

 

but what you dont do is continue to go bat ish crazy on the high possibilities of him dating other people and stalking him while continue to have sex knowing that your not exclusive...does nothing for you

 

when I put myself in the foolish position of having sex with a guy before exclusivity I decided to still take my time and get to know him and let him choose me and I didnt stop having sex with him after we went on dates together lol but I also chose to date other people because we technically wasn't exclusive. I didnt have sex with other people but I went on dates. The result was he ended up wanting to be my exclusive boyfriend and I ended up wanting him too and he did become my boyfriend.

 

whatever foolish choice we make sometimes we just gotta eat that, walk as wisely as we can going forward, let go of the outcome, and see what happens lol.