fred123 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 how does a guy act so he can be a girls boyfriend? should he listen to her problems when shes upset or is that only reserved for when he is actual boyfriend? does he invite her to friends birthdays or only until they are actual boyfriend? what about holding hands? basically what can u do when you are seeing someone compared to when you are her actual boyfriend? thanx
smackie9 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 Yes you are right those are BF things....providing you ARE her BF. If not you are totally friend zoned. She has to earn your time.
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 The guy who acts like my boyfriend nine times out of ten becomes my boyfriend. If I was a betting woman I would think most courtships are like that. If you want a girl to be your girlfriend then treat her like a girlfriend AS LONG AS SHE RECIPROCATES THE SAME WAY. If she acts indifferent, irritable, snooty, distant then pull back and consider dropping her and move on to a woman who will consistently return your boyfriend affections if ole girl don’t act right lol. Rinse repeat till you have a girl who accepts your boyfriend actions, respond like a girlfriend consistently, and then when you ask her to actually be your girlfriend she says yes because it’s pretty much a no brainer by both actions. The key especially for guys is to ensure that the girl reciprocates clear interest Good luck 1
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 Holding hands & romancing her . . . seducing her if you will to encourage her to settle into a relationship with you are all done before the label. The rest is more for after you are established. Attending birthday parties or other non-family casual social events can also be done during the dating phase working toward BF. Don't be rude to somebody opening up to you but don't get stuck in the friend zone either
Author fred123 Posted June 19, 2019 Author Posted June 19, 2019 The guy who acts like my boyfriend nine times out of ten becomes my boyfriend. If I was a betting woman I would think most courtships are like that. If you want a girl to be your girlfriend then treat her like a girlfriend AS LONG AS SHE RECIPROCATES THE SAME WAY. If she acts indifferent, irritable, snooty, distant then pull back and consider dropping her and move on to a woman who will consistently return your boyfriend affections if ole girl don’t act right lol. Rinse repeat till you have a girl who accepts your boyfriend actions, respond like a girlfriend consistently, and then when you ask her to actually be your girlfriend she says yes because it’s pretty much a no brainer by both actions. The key especially for guys is to ensure that the girl reciprocates clear interest Good luck so if the girl ur seeing is upset and crying about some work problem she has with her work collegeagues is it my job to be there for her and care for her or do i leave her alone? i have heard that in this situation if u care for her and be there for her when you arent her boyfriend she will view you as friendzoned beta and your chances of being her boyfriend later on are zero. do you only do this once you are her boyfriend?
thefooloftheyear Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 Be somebody.....That's the most important thing... TFY 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 so if the girl ur seeing is upset and crying about some work problem she has with her work collegeagues is it my job to be there for her and care for her or do i leave her alone? i have heard that in this situation if u care for her and be there for her when you arent her boyfriend she will view you as friendzoned beta and your chances of being her boyfriend later on are zero. do you only do this once you are her boyfriend? What's the alternative.....just walk away from her and refuse to listen? 1
Kitty Tantrum Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 My biggest piece of advice is never do anything to GET the girl that you can't or won't commit to doing to KEEP her. Listening to her problems because you genuinely care and want to help is fine. Listening to her problems because you want to accumulate enough points to win the boyfriend title, when that isn't the sort of thing you're generally comfortable doing, is weak and desperate and a great way to either end up being used - OR to hurt her later if you decide you're not into doing that anymore after setting a strong precedent. 2
preraph Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 How old are you, Fred? It makes a difference in what the answer would be.
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) so if the girl ur seeing is upset and crying about some work problem she has with her work collegeagues is it my job to be there for her and care for her or do i leave her alone? i have heard that in this situation if u care for her and be there for her when you arent her boyfriend she will view you as friendzoned beta and your chances of being her boyfriend later on are zero. do you only do this once you are her boyfriend? Honey let me peep you on some game Guys who get friend zoned got friend zoned because the girl wasn’t attracted in the first place or lost the attraction Guy a - I am attracted to him and he calls regularly. I am swooning and excited to receive his calls. Omg he is calling me! Guy b - I am not attracted and he keeps calling. I am rolling my eyes and looking at my phone with irritation. Ugh why won’t he just go away Both guys do the same thing but one it’s welcomed and the other is not based on if she is attracted to you or not. And unfortunately guy b keeps coming around and gets friend zoned simply because he keeps coming around but fact remains she wasn’t attracted enough So if this girl is showing that she is attracted to you then don’t be afraid to show her boyfriend actions. Just be confident and have self respect as you do it in terms of having a better chance of her being attracted and staying attracted. If a guy I was dating and was attracted to showed he was there for me and comforted me...I’d probably want to break my sex till exclusivity boundary and jump his bones lol. So yes Fred...show her comfort as long as you see signs that she likes you romantically. So if the girl seems happy to receive your contact, she smiles and you don’t catch a glimpse or feeling of irritation from her when you come around or contact her, she is receptive to your kisses and touches and kiss and touch you back like she want you and not just she let you kiss and touch her lol...then assume she is attracted to you and show her that you like her. But if she shows any signs of not into you then pull back cold turkey. Because guys who get friend zoned unfortunately is just not good at pulling back when a girl shows these negative signs of no longer attracted Hope that helps! Edited June 19, 2019 by Curiousroxy86 3
Author fred123 Posted June 19, 2019 Author Posted June 19, 2019 so the other question is how does a guy act if she doesnt want a boyfriend? would u still try holding hands and comforting her? would that put her off?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 so the other question is how does a guy act if she doesnt want a boyfriend? would u still try holding hands and comforting her? would that put her off? Don't touch her, but you can still comfort her and be a good listener if your agenda is pure.
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 so the other question is how does a guy act if she doesnt want a boyfriend? would u still try holding hands and comforting her? would that put her off? Dude if she doesn’t want a boyfriend and you still come around her then you are signing up for the friend zone on that alone... Now if she is romantically involved with you and doesn’t want a boyfriend then your fwb or f-buddy...friendzone nevertheless...just a friend getting some action lol 1
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 so the other question is how does a guy act if she doesnt want a boyfriend? would u still try holding hands and comforting her? would that put her off? If she doesn't want you to be her BF, absent some really compelling reason to just be her friend & never try anything romantic, including holding hands, you just walk away.
preraph Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 If she's already told you know by telling you she doesn't want a boyfriend or by telling you she just feels like a friend with you, there is absolutely no point in staying around and wasting your time because that isn't going to change. That means she's not attracted to you in that way. she won't change her mind because attraction is attraction not a negotiation. 1
Author fred123 Posted June 20, 2019 Author Posted June 20, 2019 so say ur dating someone for 3 months and she puts up a facebook post about " work isgoing to be my new boyfriend". is that disrespectful to me? so as a cheeky thing i commented on it saying " i thought i was going to be your new boyfriend ". she deleted it and then had a go at me.
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 Fred...do you want to be friend zoned? because you look like the perfect candidate right now I have already told you if you pursue a girl that doesn’t show interest your getting friend zoned. Period. The end. Don’t ask no more what if questions if it’s the same girl lol. If it is the same girl she does not want you honey. We already established that when she said she didn’t want a boyfriend. If each scenario is a different girl remember what I have already told you...if she shows romantic interest and hasn’t said she doesn’t want boyfriend and hasn’t said she doesn’t want you as her boyfriend then you have a good chance of being the girls boyfriend and it’s safe to act like her boyfriend as long as she continues to show romantic interest. So before your tempted to make this thread 21 questions that I and many others have already given the answer to first time please go back and read what was already said my friend. Good luck! 1
The Outlaw Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 so the other question is how does a guy act if she doesnt want a boyfriend? would u still try holding hands and comforting her? would that put her off? If she doesn't want a boyfriend, walk away. Rejection sucks, but you tried, she didn't reciprocate. It happens. Keep trying. And *DON'T* try holding her hand and comforting her. That's asking for trouble.
Author fred123 Posted June 20, 2019 Author Posted June 20, 2019 if u care about a girl u show her that. u help and support her and have her back. thats what u do regardless if you are boyfriend or just seeing each other. when shes crying and upset you make her feel better. when shes had a tough day at work you post chocolates through the letterboox so when she arrives at home she has them. when her work collegeagues make her cry you go meet her for lunch to wipe away her tears. you help her play tennis so she can become better. you make phone calls and network people you know to help her in her industry. you take time off your work to watch her play a tennis match so you can give her feedback on her game. you plan dates and make time fpr her last minute. you ask her to come with you to your univeristy city for a weekend so you can show her the city. you ask her a couple of times on different occasions. she says she is busy and cant take time off work. you then ask her boss behind her back that as a suprise you want to whisk her away for a romantic weekend and she finds out and has a go at you for doing that. when she cries about her ex boyfriend finding a new girl and you comfort her as her boyfriend and support her and understand her. all of this and she doesnt even respect u enough to put u on her fb or instagram or introduce you to anyone or worse be ashamed to be seen with you when you bump into her work colleagues because she doesnt want people to know about her life and gossip. this same work colleague who made her cry and accused her of bullying him. it was me who made her feel good and wiped her tears away, yet she was more concerned about his feelings. he is allowed to write on her fb and she comments back but me nada. surely the guy who has been her biggest support is the guy who should come first and his feelings.
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 Im sorry there was a woman who didn’t see how great and valuable of a boyfriend you would have been Let this be a lesson learned Only continue to show boyfriend actions to a woman who clearly is open to those actions and reciprocate romantic interest As always good luck
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