My ex constantly checks my social media with a fake account - does she want me back?

[Ben061292]

My ex broke up with me after an accumulated 7 years together then got with someone who she would never usually go for at university. Her own mother says he looks like Mr Bean but hes actually a genuinely nice guy. I asked her back to which she couldn't give me a straight answer so i've blocked her on all social media. She uses a fake account that I'm 100% sure is her to check my social media constantly, especially Instagram as I put stories up fequently. Does this mean she's not over the breakup? Or is just curious if I've moved on?

 

I'm pretty new to posting about relationships but basically I just want to see if there's anyone out there that has gone through something similar to myself and if they have any insight on what might happen later on.

 

We broke up before this one as she wanted to meet other men which I was devastated over. I crawled, pleaded and begged her to stay and it did nothing but make her block me on everything, called a psycho by her and her friends, and her telling me all the gory details of what she did with this guy in bed to get me to stay away from her, typical worst break up ever. After 4 months of finally not hassling her she got in contact with me. We were in a long distance relationship around 100 miles and we used to travel on the train to see each other however her parents brought her down this time to visit as both her parents and mine got on well. Whilst she was down we went to the club with all my friends and that's when she kissed me and asked to get back together. She told me that shes changed and that she "needed to make the mistakes she made to be the person she is now". She was always with someone for the months we werent talking. It obviously bothered me and I refused go back with her for a couple of months until I got over the fact she's been with other men, we were each other's first in literally everything which made it harder.

 

My ex was a very jealous but kind person, I was getting to know another girl during the first breakup which she noticed on social media. I started the gym, changed my hair etc etc.. all the things you usually do when you start to get back on your feet after a breakup and everyone believes this is the reason why she got in contact to begin with. In fact she used to be so jealous in the previous relationship that there were certain films and singers I couldn't watch or listen to as the girls were attractive just to give you a bit of background of how bad it could get. She was a kind hearted girl and would help out anyone but constantly needed reassurance and thought I would cheat to which I gave her no reason to think so. This in turn made me think she was going to do the same as my method of thinking was "why is she thinking I'm going to cheat, is it because she will?" Which made me a bit paranoid myself.

 

We eventually got back together after all the excuses she came up with but I could never get the thought of her being with other men, considering the first guy she slept with after the breakup was only a week later. So I sometimes gave her a hard time about it and it would cause some arguments. She would sometimes bring up the girl I was seeing during the breakup too. We were quite sensitive people and didn't like the thought of each other being with someone else but we did have a good time the second time round, we were more positive towards each other. We were happier too but things started to go downhill when she got into a new project group at university. She graduates this July.

 

We lasted roughly just over 5 months when we got back together and in the present time it's been 3 to 4 months since we've broke up the second time. She got into a new project group at uni and I always knew that one of the guys fancied her from her group. He never broadcasted it but i could tell in the messages that he would send her about work, which were borderline flirting. I didn't think much of it as he isn't much to look at and was around 3 years younger than my ex which she wasn't really in to. I asked her if she could ever go near him in that way to which she replied "No he's not my type". Long story short, one night she told me she's with her girlfriend at her house and the next day I saw pictures of her on social media at the club with her girlfriend and this same guy there too with his arm round her. I confronted her about it whilst she was with her project group and she got upset and put the phone down on me to which I got a text saying that I've thrown everything away. I wouldn't of cared as much if she was just honest about it. She hated it when I went to the club, even if I was honest about going and said "clubbing is for immature people" which I found really unfair that I had to cancel on my friends wanting to go just so it kept her happy.

 

I obviously sent an angry message back to her calling her a hypocrite and a liar to which led us not talking for a couple of weeks. I text her after this time saying I missed her but right after I sent the message I saw a picture go up of her project group with the same in it next to her so I instantly blocked her on everything and she wasn't able to reply as I just took it that she was with him. Her mum called me on the phone a couple of weeks later (me and her mum got on pretty well) and I asked her for the truth if she's with this other guy and to my surprise she was and was currently staying with him in his hometown which she got a bus with him to go to. Her mum was totally against it and doesn't like him one bit. I got in contact with my ex the same day asking to see her whilst she was obviously with him to which she agreed but I'd have to stay in a hotel as "Her parents were dealing with stuff" which I knew was just an excuse but she still agreed to meet me regardless which I found absolutely bizarre! I told her I'm not travelling 100 miles just to stay in a hotel so I ended up just telling her to forget it out of frustration. I told her I missed her and that I couldn't believe what shes settled with, even called the guy she was with a couple of names just because I didn't like how quickly he got on the scene and was more of a test to see how she would react to which she just said "There's no need for name calling" and barely stuck up for him. I even asked her straight if I've been on her mind or that she's thought of me but completely blanked the question and answered something else.

 

I wanted to test her reaction so I posted a story of a friend who was a girl just sat on a bench to which I got a text at 1am. I knew what her fake account was as she liked her own posts with the same account and didn't follow anyone, had no display picture and no posts but always viewed my story.

 

The message I got basically went along the lines of "why make a big deal of seeing me when you've already moved on" to which I replied with that I haven't moved on and asked her if she has moved on herself. She didn't answer my last question and just got a "come off it, you have moved on". I just get the impression that she doesn't want me with anyone else

 

I got drunk that same day and basically sent her a long message stating that I know I'm still in the back of her mind and if she would see me one last time. She said she just wants to be friends, she was staying with him and some friends at the time. The last couple of messages go like this, I sound like I don't care as I basically poured a piece of my heart out with the previous text:

 

[03/06, 15:56] Ex: I want to be friends

[03/06, 20:53] Me: Alright, fine

[05/06, 21:06] Ex: Okay settled then

[07/06, 17:09] Me: Alright, cool

[09/06, 18:56] Ex: Okay so do we keep talking or nah?

[10/06, 01:17] Ex: I’ll take that as a nah. Fairs, hope you’re happy etc etc. Take care.

[10/06, 09:01] Me: I honestly don't mind

 

And that's the last I've heard so far. I've made it look like I've moved on by posting stories with friends, restaurants, gigs, gym selfies, guitar covers to which shes viewed every single one with her fake account over the past couple of months.

 

Her and my mum got on well and my ex is texting her every two days or so since the breakup asking how she is and some times even telling her she misses my mum. She also wished one of my best friends a happy birthday 3 days ago to which she would know I've confined to with the breakup. I've tried to stay away from her social media but my friends say she's posting a lot of boardline revealing selfies of herself which she never used to to whilst we were together and this new guy she's with likes every single one. I want to say it's for his attention but he's absolutely head of heels for her. She knows she's got him round her finger, so I get the feeling it's perhaps for myself? It's pretty tough as she's met his friends and he's met hers.

 

She's on my mind constantly and I apologise for how long this is but I'm hoping it gives some insight to someone who's perhaps gone through the same thing or someone who can maybe predict almost what might happen in the future. Will she be back? Does she still think of me in that way still? Does she miss me? Is she regretting what she's done? Is she in a rebound relationship which she got into at her lowest? I'm just so confused and my head is all over the place.

 

Thank you to whoever takes the time to read this.

[Beendaredonedat]

My ex constantly checks my social media with a fake account - does she want me back?

No.

Now block and delete her from being able to creep your stuff and give yourself the gift of actually getting over her through zero contact (which includes looking at or being looked at on social media).

 

We broke up before this one as she wanted to meet other men which I was devastated over. I

In time, you will be really glad you did block and delete her from all social media because when you are off and on with someone it is natures way of telling you that you are with the wrong person. Edited June 18, 2019 by Beendaredonedat