Highndry Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 (edited) Driving a nice car helps create a perception of success and prosperity (I'm well aware that some spend well above their means to create an illusion), and even those who say they see it as overcompensation are subject to the subconscious impression formed by men who have a nice ride You've just proven how meaningless it all is. It's "perception," not reality. I can think of a handful of friends right off the bat who are driving nicer vehicles than me. They are in debt up to their eyeballs. They may make very good salaries, but they are lousy with their money and a recession could easily wipe them out. Meanwhile, I could pay all their debts off with the cash in my checking account. Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Eugeleh Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 (edited) @Highndry... It's the same reason that we're encouraged to dress well---it's a perception that you're trying to create. If it doesn't meet with reality then you'll have some 'splainin' to do later on. But I think we can agree that driving an '02 Corolla and dressing raggedly isn't going to up your chances. I would never encourage anyone to live above their means nor to present themselves as someone they aren't. However, creating a positive perception is what gets noticed; if it's a false front then the ultimate results will be crappy. In the OP's case the financial stability seems to be legit. It's building a social network that will be crucial in terms of moving from paying for intimacy to attracting partners, IMHO. Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
bluesfan Posted June 21, 2019 Posted June 21, 2019 (edited) In the OP's case the financial stability seems to be legit. It's building a social network that will be crucial in terms of moving from paying for intimacy to attracting partners, IMHO. So if my business takes off and I make 100k a year and buy an expensive car shoudl I post pics of it on my online dating profile and brag about my income? I list myself as business owner right now. I did add in I make a comfortable living lol even though I don't make a lot yet. Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 i had a red 99 Corvette convertible with tan top. owned it for 4 years. i got laid left and right with that car. panties would literally just fly off.
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 (edited) i had a red 99 Corvette convertible with tan top.... I owned an 1982 corvette when I was 18 (no not that old bought it used) in early 2000s. Didn't help there. Got compliments though but MAN unless you got money to burn and don't mind not driving it a lot while it's in the shop then go for it. I will never buy an old car again. I bought a 2012 Mustang GT new in 2011 and everyone loved it. Still have it. I want the new Charger RT or Mustang GT but those things are getting way too pricey now. Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
central Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 You can deal with some rejection, or you can continue to be lonely. The only problem here is your fear. And really, what is so bad about someone saying "No"? Someone will say "Yes," and you'll wonder why you didn't do that sooner. 1
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 I want the new Charger RT or Mustang GT but those things are getting way too pricey now. yea bluesfan you're talking $50K+ for one of those, and the insurance?? wow
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 yea bluesfan you're talking $50K+ for one of those, and the insurance?? wow Well the RT get one slightly used and I can afford that but the SRT is too much. If I got a Mustang GT again I'd get one a year or two old with the new design OR I'd get the base model one. I bought my 2012 GT sticker price was 34,500 and I got a good deal on my trade in. It was the premium though. No dealer had the base model in auto. Here in FL they carry tons of Mustangs and Im sure I'd find a base model. I don't need leather seats and fancy sound system. I just want the basics. Another thing about the modern woman and gold diggers with money is you can always fake it and be a poser. Buy a Rolex and other nice things. Just save up for them. Women are big fakers too and inflate their job status, height, etc, especially on dating sites. us guys need to play their same game back at them lol.
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 (edited) Never been a big softtop fan. Higher insurance and heavier and slower. I want performance. I'd rather dress sharp than a car though. Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
mark clemson Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 I am not sure what changed. Maybe it's not money. Sometimes I think I would have been happier if I had never met this one girl at work a couple of years ago (around the same time as I made the money). I am constantly thinking about her. That distracts me from things I used to do and was fine. Hmmm. That sounds a bit like (here I go again) limerence to me. OP, you sound like a smart guy, research the term above in case that what it is. Maybe it's just more normal, light infatuation instead. At any rate, I think you should strongly consider hiring a dating coach or similar. Also as a guy with fewer social skills, please beware of women who may try to manipulate you out of your money. In particular, I suggest you be very careful about who you marry, regardless of what your emotions may be telling you. Pay a lawyer to answer your questions about marriage and DIVORCE in your state so you understand the parameters. You are not quite a lamb wandering out into the deep woods, but you're clearly no wolf either. Try to be smart for the probable occasions when people will try to use you for their benefit. Also, please stop using hookers, HEs, etc. All too often it's an awful practice. If you must do stuff like this, consider limiting yourself to sugar babies, who are often at least making a choice in the matter. I have never had an "arrangement" with one, but I believe many will be happy to simply spend time with you, which may help your social skills/comfort level with women. They ARE using you for your money, but at least you know about it in advance (and so are presumably less prone to being manipulated).
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 I have the 2016 Mustang GT convertible. Women often talk to me when I am sitting at red lights. Had a girl in another Mustang drive by me and wave today. Mustangs have power over females for some reason. women love horses 1
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Women are big fakers too and inflate their job status, height, etc, especially on dating sites. us guys need to play their same game back at them lol. true dat bluesfan, they also say they are 33 when they are actually 41
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 true dat bluesfan, they also say they are 33 when they are actually 41 Here in FL you see that a lot. This state is so plastic. It's becoming another California. Then you wonder why you see the same chicks on those site day after day for months. Obviously there is a reason being so picky and full of themselves. Assuming it's not a fake profile. Been running into a lot of fake profiles here in FL.
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Yeah, I don't care I love a convertible and girls don't care about horsepower. I got the orange one and it looks sexy with the black top. Yea, girls I notice buy the v6 Camaro and Mustang, rarely do I see them spending the money on the 8.
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Yeah, I don't care I love a convertible and girls don't care about horsepower. I got the orange one and it looks sexy with the black top.
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Yea, girls I notice buy the v6 Camaro and Mustang, rarely do I see them spending the money on the 8. for most women cars are a way to get from point a to point b. for most men their ride is a way of life
Author Jexur Posted June 22, 2019 Author Posted June 22, 2019 (edited) Well the RT get one slightly used and I can Another thing about the modern woman and gold diggers with money is you can always fake it and be a poser. Buy a Rolex and other nice things. Just save up for them. There are also very high quality (one to one mirror) fake watches. I know people who work at the gas station but drive (slightly old) BMW or Mercedes. They just lease it. Similarly, if you are really rich and not faking it unless you are a movie star, a celebrity, or these women come and visit your home and live with you, how would they even know for sure you are really rich? Most people who aren't too close to me but see me often (in some cases for years) don't know I made a ****load of money a couple of years ago. This isn't something you can tell anyway. I have never been on any dating app, but if I do create a profile there and say something like "millionaire", I am sure women on that app would think I am either a liar or fraud. The point is that I am sure money helps, but if the goal is getting laid, good social skills are more important. I do love money though, even though I don't think I am happier than before, but I love it anyway Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
alphamale Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 I am either retarded ... instead of "retarded" we use the term "intellectually challenged"
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 (edited) This isn't something you can tell anyway. I have never been on any dating app, but if I do create a profile there and say something like "millionaire", I am sure women on that app would think I am either retarded or a liar or fraud. Nah, if you posted that you would still get women flocking to your profile. Well maybe if you list it THAT way they will think it's a fake profile but if you put you're wealthy and some pics of your car or house then they will flock like flies on sh**. Heck, women flaunt themselves and beef up their jobs and status on the dating sites as well. Actually, it seems the older women like over 30 are attracted to cash more based on the dating profiles they have a higher importance for that. Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Eugeleh Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 So if my business takes off and I make 100k a year and buy an expensive car shoudl I post pics of it on my online dating profile and brag about my income? I've never bragged about my own income. Not my style. But I've been driving a nice car since I've been earning a high income. If you're going to imply wealth then you had best be able to back it up, otherwise you look like a buffoon. I figure it's best to be honest. If you're doing well then you do yourself no favours hiding it; if you;re struggling then you do yourself no favours pretending otherwise.
Eugeleh Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 The point is that I am sure money helps, but if the goal is getting laid, good social skills are more important. I do love money though, even though I don't think I am happier than before, but I love it anyway Financial security is a huge plus. But without a social network you'll come across as a lone wolf. Nothing wrong with loving being wealthy, even it doesn't make you happy in and of itself. Good luck. You seem like a decent person.
bluesfan Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 (edited) Nothing wrong with loving being wealthy, even it doesn't make you happy in and of itself. I mean, Trump is a celeb but never comes off as having TONs of friends. Famous yes, but not a huge extrovert and look at the woman he gets. Then again when you got billions I really don't think women take personality into a huge account. I mean, Trump is not attactive looking and is overweight and women throw themselves at them. Btw I'm not attacking the President. I voted for him and will vote again for him but just stating the obvious when using him as an example of a guy not really that good looking but still gets a really hot wife and even though he cheated likely, she still sticks with him $$ Edited June 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Logo Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 Sorry, but unlike dating coaches who can be helpful, life coaches can be frauds. They are no more qualified than your grandmother's best advice. Stick with a physical trainer. Get one just for you. Get in the best shape you have ever been in and then go traveling. The more you experience, the more you'll learn. You can't learn that from a life coach. Don't go on guided tours, unless you want your hand held the entire trip. Find a travel buddy. Go on Trip Advisor and post about where you want to go and what you're looking for. There are people there pairing up all the time just to travel together.
crispytoast Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 On the dating profile, just have clothes that visibly have quality fabric and have a few pictures doing interesting activities. Skip the pictures of your car & house, posting those is mad tacky. If you're trying to use wealth to your advantage, get a really nice watch. Make sure that it's very subtle and not looking like you're trying to show it off. You'll get more attention, but please do ask yourself if it's the kind of attention you really want to receive. Being at all flashy will create an expectation that you are going to spend on them.
d0nnivain Posted June 22, 2019 Posted June 22, 2019 The point is that I am sure money helps, but if the goal is getting laid, good social skills are more important. Good social skills help with finding a relationship. Getting laid can be bought. Knowing that what are you doing to improve your social skills? Sorry, but unlike dating coaches who can be helpful, life coaches can be frauds. They are no more qualified than your grandmother's best advice. . I'd say the reverse is true. But both professions are in a grey unregulated area. The trick is to actually read the person's qualifications / education. If you are looking for a life coach to teach you soft skills, like navigating social situations, you want somebody with a background in sociology, psychology or a similar field & look for one who attended something like Coach U or another legitimate training school. When I hire business coaches I'm looking for somebody who was successful in their field. The social stuff is a bit harder to quantify but you also have to click with the person.
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