Pay 100% when I lose Interest

[Clark89]

The general consenus is that when I ask a woman out on a dinner date and she offers to pay half the bill then that's a sign she is not interested in future dates and does not want to feel like she owes me something. I get that. In that scenario I go home and throw her phone number away.

 

I believe whoever asks for the date should pay 100%. However when a woman asks me to lunch/dinner or even just for coffee and I lose interest during the date then do you think I should go ahead and pay 100% of the date? This would prove to her that I did not accept the date just to get a free meal/drink.

 

I don't think it is classy to accept a free meal from a woman unless I dig her. I either do everything in my power to pay 100% of the bill or mail her a gift card overnight delivery or mail her a check reimbursing her for the costs.

Edited June 17, 2019 by Clark89

[SophieG]

Is it just me or is this making dating way too complicated!? I’m a woman and I ALWAYS offer to pay on the first date, whether I’m super interested or not... it is not a reflection of my level of interest, it’s simply manners.

I would personally be offended to receive a gift card. A simple « sorry this isn’t going to work out » would be enough for me. I would still pay 100% of the meal if I wasn’t interested, but that’s me.

[I'veseenbetterlol]

Is it just me or is this making dating way too complicated!? I’m a woman and I ALWAYS offer to pay on the first date, whether I’m super interested or not... it is not a reflection of my level of interest, it’s simply manners.

I would personally be offended to receive a gift card. A simple « sorry this isn’t going to work out » would be enough for me. I would still pay 100% of the meal if I wasn’t interested, but that’s me.

 

So I don't mind when a man treats me, but I'm also not a gold digger. I always offer to pay half. When my bf and I started dating, I paid for one of the later dates.

[Clark89]

So I don't mind when a man treats me' date=' but I'm also not a gold digger. I always offer to pay half. When my bf and I started dating, I paid for one of the later dates.[/quote']

 

Nothing wrong with the woman paying if she asks for the date. To me it is not a gender thing. It is about who asks.

[gradh]

Wow...I never would have thought offering to pay half meant I wasn't interested in the man. I just started seeing someone. I offered to pay for half of dinner on our first date, he wouldn't hear of it. The next date he let me when I said "it's not really fair for you to pay for everything all the time" On our 5th or 6th date he let me treat him to dinner.

 

I am interested in him, not in his money. I thought offering to help pay for dinner would help to convey that to him and it seems like it did. We've had a few dates that were essentially free and had a great time.

 

I think you are WAY over thinking this. Many women don't want to take advantage of a man.

[Clark89]

Wow...I never would have thought offering to pay half meant I wasn't interested in the man. I just started seeing someone. I offered to pay for half of dinner on our first date, he wouldn't hear of it. The next date he let me when I said "it's not really fair for you to pay for everything all the time" On our 5th or 6th date he let me treat him to dinner.

 

I am interested in him, not in his money. I thought offering to help pay for dinner would help to convey that to him and it seems like it did. We've had a few dates that were essentially free and had a great time.

 

I think you are WAY over thinking this. Many women don't want to take advantage of a man.

 

 

I don't look at it as taking advantage of a man to let him pay 100% when he asked for the date. If I ask you out then I am 1p0% responsible for the expenses. If you want to pay then you ask me out.

[Cersei]

I don't look at it as taking advantage of a man to let him pay 100% when he asked for the date. If I ask you out then I am 1p0% responsible for the expenses. If you want to pay then you ask me out.

 

No that is not how it works. I always offer to pay. It is not fair for one party to get stuck with the bill all the time.

[d0nnivain]

I think your premise is flawed. I agree with you that the person who asks should pay. That said, in this modern world most good women offer to pay half not as a sign of disinterest but as signal that they are independent, not looking for a free meal. Stop throwing away their #s. Her offer is a sign that she likes you as a person not a meal ticket.

 

I will share that as a woman, if a guy asked me on a date & I really didn't like him, at that point I would pay the whole thing just to never have to speak to him again about anything.

[Curiousroxy86]

I can’t with y’all.....

 

If your dating stance is whoever asks pays then let her pay

 

If you prefer to pay because you feel guilty taking money when you lose interest then you pay.

 

Make a decision and see how it makes you feel. If it doesn’t feel right make a different decision.

[SmartDude]

Too many rules does nothing good. You could end up filtering out good prospects because they are not aware of your very specific arbitrary conditions.

[Curiousroxy86]

Too many rules does nothing good. You could end up filtering out good prospects because they are not aware of your very specific arbitrary conditions.

 

Bet you have a rule

 

Don’t you have something against women who associates sex with love?

[Logo]

Nothing wrong with the woman paying if she asks for the date. To me it is not a gender thing. It is about who asks.

 

I've said it before and I'll say it again, since the number of women who ask men out is minuscule, women have an inherent advantage. Chalk it up to the excuse or the old fashioned notion that men should be the ones doing the asking.

 

I would agree with you if we were talking about friendships, but not romantic relationships. Who does the asking is irrelevant in my view. In the end, both sides have a vested interest in meeting one another. It's a two way street. They have to meet somehow, regardless of who does the asking.

 

 

Many women don't want to take advantage of a man.

 

 

It doesn't matter if it's many or few. There are self-entitled women out there who bring little to nothing to the table in terms of personality, character and manners. They have no qualms taking advantage of a man, any man. They will rationalize it in a million ways, including some women on this very forum. They have their standards and made-up rules, you see? Let the pile on begin. See if I care.

 

 

The bottom line is that each person should pay for what he consumes and if the two continue dating, they can start alternating.

 

Think about it, for the sake of argument, if we stick with old fashioned bs rules, imagine how many women get free meals and drinks on a regular basis. They are complete strangers.

 

Why should one gender be treated differently than another gender? To make up for decades of gender inequality?

 

Both genders are equals and no gender is better than the other.

[Curiousroxy86]

The bottom line is that each person should pay for what he consumes and if the two continue dating, they can start alternating.

 

 

Then do that logo

 

It’s your world

 

First date Let her know beforehand or tell the waiter we are seperate

 

And anybody else who are not even dating you who’s don’t do what you do you get to look at them with the shameful eye and shake your point finger at them

 

There problem solved