peerson99 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 i´m gonna start with telling you that i´m new to the dating world, im 19 and had never dated anyone before this guy. i rarely like guys and rarely feel attracted to them so, but when i saw this guy one year ago i was instantly attracted to him. I crushed on him for about a year, thought about him a lot and i would always compare him to other guys i met ( i tend to put them on a pedestal since i rarely like anyone) two months ago is started seeing him. Short after his girlfriend broke up with him we had a thing. he said he had always find me attractive ( which i knew) and kinda liked me, and told me he wanted to get to know me better, that we would be a good match. he asked me out later that week. Then he asked me out again, had a great time, then at the end of the date asked me to his place but i didnt go because i wasnt ready .he asked me out again for the weekend but then during the week texted me what i was doing one day, we met some friends at his place. i stayed over and that night of course he tried to get physical. I liked it but when things started heating up i said that i couldnt have sex but didnt give an explanation, we spend the night fooling around a bit and cuddling. A few days after i texted him if he wanted to do something that week to which he replied yes. But two days after he was meeting a friend we have in common and he wanted me to come,didnt ask me directly tho and asked the friend went to his and had a good time, then asked if i wanted to spend the night, but i didnt for other reasons. after that didnt hear from him for 5 days so i texted him had a bit of small talk, the conversation died. this was 5 days ago and i havent heard from him. We never really texted in between dates but he was always the one initiating dates and now he has disappeared. I thought maybe he is waiting for me to ask him out but i mean, i texted him and showed that i was thinking about him. i kinda guess he just wanted to sleep with me and gave up. might have been lonely and used me as a rebound and now he is tired of it. I think its kinda weird to break off contact like that after going on dates and stuff. I wanted to text him to talk about it but also im just thinking whether its better to just forget about it, since he is not reaching out to me anymore and it might make things awkward. But its so weird to me.Not having any closure. We havent seen each other in 2 weeks. Even if i didnt sleep with him, i felt as i was being intimate with him so its making me hard to forget the times we spend together:( he even invited to to this event taking placein two months...meh, i guess to get me into bed.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Sounds like a rebound type thing to me. Be cautious when starting to date someone new. Don't get super attached until they prove they care about you. 1
Flame Aura Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 As a guy, I can say with certainty he contacted you and starting spending time with you to sleep with you. I did the exact same thing as him after I broke up with my ex. No guy is going to want to jump straight into a new relationship after a break up, we feel we need to have some fun first.
kendahke Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 i´m gonna start with telling you that i´m new to the dating world, im 19 and had never dated anyone before this guy. Even if i didnt sleep with him, i felt as i was being intimate with him so its making me hard to forget the times we spend together:( he even invited to to this event taking placein two months...meh, i guess to get me into bed. And even if you did sleep with him, that's still not a contract for anything more. He could have ghosted you after the fact. Right now, at least you don't have that in your arsenal of self-recriminations. Word to the wise: guys who are on the heels of a break up aren't looking for their next girlfriend or relationship. They're looking for something warm and inviting to take their minds off of being out of their relationship. If you know they've recently broken up, then know that what you're trying to conjure up with them may fizzle before 2 weeks is over. Prends garde à toi !
d0nnivain Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 I'm going to assume he's about your age. It reads like he wanted sex. When sex wasn't forthcoming he lost interest. You can't sleep with a guy just to keep him. That cheapens intercourse. You have to stick to your guns & your morals. If you weren't ready so be it. Unfortunately young guys are impatient & it's not that tough to find a willing bed mate. Since you weren't DTF he has moved on. Closure comes from within. You won't ever get closure after a break up from the other person. You have to make peace with it yourself. Hugs. First break ups are tough because you have nothing to compare it to. Going forward, know there is another guy out there for you. Be true to yourself & you will love to love again.
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