SugarLips72 Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 I can’t even begin to tell you the week I’ve had. We met 4 weeks ago. Instant connection. I’m 47 2 kids. He’s 40 no kids. Hit it off and for 3 weeks saw each other almost every night. Went hiking. Had a movie/ date night last fri. Well last weekend things started getting slightly weird. Sunday was sons bday. I started feeling sick the day before. I have IBD-basically Crohns so I have a troublesome GI tract but it doesn’t bother me most days. Sun was sons bday. Sun night I went to his apt that day his texting and communication with me started tapering off. Mon high fever called into work. Been off and on sick with fever fatigue feeling like crap. Briefly saw him tue I stopped by his apt. Then he has just slowly disappeared. For a brief moment wondering if he gave me something timing sure was coincidental and we haven’t been safe. Had blood work ran and a couple concerning labs. Hiv text neg DR not concerned about that but I’m paranoid but I’ll need to get re- tested in a few weeks for 100% certainty. Anyways he’s totally ghosted me. He has some stuff in my garage he left here for me to hold since he was moving into small apt. I sent him a text telling him to come get his stuff ASAP and no response. I haven’t heard from Him since yesterday afternoon. So contact has gone from 25-30 texts a day and a phone call to nothing. = ghosted. I have no idea why. He is not the first guy to do this but most do it when they do it after a couple dates and not almost 4 weeks in I have no idea why this continues to happen to me. I cannot keep a guy for more than a few weeks. Words of wisdom? I don’t want his crap here anymore. A few items are valuable -golf clubs. An autographed football from all star QB and 2 small clear boxes in what are clearly personal documents. I have no idea why he would leave those here and not put them in his closet. Thoughts? Be gentle. It’s been a terrible week.
JuneL Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 Is there a possibility something happened to him in his sleep?
smackie9 Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 Stop contacting him and keep his stuff. If he contacts you tell him he owes you for storage. After 30 days, sell it.
Author SugarLips72 Posted June 15, 2019 Author Posted June 15, 2019 I have no interest in the football so I am going to sell it and the golf clubs if I don’t hear back. I will send him a final text next weekend with my intentions as he has abandoned the property. This is so weird. I have no idea what to do with the personal effects. His divorce decree and years of taxes are in there. He is so dumb. I may drop it off at his apt complex office
The Outlaw Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 I'm sorry you're going through this, but with as painful as it is, if he ghosted you, you really haven't lost anything. When someone does that, it says more about them and has little to do with you. If that's how he wants to play it, just dump his stuff.
FMW Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 Sun night I went to his apt that day his texting and communication with me started tapering off. Mon high fever called into work. Been off and on sick ...........Had blood work ran and a couple concerning labs. Hiv text neg ......... Anyways he’s totally ghosted me.......I sent him a text telling him to come get his stuff ASAP ..........haven’t heard from Him since yesterday afternoon Looking back over this a few things occurred to me. (1) His texting dropped off while you were sick - maybe he was just leaving you alone to recuperate. (2) Sounds like you immediately suspected him of giving you something - did you say (text) something to him about that? Why were you immediately suspicious of him giving you something instead of just coming down with some kind of normal bug in addition to your Crohns? (3) You sent him a text telling him to come get his stuff ASAP - so basically you were the one breaking it off, and if so that seems a little quick on the draw when it's been less than a week since it all started. (4) You last heard from him yesterday afternoon. So he wasn't really ghosting you, just keeping lower contact - until he gets your "come get your stuff" text and so now he's probably just processing it. I'm not trying to beat you up at all, it's just that it seems there is a lot of room here for misunderstandings and over-reaction. Are you sure you're reading all of this right?
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