norudder Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 (edited) Had a lunch date last Friday that wasn't really a date to start but kind of turned into one. This was after meeting someone at a friend's benefit party. It kind of evolved through conversation as my idea when I realized we live close, that he ran with. We expressed mutual interest in seeing each other again, kissed at car before leaving, no specific plans set but he said he'd call. A couple texts between just flirting. Then he called Wednesday as I was on my way to a park (lots of maintained trails and bikepaths) and he said sounds fun so I invited him to join. We walked a couple hours just talking. Held hands a little kissing, great conversations. He asked me to lunch on Sunday (kids will be with their dad, his are adult and out of town), and maybe dinner Monday. I sent him a text Thurs with the name of a company recommendation we'd discussed and that I looked fwd to Sunday. No response. And now Friday, still nothing definite set for time and place. He knows I have my kids so maybe he's giving space, he'd said after the first lunch he'd waited to reach out because he knew my sister was visiting. But a text doesn't take long and is a nice way to say someone's thinking of you no? Not sure if it's more for me or for him. Hes recently divorced, though was separated a year prior. He didn't say he was looking for a relationship but is open to one developing. He has a reputation as a decent guy and a mutual friend said he'd treat me well, but not always the most socially intuitive, which so far he has treated me well. Maybe the other part is a flag. He seemed keen. I know I am. He was already ok with potentially going forward exclusively, not committed obviously but just getting to know each other one on one vs multi dating. Hope he'll set plans tomorrow. How should it be interpreted if he doesn't reach out until Sunday morning? Or just asks what I want to do without having made any effort of a plan? Proceed with caution or is he just looking for what he can get? I don't want to feel like I'm taking the lead or chasing, and I don't think he'd disappear, it's just the pace, I'm used to a little more enthusiasm and decisive momentum. Is this a growth opportunity for me to be patient and let it develop or is he not ready despite being interested? Edited June 15, 2019 by norudder
smackie9 Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 (edited) IMO your text didn't need a response. You already reached out to him, the ball is in his court now. If he doesn't reach out, that shows he is unreliable. Dump the chump. Tip: if you are getting lunch dates, and Sunday brunches, he's dating someone else or others. Friday and Saturday nights are prime time..if you are not getting those, you are not high on the priority list. Edited June 15, 2019 by smackie9
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