guest569 Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 And don't splash out $200 on first date dinners if it's hurting your wallet. No way!
alphamale Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 I dated a guy last year who was into feet. He liked to touch and suck on my toes during sex. So I got pedicures more often and that's $30 a month or so. Sorry if that's TMI but you did ask! did he make you wear high heels during sex?
Els Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 We broke up in March, Oh, sorry to hear that. I know we tend to disagree on threads like this, but I think you're a good guy. IMO, women who don't mind splitting bills can generally tell between a man who genuinely cares about egalitarianism, or a man who picks and chooses as it suits him, or who is doing it out of some sort of deep rooted resentment towards women. I think it's quite clear that you're the former, so I'm fairly certain you'll be able to find a compatible woman who will be happy to date you, especially as you don't have unrealistic expectations of female appearance. However, I've also seen these women allocate the same amount of time to get ready for work, go out with their girlfriends, go shopping, etc.. I think this varies from person to person. Some do, some don't. 1
Iris The Butterfly Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 (edited) No, Alpha, but he was really into me keeping my panties on during sex, also liked me to wear socks or stockings during too. Tore a couple pairs of panties and nighties to rip my clothes off. Kinky!! I liked it So... sometimes I bought a special pair of panties or lingerie while I was dating him. That was a cost that was worth it. I don't do that for my bf now... he likes me totally naked. Free! But maybe I should... ok, I'd spend money on that. Edited June 15, 2019 by littlebridge 1
Author Shining One Posted June 15, 2019 Author Posted June 15, 2019 I know we tend to disagree on threads like this, but I think you're a good guy. IMO, women who don't mind splitting bills can generally tell between a man who genuinely cares about egalitarianism, or a man who picks and chooses as it suits him, or who is doing it out of some sort of deep rooted resentment towards women. I think it's quite clear that you're the former, so I'm fairly certain you'll be able to find a compatible woman who will be happy to date you, especially as you don't have unrealistic expectations of female appearance.Thank you, I really appreciate this. I won't be looking for a while, but I will be, in due time. 1
Author Shining One Posted June 15, 2019 Author Posted June 15, 2019 Sorry if that's TMI but you did ask!Not TMI at all. This is a learning experience for me and you've brought up things I hadn't even considered.
FMW Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 women who don't mind splitting bills can generally tell between a man who genuinely cares about egalitarianism, or a man who picks and chooses as it suits him, or who is doing it out of some sort of deep rooted resentment towards women. I completely agree with this. 1
basil67 Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 This whole thing is really foreign to me and was trying to imagine if I was dating. My beauty and clothes regime is really low maintenance. I rarely wear make up, but when I do, it's supermarket brand. My hair is cropped short, so all I pay for is colour and a bit of product. I don't spend time at the beautician's and as my body hair is sparse and fair, I rarely shave it. With the exception of thrift stores, I don't like clothes shopping and have a much smaller wardrobe than many. The clothes I do have are a mixture of alternative/homemade style and basics which I update as required. While it's not a bad thing to have a partner who's a high income earner, it's not something I place high value on. I'd just as happily date a teacher. As long as he's employable and doing a job that the doesn't hate, that's what I ask. On a date, he can pay for the cheap Thai and I'll bring the wine and pay for the parking. He doesn't have to be dressed to the nines, but do have a decent haircut and presentable clothing. I don't care if I'm taller than he is. This dating as a lifestyle and expectations of the opposite sex are something I can't fathom. If we crack each other up on a regular basis and there's respect and an open personality, that's all I'd need to progress things further. 3
todreaminblue Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 i feel getting ready for a date in time and effort is just....something you do i might buy a new outfit or a pair of shoes or a new lipstick but i dont attribute that to the cost of a date just something i do ..i would wear those shoes or the outfit not out on dates........ im a cheap date anyway.....so i would get a bit offended if i knew the guy was counting every cent he spent.....why would he do that? so he can calculate how much i owe him or what he expects after the date is worth the money...like head or a grope for dessert with a steak...... so would he be calculating what i have to do or allow to make it up for the money he spent.....i buy my own dinner i go dutch....and i dont attribute that to the money i spend on a date either.....just a simple way i am not obliged to do anything but enjoy my time with the date i have chosen to be with and i dont owe anything after or during the date ...than just to be honest and just myself and hopefully be an enjoyable interesting date for the guy i am with.... my rule of thumb is if i cant afford to buy my own dinner...i dont date..and i dont expect a guy to count up coin on dates either...if he does this...he isnt right for me....if he hasnt enough money then before the date....work out a date that costs next to nothing and make it special .....its what i would do.....and if i cant do that..again...i dont date......i dont want a guy obsessed with the cost of taking me on a date...its not...romantic at all....its off putting..........deb 1
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