theguy123 Posted June 14, 2019 Posted June 14, 2019 (edited) Hi Guys- How do you stop yourself from the guilt of taking someone for granted? I've posted on here before about my ex (left after 10 months and seeing new dude within a week) but I can't seem to let go of feeling like I drove her to it. Anyone have any experience with that? I have been NC.. it just seems like the opposite of what I should be doing if the problems were she didnt think i cared enough. Edited June 14, 2019 by theguy123
PRW Posted June 14, 2019 Posted June 14, 2019 If she had a guy in a week then that was already in the works before you got dumped. She was probably shopping for the last 2 months you were together. This means the situation was probably in trouble around month 5-6. Women often make sure they have the replacement properly lined up and ready to go before they let go of the one they have. AKA - "Monkey Branching". As far as why? Impossible to say.
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2019 Posted June 14, 2019 (edited) When you are truly in love, you put the other person's needs before yours & they do the same thing for you. If you were truly a neglectful BF, you learn from those mistakes & you pay more attention to your partner in the next relationship. Because she took up with a new guy so quickly, she wasn't feeling the depth of feeling you had or she is someone who can't be alone. Either way she would make a poor partner for your now. According to your other thread this betray was in the works before you & she ended. Your alleged best friend was already grooming her & scheming with her to betray you. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/684566-break-up Edited June 14, 2019 by d0nnivain
Inspire Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 There really isn't a whole lot you can do but learn from your mistakes and not repeat them again in your next relationship. Did she discuss this throughout your relationship?
Author theguy123 Posted June 15, 2019 Author Posted June 15, 2019 No, she never brought anything up. Saw her out tonight for the first time with new guy... I’m struggling.
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2019 Posted June 15, 2019 Seeing them together had to be painful. I hope that image serves as a catalyst to spur you forward in your healing because now you know there is no going back. Best wishes
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