doyathinkso Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 (edited) Skanzer, you are wasting your time. SHE is dating HIM. Not YOU. How does it feel, simmering away on the back burner? SHE is playing you for a fool. AND YOU are playing right along. Wake up. Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
some_username1 Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 (edited) @doyathinkso... Erm...if she is seeing OP 5 times a week it sounds like she doesn't have any time to date the other guy! I personally get the impression from the finer details that this isn't as black and white as everyone is making out. Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
some_username1 Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 (edited) ....I sent this message to her and her only response is “Trust me... only normal friend....” and she stopped answering me. Well there you go...put everything else to one side and ask yourself: Do you trust her? Is she, in general, a trust worthy person? Do you know much about her moral code? Everyone on here will jump to conclusions because they think they have seen all this before but everyone is different and from what you say if she is seeing you 5 times a week and the physical stuff is as it always was then it doesn't sound clear cut at all and it comes down to a character judgement call- but really you are the only one who knows her actual character and that is the key 10% that we can't help you with. Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
preraph Posted June 18, 2019 Posted June 18, 2019 So if you're going to keep her, then the next rule is, you only see your "just a friend" when I'M there. Come one. Her gf isn't going to keep her from cheating on you.
Highndry Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 I just know that this situation would not work for me, and I'd tell her so then bail. It doesn't sound like it's working that well for you, either, as you made this thread and numerous others.
frus69 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) Why dont you just be honest with yourself that you will never be ok with this situation? And get out before it's too late? I dont know who you are trying to convince here. Yourself? that this relationship is a bless ? Or us? Do you want us to tell you "there is nothing wrong" ? You sound really desperate that you want us to tell you everything is going to be fine. Edited June 19, 2019 by frus69
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) I told her it bothered me and she agreed to not meet him 1 on 1. Maybe it's wrong for me to expect her to completely cut this friend off from her life who she has friend history with even before we met and they share mutual friends..... The fact that she agreed to not hang out with him 1 on 1 is a positive thing but the fact that you still haven't met him is a very bad thing. For all you know this other guy thinks she is single. The fact that she still sees him after you said that it bothers you shows that she doesn't care bout your feelings. It is definitely inconsiderate under the circumstances. Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author skanzer Posted June 19, 2019 Author Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) @d0nnivain.... Today, she dressed really nice to work, she sent me a photo. She wore high heels and dress etc. Note: she usually NEVER wears high heels. She said she's going to meet her 1 girl friend to watch a movie after work. I asked her if anyone else is going, she said she's not sure. She ended up telling me that the "crush" will come. She already saw him Friday, Sunday and now Wednesday (today), and I told her it bothers me, and she keeps doing this. Honestly, it's coming to a point where I might just really breakup. FRIDAY, SUNDAY AND WEDNESDAY ALREADY SHE HAS SEEN THE GUY! And this is all happening when I'm out of town when she should be MOST considerate because I'm away. Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
doyathinkso Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) I've said it before and I'll say it again!!!!!!!!! Skanzer, you are wasting your time. SHE is dating HIM. Not YOU. How does it feel, simmering away on the back burner? SHE is playing you for a fool. AND YOU are playing right along. Wake up. Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 (edited) TShe already saw him Friday, Sunday and now Wednesday (today), and I told her it bothers me, and she keeps doing this..... More evidence that you are 2nd choice! Does she have to send you a video of him taking that dress & those high heels off of her for you to get the message that you don't matter? Edited June 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
olivetree Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 You keep telling her it bothers you that she hangs out with him. You need to back up that boundary and walk away. When you keep stating a boundary and don't do anything to enforce it (ie. tell her it's over), it makes you look weak/unattractive. I'm not trying to make you feel bad or to make how you appear be your greatest priority in all of this, but I find it always helps me to know how my behaviour comes off. Time to be strong and show it by not tolerating a situation that bothers you so much. It would bother me too. 1
Highndry Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 Buddy, she is playing you for a fool, and you're acting the part.
frus69 Posted June 19, 2019 Posted June 19, 2019 Guys, OP is not gonna leave her. He's already made a number of threads and he's still here. 1
Interstellar Posted June 20, 2019 Posted June 20, 2019 Guys, OP is not gonna leave her. He's already made a number of threads and he's still here. Yes, some guys are unfixable.
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