toriphile78 Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 I have been online dating using Match for a while. Recently I decided to give Tinder a try. I went out on one date with a guy I met through Match about 1 month ago (exactly to the day actually). We had a nice time, I thought it went well. He hugged me good bye, but didn't bring up wanting to see me again. The next morning, he sent me a message on Match the next morning stating he had a nice time but wanted to just be friends. Fair enough. I went on with my life and then today I see he "liked" me on Tinder. My pictures are the same and I have my profession and town where I live listed, so he had to have known it was me. Why do guys do this? Clearly he's not interested in dating me, so why show interest on a different dating app? He has my phone number - he accidentally texted me once when he meant to send it to his coworker with the same name. I am still active on Match, so if he was interested in seeing me again it would have made sense to go down either avenue. I suppose maybe he mistakenly swiped right instead of left, but does anyone else done or encountered this?
Mrin Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 A lot of dudes swipe right on everyone and see who matches up. 4
emeraldgreen Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 He could have swiped ages ago and you were the one who completed the match He could do the rapid-fire swipe like Mrin wrote His options might have dried up and he wants to bone you Pick one, but they all equal low/no interest in dating. 4
smackie9 Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 Ya when guys say let's stay friends....they just want to bone ya not date ya. Block/delete this guy. 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 who cares why reserve your care for guys who want to date you, get to know you, and interested in what your looking for you will not know the real truth from us anyway its all speculation here some if you still cant help yourself... he find your initial picture attractive but forgot he talked to you before. lol I have did this many times. clicked on a guy profile and thought he cute thinking its a different new guy and not until you look at his other pictures in the actual profile I realized its someone I have talked to before . he probably hit like as kind of a nod to being acquainted with you before even if briefly as if to say "hi again" but not wanting any more conversation he probably recognize you and know that he have talked to you before and still find your picture attractive and threw a like your way he probably accidentally hit like on your page so many variables it could be and NONE of it matters 1
Andy_K Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 I'll always swipe right on people I've matched with or met up with before, just out of curiosity to see if they do the same.
rightondude Posted June 13, 2019 Posted June 13, 2019 I'll always swipe right on people I've matched with or met up with before, just out of curiosity to see if they do the same. same, but not for women I've chosen to no longer go out with.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted June 13, 2019 Posted June 13, 2019 He prob doesn't remember you, no offense.
cammie Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 For me, it does not mean anything. There is no sense why to expect anything from a person who clearly told you that is not interested in you. There is no reason why to even think about it. I know it sounds cruel but it is the truth. I advise you to immediately stop thinking about him and to start searching for your next match There is no reason why to waste your time.
kendahke Posted June 26, 2019 Posted June 26, 2019 . I suppose maybe he mistakenly swiped right instead of left, but does anyone else done or encountered this? Tinder does have a feature where you can recall your swipe, so if it was really a mistake, he could have fixed it. He was most likely "chumming the waters" and swiping right on everyone. Yes, I've had the same experience. I went years without being on an app and when I joined Tinder, it seems all the guys who shined me on back then are all on Tinder chumming the waters.
TheFinalWord Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 I've had women do this...it may not be intentional. I only do Tinder when I'm bored waiting in line. Just swipe away, and I don't really put a lot of thought into it. Also, I think the back track feature is a paid feature. If he's using the free version, he can't go back.
OatsAndHall Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 Ya when guys say let's stay friends....they just want to bone ya not date ya. Block/delete this guy. My thoughts too... I think the OP was tossed on the OLD Rolodex; the guy is dating multiple women, those dates didn't pan out so he came back to the OP. He's either looking to get laid or he's just cycling through the Rolodex. This happens to me via OLD consistently; go on a date with a gal, get ghosted/"friended" but they're texting me a few weeks down the road.
crispytoast Posted June 28, 2019 Posted June 28, 2019 He hugged you goodbye on the first date. This tells you everything you need to know.
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