preraph Posted July 26, 2019 Posted July 26, 2019 What else could you possibly think? He's given no reason for you to be hopeful he wants you back. He's tried to avoid getting together with you and made clear it's going to be a controlled meetup.
Author mejustme Posted July 26, 2019 Author Posted July 26, 2019 Yeah, he's not trying to get back together. He is just trying to make you understand it's over and he doesn't want to get trapped in his house with you and not be able to get up and leave if necessary. Honestly, you should just let him off the hook and move on. It sounds like he gave you every polite excuse not to meet and then didn't know what to say when you cornered him by saying you'd come over. Please trust some of us on here and realize you are just about to get hurt and humiliated. And what's worse than the hurt you already have is when you are angry at yourself for groveling and just humiliating yourself and then you have to live with yourself after that. Well why even bother to accept a meeting? He could’ve not answered the text, after all I thought I was blocked anyway.
Author mejustme Posted July 26, 2019 Author Posted July 26, 2019 What else could you possibly think? He's given no reason for you to be hopeful he wants you back. He's tried to avoid getting together with you and made clear it's going to be a controlled meetup. He isn’t the type to agree to something so not to hurt someone else’s feelings. I didn’t twist his arm. Idk what to think anymore. I think I reacted before thinking and I was happy that he even agreed to meet with me and then I reread the text and it clicked. I have no clue how to back out now bc what if, just what if? I don’t think he would’ve even responded to me at all. Idk, I really don’t
preraph Posted July 26, 2019 Posted July 26, 2019 So he's actually blocked you. That doesn't really say, I want to get back together, does it? Why not just tell him you want to get back together over the phone and ask him if there's any chance of it and if not, then tell him never mind, we won't meet. I mean, maybe he'll say "No" or maybe he'll say "We can talk about it," in which case not sure why he'd be so sly about where he wants to have the conversation.
Author mejustme Posted July 28, 2019 Author Posted July 28, 2019 So he's actually blocked you. That doesn't really say, I want to get back together, does it? Why not just tell him you want to get back together over the phone and ask him if there's any chance of it and if not, then tell him never mind, we won't meet. I mean, maybe he'll say "No" or maybe he'll say "We can talk about it," in which case not sure why he'd be so sly about where he wants to have the conversation. Felt compelled to give you an update and ask your opinion on this text that I received almost 6 hours later from him. I did meet him at his house, we didn’t leave, we talked and made a little headway ( not toward reconciliation-which is kind of what I was hoping for) but it went better than I anticipated. I said what I had and wanted to say as did he. Both agreed that without trust we won’t have anything. I’m sad and was hoping to figure things out. Anyhow, I told him how I felt and left gracefully. And then 6 hours later he sends this, “ You should know I was fine until you stopped I’m really pissed off at you Ty for that” no clue what that even means. No, I didn’t respond, but I am one of those people that needs to know why? Why even send this? Why did he have to let me know that he was fine until I stopped? It was a prearranged meeting...not like I just showed up unannounced.
Highndry Posted July 28, 2019 Posted July 28, 2019 Stopped what? This guy sounds like a clown. No decent man sends a text like that. He sounds like an emotional wimp.
Author mejustme Posted July 28, 2019 Author Posted July 28, 2019 Stopped what? This guy sounds like a clown. No decent man sends a text like that. He sounds like an emotional wimp. I think he meant stopped by, but idk.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 28, 2019 Posted July 28, 2019 Based on your other threads (which I believe have been merged into this one), this guy treats you like utter crap. If you are hoping for Happily Ever After, you won't find it with him. All you are going to get here is a dramatic, crazy-making, painful roller coaster. The question is simply how long you're going to put yourself through it. 1
Author mejustme Posted July 28, 2019 Author Posted July 28, 2019 We are trying to work through things, I think, but idk. What does this mean? “I do appreciate what your saying it just I’m ready for the end game and with the past and what’s happened not sure we’re there” I then ask him, “ you are not sure we are where” and he replied “ end game” please someone help me understand this. I just can’t deal with this anymore.
Author mejustme Posted July 29, 2019 Author Posted July 29, 2019 I misunderstood the meaning of endgame. I guess it means marriage or settling down. I thought it meant he wasn’t ready to end it. Ugh!
Normm Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 When you ask him "I'm not sure where we are", and you are expecting a response and he says "End Game" the next thing you should say is "Can you please answer in complete and easy to understand sentences, thank you". I read your recent posts. He is clearly messing with your head and seems to get a sadistic thrill out of doing it, and the more abusive behavior he dishes out the more you seem to ask for.
nolanola Posted July 29, 2019 Posted July 29, 2019 Ok, real talk. This guy does not want to get back together with you. At least not right now. But he is more than happy to string you along and play along with your efforts to keep in touch with him. He is never going to want the same things you want and you are just going to wind up getting hurt again and again and again. I have been there. It's really hard to stop. But you have got to cut this guy out of your life. All of this stressing over what he might mean on some lame text message is just sad. It makes me feel sad for you because you deserve a lot better than that. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Full stop. There is not a gun to his head keeping him from trying to get back together. In fact, you keep reaching out to him and he keeps not getting back together with you. He's entertaining you and I think that is where you are having the hard time here. Honestly, the best thing he could do is to stop responding or to block you. Please, stop feeding this guy's ego and advertising yourself as his back up plan. You deserve better. Cut him off and let him find out what it's like to not have you in his life.
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