Is this being responsible?

[Seekingresponsible]

If you’re in a situation where you’re in a very loving relationship but want to move forward by living together what would you do if your significant other had a history of somewhat mismanaging their money. They generally pay their bills on time but they seem to barely breakeven at the end of the month and sometimes or a bit in the hole. On paper they shouldn’t be struggling like this but they don’t gamble or spend money on luxury items. They just seem to be a bit behind no matter what they earn.

 

You are very budget conscious and you never find yourself in that type of situation and in fact budget yourself so well that you save money.

 

Would you trust this person to live with you even if they have a hard time in any particular month paying all their bills in full and may even run slightly behind? You were gonna be relying on this other person to pay you a share of the household expenses and expecting them to live up to their promise to you without excuse. If they claim they have become more responsible and that you should trust them would you? Or would you not allow them to move in or possibly break up if you’ve given them multiple chances to address this issue and you have something to lose if they move in but they don’t?

Edited June 11, 2019 by Seekingresponsible

[ridgerunner1965]

Just be aware. It will be a struggle. You will pay for everything.get used to it

[BaileyB]

I think you have described most anyone at some point in their life.

 

Seriously, if you want to move in together, make a budget and decide who is going to pay what. You should save money, because you will be sharing expenses. And then, keep your money separate.

[Seekingresponsible]

Would your opinion change if you learned your SO used money belonging to a an elderly family member (and they are the only adult child of the senior member) to pay some of their own bills?