Phai1 Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 I met this girl around 3 months ago and finally had the balls to ask her on a date. She said yes and we decided to go take a walk at the ocean. Well, so the day came and we said we are going to meet at around 5:30pm. She told me that she was out until late at night the day before. So I texted her at 3pm if we are still on. I didn't get a reply until 5pm and she said that she wanted to take a nap but overslept her alarm and her friend just woke her up. She said that we are still on and if I could come 20 minutes later since she wants to shower and get ready. When I came to pick her up she was ready to go. Should I even continue pursuing her? Or just leave it? The date afterwards was pretty good; we walked around for 3 hours and got coffee!
Normm Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 (edited) I'll bite even though I know better. If I was you I wouldn't waste her time. She sounds too nice to have to put up with someone who is so rigid and inflexible. Edited June 10, 2019 by Normm 3
Author Phai1 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Posted June 10, 2019 I am not rigid neither am I inflexible but I am just wondering if this is normal? Like if she likes me she would be nervous, etc... and scared of oversleeping...
lurker74 Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 She didn't cancel so I don't really see what the problem was other than the fact that you want her so excited that she can't sleep. On the other hand, maybe she was so concerned about making a good impression that she wanted to make sure she was rested. I agree with Norm, here. You are being way to rigid. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 If she'd canceled I'd say to just move on. But, she didn't, and you had fun. So just believe her and be grateful for a good date! 1
Normm Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 if she likes me she would be nervous, etc... and scared of oversleeping... You might find this surprising, but know that not everyone is scared and nervous before a date. I'm scared and nervous about oversleeping when I have an early flight the following morning and find it hard to unwind, but when I finally do that alarm has to ring for a few moments before I wake up because I only had a few good hours of sleep. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Should I even continue pursuing her? Or just leave it? The date afterwards was pretty good; we walked around for 3 hours and got coffee! Yes you should let her nap slide. She was tired & overslept. She pulled it together & you had a nice date. Why would you want to dump her for a minor oversight? Are you perfect? Compassion will get your farther then being judgmental & rigid. The fact that she was tired doesn't mean she didn't care. Not everybody has fist date nerves. Her ability to sleep has no bearing on how she feels about you. How she behaved on the date which you said was good is the proper measure. 1
Redhead14 Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Oh, please. She showed up, right? You had a good time, right? Why the self mind-Fing for no reason already? 3
Author Phai1 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Posted June 10, 2019 She showed up, yes. Maybe I am just a little too scared and overanalyze to many things. Let’s just hope she thought it was a date. But when her friend (who woke her up) was still at her place and asked to join us, we both said no and left alone. I will ask her on another date again! 1
Gretchen12 Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 OP, don't be that bullet that women should all try to dodge. Don't hold a grudge and don't be scared. Fear makes humans do horrible things to each other. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Yeah, it can be hard when you're looking forward to a date ... and turns out the other person is running late and hasn't stopped living in the time before the date. In this case, this woman was straight up with you ... wasn't evasive ... was very specific about the causes of her delay ... and set a new time and got there ... I've had women be late on dates ... partly I imagine because they were trying on a bunch of outfits and all of that ... and these women turned out to be quite interested in me. If she was trying to blow you off, she would have given you the generic, "Maybe let's do something another time" without offering any specifics. Lord knows when I was young, I ran late on dates ... because I ran late to everything. The real question is how was the date?!!!! Did you like her, did you like her energy? If you're thinking of her running 20 minutes late ... I can only guess that the time with her wasn't very good perhaps? If the time with her was good, that should have wiped clean the file on her running late. 1
Author Phai1 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Posted June 10, 2019 Well I enjoyed the date. It's overall just an iffy situation. I have known her for 3 month now and we both are more or less friends. I am not sure if she knows I like her but I am not sure if I like her too. Maybe I just wanna hook up. And the fact that I still think about her being too late might underline this. Thanks you!
The Outlaw Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 If she really didn't want to see you, she wouldn't have. Keep seeing her. 1
emeraldgreen Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Imagine having a girl show up for a fun date and still be bothered that her world didn't revolve around you. STFU and plan your next date already.
Foxhall Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 you might get to join her for the afternoon nap next time. 1
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