Mayaiana Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 he would always kind of Blush and look down. Also yesterday he was telling me how he was trying to help this old lady and she told him never mind that are you married? Do have kids? (Btw he’s single and looking to get married but he wanted me to know other people are interested in him or trying to find him a wife )Why is he telling me this? Also he doesn’t blush or get nervous when he talks to me anymore.
basil67 Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Your description of what the old lady said isn't clear. Did she ask him if he was married? If so, I would imagine that he told you because it was an interesting thing which happened to him. I can't think of any other reason. I've never known a guy who's interested to blush or get nervous when talking with me - perhaps he's got an anxiety issue he's been working on?
surferchic Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 How often would he get nervous when talking to you previously? In terms of mentioning what the old lady said, I feel like he’s trying to make you jealous . As immature and silly as it sounds, some men do this when they want to see if you really like them.
Versacehottie Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 (edited) As misguided as it may seem, some guys relay when they get "innocent" female attention from others to you so that you will find them more attractive. Like peacocking in a way--or in his eyes you get hit on by others so that makes you a catch and he is trying to prove to you by relaying this event that he is a catch. I think the fact that the example he gave you involved a woman he classified as "old" and they talked about kids is harmless--also so it's not a threat to you guys. He is trying to show--however awkwardly that women in a position to know, i.e. his mom's age or motherly, think he would make a good catch for someone. Some guys pass on this information innocently enough and purely with the intention to have you think he's valuable, i.e. it actually happened, is not exaggerated, etc and some of them are kind of planting stories or upselling themselves knowing or hoping that you will make the connection and he'd be trying to get you more hooked into dating him or being into him while he strings you along and does what he wants. You know, guys that "drop" hints that you are excited to hear but it's calculated not organic and done solely for the purpose of keeping you hooked in. Just a guess but unless you have other information, i'd say his was probably the innocent sort. Also the blushing or not blushing is interesting but probably not related to this. He is probably getting more comfortable with you and that's why he doesn't blush anymore. Good luck Edited June 10, 2019 by Versacehottie
Author Mayaiana Posted June 12, 2019 Author Posted June 12, 2019 As misguided as it may seem, some guys relay when they get "innocent" female attention from others to you so that you will find them more attractive. Like peacocking in a way--or in his eyes you get hit on by others so that makes you a catch and he is trying to prove to you by relaying this event that he is a catch. I think the fact that the example he gave you involved a woman he classified as "old" and they talked about kids is harmless--also so it's not a threat to you guys. He is trying to show--however awkwardly that women in a position to know, i.e. his mom's age or motherly, think he would make a good catch for someone. Some guys pass on this information innocently enough and purely with the intention to have you think he's valuable, i.e. it actually happened, is not exaggerated, etc and some of them are kind of planting stories or upselling themselves knowing or hoping that you will make the connection and he'd be trying to get you more hooked into dating him or being into him while he strings you along and does what he wants. You know, guys that "drop" hints that you are excited to hear but it's calculated not organic and done solely for the purpose of keeping you hooked in. Just a guess but unless you have other information, i'd say his was probably the innocent sort. Also the blushing or not blushing is interesting but probably not related to this. He is probably getting more comfortable with you and that's why he doesn't blush anymore. Good luck Thanks. so the situation actually did happen because I overheard the lady saying it and she also told him that she was going to bring girl for him. So I was well aware of this. When he told me the above I said so did you say, "yes find me a bride" he was like no i was just like let me look at your shoulder. That's just a more elaboration. Also this happened yesterday can you tell me what you think? We were texting about a patient and i felt like he was being playful/flirty or enjoying texting? I said "okay I will follow up tomorrow w/ pt tomorrow" then he sent emoji, I replied with the “ " emoji then he sent emoji and I replied LOL. Wasn't the emoji unecessary? lol was he just trying to continue it?
Author Mayaiana Posted June 12, 2019 Author Posted June 12, 2019 How often would he get nervous when talking to you previously? In terms of mentioning what the old lady said, I feel like he’s trying to make you jealous . As immature and silly as it sounds, some men do this when they want to see if you really like them. Practically every time and then he would find it difficult to look me in the eyes.l Now he always manages to say something while in convo with me resulting in him laughing/smiling. When he told me about the old lady, i already knew and she even was trying to bring a girl for him and had told him. I said did you ask her to find you a bride? he said no i was just like let me look at your shoulder. Another question...idk if it's too comfortable or whatever but he does say "man" or "dude" when talking to me does that mean he isnt interested? Also as I've mentioned above he was sending extra emojis..?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 I said did you ask her to find you a bride? he said no i was just like let me look at your shoulder. Another question...idk if it's too comfortable or whatever but he does say "man" or "dude" when talking to me does that mean he isnt interested? Also as I've mentioned above he was sending extra emojis..? I'm sorry, I don't understand what this means. Can you clarify? Extra emojis are not enough of an indication of interest; where I live, people practically use them to punctuate sentences. They're not a sign of anything in and of themselves. Using "dude" or "man" when talking to you just sounds like the sort of thing a guy's guy might say. We don't have enough information to guess if that's his way of putting you in the Friend Zone. Which brings me to the more important question - who is this guy, exactly? A friend? Coworker? Neighbour? How often do you see him in person? You give some details about his interactions with you, but no context to the bigger picture. It's hard to speculate without knowing how you met him, when you see him, and so on.
Author Mayaiana Posted June 12, 2019 Author Posted June 12, 2019 I'm sorry, I don't understand what this means. Can you clarify? Extra emojis are not enough of an indication of interest; where I live, people practically use them to punctuate sentences. They're not a sign of anything in and of themselves. Using "dude" or "man" when talking to you just sounds like the sort of thing a guy's guy might say. We don't have enough information to guess if that's his way of putting you in the Friend Zone. Which brings me to the more important question - who is this guy, exactly? A friend? Coworker? Neighbour? How often do you see him in person? You give some details about his interactions with you, but no context to the bigger picture. It's hard to speculate without knowing how you met him, when you see him, and so on. We work together. Read the above I've described it
smackie9 Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 Why not suggest you grab lunch together or go out after work for a bite to eat.
Rockdad Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 Is there a emoji psychology course offered these days as I can tell I need one. 1
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