Author guest569 Posted June 10, 2019 Author Posted June 10, 2019 Yeah my pics are accurate, recent, face and full body, natural, looking super low maintenance actually. I'm not fat or thin, and I'm tall. Maybe I should put my height on my profile? Do guys not like tall girls?
Gretchen12 Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 As for ME becoming too interested in HIM too soon. Well, it went both ways. It was definitely 50/50 if not more interest from him. He was quite keen. That's why it sucks that he backed off. I definitely didn't come on strong. A lot of assumptions here *sigh* No offense intended Smiley1. I was only going by what you said and I took what you said seriously. I now realize it was more of a rant and you don't really think you're a 1/10. I understand that's how young people talk, exaggerated and extreme. I took it literally and thought you wanted advice. But you really only needed listeners to give you hugs and tell you it's all good. I get it now. See, I'm horrible with kids! I analyze when they just want a hug.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Yeah my pics are accurate, recent, face and full body, natural, looking super low maintenance actually. I'm not fat or thin, and I'm tall. Maybe I should put my height on my profile? Do guys not like tall girls? Yes, some do not like tall girls. But, some do! Were you taller than him? You really don't know why it fizzled. Maybe he was talking to someone else at the same time who lives closer.
Foxhall Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 Sorry it did not work out for you, you seem a nice lady though, ah wel keep trying, easy get disheartened but best to keep coming back!
CLS63AMG Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 (edited) It just sucks when you are chatting with someone and getting along fine and they seem really keen and interested until you meet and go on a date...... 99% of the dates I went on after a long texting/talking build up ended up flopping and dying instantly after meeting. I too would feel bad afterwards, even if I was the one not into her and it was because the image you project of them will NEVER materialize in person, because its literally impossible for that to happen. For them to meet the standard your mind made up would be like winning the lottery. There's nothing like deleting 1000+ texts the night after meeting after deleting their number. Its a part of online dating everyone goes through and has to remember to not repeat. The texting and talking before meeting means NOTHING until you meet, NOTHING. Edited June 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
alphamale Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 The texting and talking before meeting means NOTHING until you meet, NOTHING. I thought that was common knowledge but what do I know?
CLS63AMG Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 (edited) Yeah my pics are accurate, recent, face and full body, natural, looking super low maintenance actually. I'm not fat or thin, and I'm tall. Maybe I should put my height on my profile? Do guys not like tall girls? Uhhh yeah, kinda important. Went on a bumble date a few months ago, we matched pretty late at night, had a good chat and I asked her on a date which we scheduled for a couple days later. In her pics she was a super cute blonde, I assumed about 5.5" or 5.6". I waited for her at the cafe and she walked up about 6 2" or 6 3" - towering over me and I am 6" myself - it was over right then and there for me. We had a tea, a decent chat and called it a night. During the date I kept asking myself did I not check her height? I had to of, I always do as I don't and won't date taller women than me, I prefer them shorter. I got home and saw she had put 5 11" which was recent (probably done right before we met) and even it was false. I figured she had used her real height but her dating pool was so small that she kept lowering it - or something. But anyway, height is VERY important Edited June 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author guest569 Posted June 11, 2019 Author Posted June 11, 2019 I thought that was common knowledge but what do I know? NOTHING. You know NOTHING. OK let me rephrase it. The guy was short. Im not 6'3 haha. Anyway I rather date someone that isn't extremely SHALLOW. If it's a deal breaker then they should ask. My next date is also shorter than me but he actually asked about it in case I cared about it. Neither of us care so we are good to go.
Author guest569 Posted June 11, 2019 Author Posted June 11, 2019 (edited) No offense intended Smiley1. I was only going by what you said and I took what you said seriously. .... No, not at all, none taken. I appreciated your input! I'm defensive cause my self esteem is crushed but I'm getting better now. As for 1/10, I guess that's coming from male posters on here who rank women online dating. I'm constantly hearing about how average women get hundreds and hundreds of matches within an hour on an app with hot supermodel guys. Not my experience. I don't know if I'm a 1 but all I need is to be a 10 to the right guy. Stuff what the rest think. Edited June 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Els Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 (edited) @smiley1..... That's the spirit! Edited June 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
fishlips Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 It doesn't mean he thought you were ugly. Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there in person. And yes, many men like tall women. There are all kinds of reasons why people don't connect. Two perfectly nice, good looking people just might not have anything in common. It's good that you are trying. Eventually you'll find someone you connect with. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 Doesn't mean he thought you ugly at all ... He just might not have felt the chemistry. But ... the problem with too much talking or texting ahead of time is ... people create these huge fantasies of the person they're about to meet based on the voice ... and these are very specific fantasies ... Don't over-talk ahead of time ... and don't over-attach ... and get your hopes up much before meeting in person.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 I don't care how unattractive or attractive you (think you) are, we ALL have felt rejection. This isn't only reserved for the 1/10 or socially awkward types. This is online dating. I've been on several dates with men where, over text and even on the phone, it was awesome. Great banter, lots of things in common, flow was easy, just great initial chemistry. Then I get on the date and I'm wondering what happened. How could we have had such great chemistry on the phone and can't seem to get it together in person. It's a one and done deal. Sometimes it's mutual and sometimes it's one sided. It just happens. That's life. Plus, let's not forget that most people online are multi-dating. Even though he may have liked you and things seemed great, he's probably been messaging and talking to several other women at the same time and someone came around who he fancied more. That's not a reflection of YOU but rather the dating culture of today. You really need to work on not getting to attached too quickly. Having thick skin is also something you should work on otherwise every miss is going to feel like a personal rejection when in reality it has nothing to do with you at all. We've all been there my friend. 1
Author guest569 Posted June 11, 2019 Author Posted June 11, 2019 I didn't even think I was very attached so it surprised me how hurt I felt (feel?). I wasn't naive and thinking about our wedding or anything into the future at all. Was just having fun chatting, met, then ouch. As for thick skin, I have no idea. I've always been extremely sensitive. Must be a confidence issue. If I can feel more secure then things will bounce off. But I never ever have and not sure I can develop thicker skin.
Lotsgoingon Posted June 11, 2019 Posted June 11, 2019 I didn't even think I was very attached so it surprised me how hurt I felt (feel?). I wasn't naive and thinking about our wedding or anything into the future at all. Was just having fun chatting, met, then ouch. As for thick skin, I have no idea. I've always been extremely sensitive. Must be a confidence issue. If I can feel more secure then things will bounce off. But I never ever have and not sure I can develop thicker skin. Well if you don't develop thick skin ... then make yourself go out to meet people anyway. Fear of rejection and social anxiety are like back pain. I remember reading medical folks say the following to people with back pain: Yes moving can hurt your back ... but the worst thing to do is not move. You'll make your back worse and move less and less. Same with dating ... just make yourself go out ... confident or not ... Easier said than done, I know ... I try to follow this rule as well.
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