jspice Posted June 16, 2019 Posted June 16, 2019 I tend to take people at their word. If someone is belittling another because of their own insecurities, IMO it still "counts." I agree. I wouldn’t want to go on a date with someone who either thought those things about me, or one who said that about me when they thought they were rejected. 2
Happy Lemming Posted June 16, 2019 Posted June 16, 2019 ...but wondered if I wanted to get together. So... did you guys go out last night??
alphamale Posted June 16, 2019 Posted June 16, 2019 So... did you guys go out last night?? yes give us the skinny...inquiring minds want to know
Peony86 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 OLD with a beta? I'm sure he's really happy for your date with him to be described in these terms. 2
Author mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2019 Author Posted June 17, 2019 Update: I told him via text I was busy this weekend (which I was). This evening (Sunday) I texted him "Evening". No response. Will see if he responds.
Versacehottie Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Update: I told him via text I was busy this weekend (which I was). This evening (Sunday) I texted him "Evening". No response. Will see if he responds. Good God, i hope you are just summarizing it here for us. Do you text with any personality? I'm serious. This is no game stuff and it seems like you are doing it as a test. And weirdly like you almost want it to fail which then prompts the question why do it at all if that is your goal? And every time when looking at your stories, I end up at the same conclusion, you are depressed and like to see the negative thought patterns in your head proven "right". If I'm wrong, forgive me and simply you need to get much better at texting 5
alphamale Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Update: I told him via text I was busy this weekend (which I was). This evening (Sunday) I texted him "Evening". No response. Will see if he responds. well duh, what sort of response do you expect to the word "evening"? 1
Highndry Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 "Evening" is about the worst text I could imagine getting from a woman. There is no substance, it's like the bare minimum. The only thing worse would be something critical, or "hey, can I borrow some money?" You've got to put forth some effort. 3
Shining One Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 If a woman texted me "Evening", I would make a thread about it here asking for insight because I have no idea what to do with that. 5
alphamale Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 If a woman texted me "Evening", I would make a thread about it here asking for insight because I have no idea what to do with that. 2
basil67 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 If a woman texted me "Evening", I would make a thread about it here asking for insight because I have no idea what to do with that. And I'd reply telling you to ignore it and find a woman who makes a bit of effort. 4
JEG88 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Really, with the cryptic texting mind games? As said above, I would ignore and move on if I were the guy. Better to leave this be for both of you involved. 2
Veronica73 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 (edited) Lol! What is “evening” supposed to mean?! WTF? *shakes head* Kids these days. Except I think you are close to my age. Edit: Is it supposed to be similar to “Good morning!”? Edited June 17, 2019 by Veronica73 2
Rocker71 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 If a woman texted me "Evening", I would make a thread about it here asking for insight because I have no idea what to do with that. If she texted me "evening" I would assume she's DTF and text back " 10:30 Your place or mine?". 2
elaine567 Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Update: I told him via text I was busy this weekend (which I was). This evening (Sunday) I texted him "Evening". No response. Will see if he responds. Busy doing what exactly? No-one needs to drop everything immediately for a date, but there needs to be some effort and interest shown surely? Playing hard to get is kind of cutesy when you are 22 and if you have guys lining up at your door, but not when your only option is trying to make a date with you, it is nonsensical... 5
fromheart Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Panera Bread is good! Different strokes on the hair, I guess. I don't mind a bit if someone dyes their hair, but I think they ought to dye the beard too. Makes them look old. I hate beards anyway. I like a man who tries to stay looking good myself. So Im going to gender switch what you just said. 'I think a woman ought to dye her hair. Makes them look old. I hate facial hair on women anyway. I like a woman who tries to stay looking good myself.' Sounds horrible doesn't it. Speak about others, as you'd like to be spoken to.
fromheart Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 OP, haven't read the whole thread but it sounds like he's not into you to be honest. Why do you expect him to pay for everything? Men want a woman who can stand on her own feet. Vif a woman can't pay her own way, I regard her as a child and she won't hear from me. It's also going into the territory of giving money for sex and emotion, which Im not into. Its a huge red flag for alpha males. If you don't like grey hair, you need to date men in their 20's. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 "Evening" is about the worst text I could imagine getting from a woman. There is no substance, it's like the bare minimum. The only thing worse would be something critical, or "hey, can I borrow some money?" You've got to put forth some effort. And yet it is not the first person she's texted just that one word to (and clearly didn't take the advice to text with more personality). MO, why? 5
JuneL Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 And yet it is not the first person she's texted just that one word to (and clearly didn't take the advice to text with more personality). MO, why? Actually she sent the exact same one word “Evening” text to another guy recently, and we all told her it may sound even worse than not sending the text at all. OP: I can see you’re actually trying. But you have to pretend there’s an angel flying next to your ear to constantly remind your to ignore all the negative thinking whenever it comes up (I know it’s often). I’m serious about this. I used to be a very insecure shy girl when young, and I had to do this to myself 2
NuevoYorko Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 Did you truly have zero time this past weekend? Next time a guy asks you on a date, try to go. I don't care about all this advice about not coming off as too eager. What's wrong with it? Just trying to protect oneself and to what purpose? You are already good at getting rid of men and being lonesome, why not try another tact: show interest and go. Also, sorry to pile on, but the "evening" thing -after the last time - do you get some perverse pleasure from posting things here and then making sure everyone knows that you eschew all advice? That kind of text begs to be ignored. I can't imagine an appropriate response besides "evening;" not a great conversation starter. 2
Happy Lemming Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 (edited) 100% Agree with "elaine567"... (Post #198) Unless you're having surgery, make yourself available to go out with the new guy. Cancel your previous plans and go out with him. This guy actually wants a second date with you. All the other guys have not, (so far, this year) and have "ghosted" or "Next"'d you. When he contacted you could have said something like: "I had plans, but let me see if I can cancel them. I'd much rather go out with you." Edited June 17, 2019 by Happy Lemming 2
JuneL Posted June 17, 2019 Posted June 17, 2019 You don’t have to cancel your other plans. Just let him know a couple of alternatives. 1
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