Navybluegal Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Met a guy on a dating website, after a few messages exchanged phone numbers. I got a text from him at seven in the morning. Would you consider it a sign of someone who is disrespectful or inconsiderate? Or should I not get my panties tied in a wad over this?
preraph Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 I'd just keep my phone turned off recharging until I woke up in the morning. But it would be a red flag to me not of his character but that we are on very different schedules, and I hate morning people around me in the morning!! When me and my old flame started emailing after I hadn't seen him for 25 years, he would do it at five in the morning. He is one of those who doesn't sleep much.
Fekenaws Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 He may just be on a different schedule than you, I wouldn't put much stock in it until you meet him. 3
JuneL Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Why would this be disrespectful? I have many friends living in completely different time zones. If you don’t want to hear the notification tone, just turn your phone to mute before going to bed. It’s not like he expects you to reply right away.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Ah, no. He wasn't pounding on your door to wake you up. If you don't want a text to wake you up at 7AM, keep the phone on silent. Also, don't get a puppy if you want to sleep past 7AM....but I digress. *yawn* 4
Versacehottie Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 lol no panties in a wad...yet...You don't have enough information. Maybe he is excited about you AND a cool person. Maybe he is overeager and not such a cool person or the right one for you. Maybe he's got his career & life together where it's reflected in his schedule that way. A lot of busy, together people are up early and on the move Keep your eyes open for the overeager/desperate part of him--because I'm guessing you also would like a guy who is socially aware this is treading into territory where is might be suspect to some girls so cool guys wouldn't normally do it. Or they might be IDGAF and do what they want which is kind of cool in itself. So yeah wait it out a bit. Good luck
Flame Aura Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Err..what? What's the big deal, if any deal sending a text at 7am?
Redhead14 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 (edited) The flip side . . . why didn't he text me? He doesn't like me enough? Perhaps, she's not that into him, otherwise, she would have been excited that he texted even in the morning. Lot's of people send good morning texts if they are dating and/or in a relationship and before work, etc. Edited June 7, 2019 by Redhead14 2
kendahke Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Did you tell him not to bother you before 7am and he did it anyway? That would be disrespect. I don't see any disrespect. I do see someone disinterested and looking for an excuse. 5
Ruby Slippers Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 How is this disrespectful? He's thinking of you first thing in the morning. This is a good thing. 2
Highndry Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Ah, no. He wasn't pounding on your door to wake you up. If you don't want a text to wake you up at 7AM, keep the phone on silent. Also, don't get a puppy if you want to sleep past 7AM....but I digress. *yawn* What kind of puppy?! They are so fun. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 What kind of puppy?! They are so fun. Border collie 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Why would you interpret this as disrespectful, OP? I don't get it. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Before cell phones there used to be a rule that my mother taught me -- unless you have been instructed to do so, you never make a social call before 10 a.m. or after 9 p.m. People don't respect unspoken boundaries any more & there is no concept of being off the clock. In this case, OP, the guy was probably up & you were on his mind. That is a good thing. If you don't want 7 a.m. texts tell him that & tell him what are good times to reach out. If he respects those boundaries, let this mistake slide. 2
JuneL Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 But sending you a text or emailing you is different from ringing your phone to wake you up. In fact, the unwritten rule in this time and age is to text to schedule a call. Calling up someone unannounced is similar to showing up at someone’s place unannounced.
SugarLips72 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 7 am during the week? Why would that be weird? I am up before 530 am during the week anyways that tells me he probably has a job. Now if he texts at 1 am yes dealbreaker and weird. 1
GorillaTheater Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Now if he texts at 1 am yes dealbreaker and weird. I'm not much of a texter so maybe I'm unaware of some of the etiquette, and I get how that may be a little weird, but as long as he's okay with not getting a reply until later in the day, how is that a deal-breaker? 3
The Outlaw Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Don't worry about it. I don't think he did it to disrespect you. Most people don't do that to people they're talking to. He may just be a morning person, maybe in a different time zone, or just wasn't thinking. 1
guest569 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 I'm old school then. I would wait til after 8am at least. 7am is weird. Unless you know the person and know they're likely awake. I don't like people to text at 11pm,2am,6am. I wasn't aware that I was in the minority. 1
beentheredonethat77 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Not a dealbreaker... Though i live in a foreign country to many of my friends and family so timezone differences mean people are texting me all through the night.. my phone is on silent.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I'm old school then. I would wait til after 8am at least. 7am is weird. Unless you know the person and know they're likely awake. I don't like people to text at 11pm,2am,6am. I wasn't aware that I was in the minority. 7AM is not that early, though! Most adults are awake by then on a weekday, aren't they? I mean, unless they have jobs that aren't traditional hours. And I guess if this guy knew she didn't have a traditional job it might be weird, I don't know.
Versacehottie Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I only think it's overeager and kind of pushy because they don't really know each other. They are strangers at this point. Would I say it's a deal breaker? Not really, unless she was inclined or headed that way already. If we could pass on a message to her guy: his game needs improvement. Just not the best time to text if you want a conversation to happen & be a good one.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 OK, I see the point that it's a bit socially awkward, in the texting manners realm. I would NEVER text anybody that early unless we were very close and I had a good reason to. The proper thing to do is wait till 9:00 or 10:00 am to text. However, even I, in my notorious pickiness, think this is not a big deal and you should let it go, give the guy a chance. If his manners are questionable in other areas, it's a concern. But personally, I don't mind a little rough around the edges and don't think it's a big deal. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Considering your other criteria for a BF https://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/681584-i-m-size-queen-nympho-should-i-put-my-dating-profile maybe what time this guy texts you should be a non-issue 1
JuneL Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I only think it's overeager and kind of pushy because they don't really know each other. They are strangers at this point. Would I say it's a deal breaker? Not really, unless she was inclined or headed that way already. If we could pass on a message to her guy: his game needs improvement. Just not the best time to text if you want a conversation to happen & be a good one. I disagree with this one. Maybe that’s the only time he can have a free few minutes to text leisurely (while sipping his pour over, say) in the morning. He might just expect her to reply slowly, when she’s taking the subway to work a couple hours later, and he can text back during his lunch break, for example. Many people don’t expect to have a real-time convo over text. 1
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