AncientAztec Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 (edited) Hi, my name is Tin, and I have 19 years, also a interesting story about a girl I am into. Shall we begin.. In November 2018 I met a girl V (we will call her V) she was 18 at the time, bday 23.8, mine 14.9, which makes us both Virgo horoscope idk if you people believe it or such..strange.. at a caffe bar I very visited with my friends at the time. I was working as a caffee bar waiter aswell, but at another caffe 300m away. When I was working morning untill 3pm, I went to caffe with friends and met her. There she was, beautiful, and smiling since I first glanced at her. She looked aswell and we smiled to each other. We met along and started talking more and more. We first didn't exchange numbers, buuut.. My best friend who I will call M, we hang out on a daily basis of the village we live in together, 1km apart, we walk around at day/night, hike, chill at secret wifi spot, play etc.. it was night time that day, bout 9.00pm cold December, we split up every time at the half (500m each to walk home) and iI walked a while and turned on my own internet and saw IG notification that V, liked about 4-5 about of my photos. Was suprised, immediately hooked up the guy I am.... I let it be about a day and half before my "response", as I finished work and we (my friends and I) go to caffee bar we usually go, and I see her. We talked and eye contact and smile at each other, that was my response about IG likes. Idk how I/we both acquired each other's digits, but we started texting..it all was going ok but the "immediately fall in-love guy with no luck in love guy" I was, I found myself a crush, huge..thinking it's my turn for luck in love to maybe have a chance..I think I was over-flirtive a bit.. Idk where I went wrong or did I?? but she somehow started getting cold Idk why but we get along in live when we meet. I was going every day after work to that caffee wondering if she was there, so I could sit across the whole renewed part of the caffe, just to do eye contact with her. I loved her eyes..blue eyes..still do... We did a lot of eye contact and I often catched her watching me with corner/edge of my eye, then I would just smile, and she smiled aswell, whiIst didn't look at her not even once. I knew there was a connection. Anyways we texted and as I mentioned she was getting cold and her responses were going from 3-4 texts in a row with emjoyis, to 3-2-1 messages..in days.. we've been hanging out/seeing in caffee for about 3 weeks before she started getting cold. But that little time we shared, plus texting and photos..was just an overwhelming crush on her...I was deep in it..I cared ( still do) so much about her, because I knew she is good inside and fragile, being her ex at that time an ******* who she first broke up because he was going clubbing more than spending time with her, later hooking up again with him, but lasted 2 weeks because he was a ****boy.. he wanted to slip in her panties but didn't make it coz she ain't that kind of a girl, again, the boy doesn't give a damn but gets the ladiest - type of guy..know all about it, not giving a f technique and all bs..anyways, I really grew myself into her, "imprinted" as you would say, because she is so good hearted, caring, nice, polite, bright minded, intelligent..and not to mention her beauty that she carries always, with minimal makeup, minimal.. and I wanted her so bad because we shared opinon, humor, thinking, jokes etc...but again she was getting cold, and obvious anxiety, my ex/raredepressiveepisodes I began thinking I was doing something wrong, over text? Morning texts as minute I woke up? Good night texts??(no cheesy clingy stuff, just good night) So another thing I need to mention that I had, yes, had, a best friend who later backstabbed me..another story..he was helping me at the time to win her over and whom I seek advice from and things to say when I was feeling anxious about texts thinking my every text was a failiure and my fault coz she's getting cold. He told me to send her a text that goes '"From the moment we met, my world flipped upside down, I like you��", he told me to do it because I needed to know what I was on, what I was standing on..thin ice sort of thing as you call it..desperate times calls for desperate measures.. so her reply was "really? hahah" and yes..etc she wasn't very excited about it, more to it, she wasn't very happy and got confused and to her words "very awkward and weird" for someone to gain the "I like you" thing in 3 weeks. So she distanced away and was extremely cold, 1-2 short texts a day, no laugh no emoyis..you know. After that she wasn't texting for 4-5 days moving to never texting me. I sent a Christmas text to her and she replies, tried getting it to a convo from there I made it with 6-7 texts from each, and died. Texted again after month, later again month and half moving to Easter, wished her Happy Easter, moving to me saying to her to give me another chance. She told me there never was anything between us for her to give me another chance, which she was right but you know what I mean..chance to try it again with her. Moving convo I was planning a trip to her house to win her over. (NO kidnapping, NO crime or ANY such criminal thing was, or ever will happen by that means, my mind does not go down that road I know myself, that settled) I bought a rose, and a cherry liquer chocolate box. Planned going monday 5 days ago, fell asleep (work exhaustion), tuesday heavy extreme weather, wednesday car brakes collapsed (discs) and had to replace it. So I went thursday at 10.55pm at her to arrive at her house, got there at 11.30 and she was going home from afternoon shift, so I waited about 15min for her to settle down from comming home from work. Then I parked about 50m away from her house and texted her that I needed her something urgent, replying what, to answering to come outside to talk to me for just 5min. She said we don't have anything to talk to about, that she doesn't wanna go outside coz she needs sleep. Just for 5min. I was persuading her about 20min through text. (Again, NO crime was or will be commited.) She denied always and didn't want to go and found excuses not to go, saying we don't have anything to talk about...so that was doomed. I went to my city, near my village, her place is about 25km away from my city. So I drove and met up with my friend, we lit up 4-5 cigars and talked about it for a while, with my soul felt like being torn apart and almost crying my ass off..I went home and here we are, writing at the toilet.. Oh and did I mention the most important thing; altough I have had many crushes in the past, lasted max. 2months, to making out and touching with some other girl which was for 1 night stand only (my purpose with her, sorry girl nation..) but I didn't do it with her because it didn't feel good inside me if I did it, I am programmed that way because I find it disgusting..humiliating to do to a girl, I had no heart to do that to a girl... so I provoked a fight with her for to "break up" ( we weren't in a relationship and I felt no emotions towards her, not a single one, not even a desire to have sex with her (which was my goal that time). I broke it off and good.. the point is I've NEVER felt a crush that lasts for about..8 freakin' months..I care so much about her and Idk really why..some sort of energy dafuq.. I really like her..and no I'm not a psychopath or some sort. There wasn't a single day from November since I met her, to this day. My questions are; 1. Will I ever have a chance with her? 2. Will I ever be able to sort things out with her and get her to like me again? 3. Will I ever..ik..be with this amazing beautiful girl? 4. Is this the end of my era? I feel like one part of my mind is de-programming itself to feel less and less emotions..being empty.. Thank You very much for reading this, if you made it to the end. Edited June 7, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs, please use them
Flame Aura Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Oh dear..to answer your questions.. 1. No 2. No 3. No 4. If by end of an era you mean with her, then yes. You need to forget about her and move on. You were infatuated with her, that's all. You made a very big mistake in becoming her texting buddy, that was a one way road to the friendzone. All this 'eye contact and smile to each other' was something I used to do when I was a teenager and too scared to actually talk to a girl. In future, until you are in a relationship, texting should be minimal, and used to arrange dates to get to know each other in person. Don't waste time texting, take the initiative and control of the situation and ask at the start to take them out to dinner etc. Oh and don't ever ask your friend for advice with women again - that was the worst possible advice he could have given you about sending that message, it was the final nail in the coffin for her to be done with you full stop. We have all been in your situation at some point so don't worry about it too much, just move on, enjoy life and do better next time.
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