googlicious Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 so i’ve just started seeing this girl, sleeping together and all, and then one night after sex she just packed up and left, saying that her period is about to start. And for the next couple days her communication has been sparse and she won’t make any definite plans saying that she doesn’t feel good, doesn’t feel pretty enough to meet, even tho I suggested we just hang out without sex. Is this normal or is she putting me off? P.s. she was saying her period is about to start even before sex
Grey40 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 so i’ve just started seeing this girl, sleeping together and all, and then one night after sex she just packed up and left, saying that her period is about to start. And for the next couple days her communication has been sparse and she won’t make any definite plans saying that she doesn’t feel good, doesn’t feel pretty enough to meet, even tho I suggested we just hang out without sex. Is this normal or is she putting me off? P.s. she was saying her period is about to start even before sex How old are the both of you? Could be literally tons of reasons. An ex could have come back in the picture, she could be feeling guilty about having sex with you, she lost interest in you, naturally feels ****ty on her period and wants to be alone during that time, feels insecure and that she's not good enough for you etc. The list goes on. Essentially, there's no reason to find out the answer, you can't fix it. She feels how she feels. I would wait 3-4 days and if you don't hear from her try to reach out and set something up again
snowcones Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Something is definitely wrong or something went wrong. I have no idea what that is, but I'd just continue to talk to her and not pressure her to hang out. And please say something more than texting "Hi, how's your day?" everyday. Have something to say yourself. In time when she's comfortable she will resume seeing you.
Author googlicious Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Something is definitely wrong or something went wrong. I have no idea what that is, but I'd just continue to talk to her and not pressure her to hang out. And please say something more than texting "Hi, how's your day?" everyday. Have something to say yourself. In time when she's comfortable she will resume seeing you. What makes you think something went wrong? I've been trying to talk to her, mostly small stuff... but its like she suddenly went cold..
TooBad Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 I tend to believe what someone sais untill I have reason not too. So unless a week has passed in this case, I would assume she is indeed on her period and feels unattractive because of it. No need to assume the worst, and no need to push anything. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 It does seem like she has "issues" with a normal bodily function. That said it could be "normal" for her. If she has such extreme reactions to her cycle, she may very well prefer to hide during her time of the month. In ancient times women were often segregated from the rest of society during this time.
Author googlicious Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Um, meanwhile shes hanging out with othet ppl, telling me about it, and today (friday), totally incognito. I think shes sleeping around and just keeping me on a short leash...
Author googlicious Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 And this is the last day of her 'period'. After all my offers shouldnt she have at least made a counter offer since it is the weekend? Am i being logical here?
Author googlicious Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Then cut her loose. What's the problem? I dunno. I kinda want it kept a casual thing then, but only after shes honest about what shes doing. But what if i'm wrong and making false accusations? Then i have blown it with her. So i need to know how i should approach this...
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Flip the script. She has blown it with you. She acts all whacky, disappearing, giving you a ridiculous excuse, & yet being able to hang out with others while ignoring you. What about that makes you want more? 1
lurker74 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Define normal. But I have experienced this with someone once. It turns out, she was raised in a very conservative household and community and she never really felt comfortable with her body. So she found her period to be immensely embarrassing. She got over it and for a period of time, we were very happy. OTOH, she might just be flakey or the sex might have been bad. 1
Author googlicious Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Define normal. But I have experienced this with someone once. It turns out, she was raised in a very conservative household and community and she never really felt comfortable with her body. So she found her period to be immensely embarrassing. She got over it and for a period of time, we were very happy. OTOH, she might just be flakey or the sex might have been bad. Hmm... the girl in my situation also came from a super conservative family, very shy, and won't even let me go down on her (if i may be blunt) for that reason. So could it be that shes just shy around the guy he likes and doesn't mind much the effect of menstration around others? I too have never encountered something like this with woman's menstruation...
lurker74 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Hmm... the girl in my situation also came from a super conservative family, very shy, and won't even let me go down on her (if i may be blunt) for that reason. So could it be that shes just shy around the guy he likes and doesn't mind much the effect of menstration around others? I too have never encountered something like this with woman's menstruation... If you get a chance, listen to this story on this podcast. Not only it is hilarious, it may have an impact on your situation. Plus, did I mention that it's hilarious? https://www.thewrap.com/this-american-life-bloody-sheets-risk-jillian-welsh-hathaway-hemsworth-shoot-this-now/
Saracena Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 It does seem like she has "issues" with a normal bodily function. That said it could be "normal" for her. If she has such extreme reactions to her cycle, she may very well prefer to hide during her time of the month. In ancient times women were often segregated from the rest of society during this time. This is what I was thinking as well ie 'normal' for her. I once worked with a woman who, when asked what she did at the weekend, responded she hadn't done anything because she was on her period! Different culture. I do recall some of the others around were smirking on hearing this, since this sounded so strange to the rest of us!
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 And this is the last day of her 'period'. After all my offers shouldnt she have at least made a counter offer since it is the weekend? Am i being logical here? How in the world do you know it's the last day of her period?
snowcones Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 What makes you think something went wrong? Because she got up and left in addition to not trying to see you again. I don't have any more details than that.
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