Old Photos, Silent Treatment, Sensitivity

[Red78]

I’m a 40 year old female in a 6 month relationship with a guy 10 years older. Tonight I sent him an old photograph of myself when I was pregnant in my 20s I was topless but the photo was tasteful. I thought he’d like it but it really upset him and he said he didn’t want to see it. What did I do wrong?

[amaysngrace]

Maybe he doesn’t live in the past.

[basil67]

What did he say when he told you he was upset? I suspect the answer you seek is in the discussion you had.

 

Edited to add: I would imagine that a lot of guys don't find pregnant women (other than their own partner) sexy.

Edited June 6, 2019 by basil67

[Red78]

He said, why would I want to see pics of you pregnant from another man and that it made him sad that he won’t be able to see me pregnant with his child because of our age and circumstances now.

[basil67]

And there's what you did wrong: You didn't think about how the photo may be received. And his response is perfectly reasonable.

 

Just let it go. It will all be forgotten soon.

[amaysngrace]

He sounds like a downer.

 

He could’ve not made it all about him.

[snowcones]

He said, why would I want to see pics of you pregnant from another man and that it made him sad that he won’t be able to see me pregnant with his child because of our age and circumstances now.

 

 

I'm guessing he doesn't have children of his own?

[ExpatInItaly]

Well, I am guessing he thinks the photo was taken at a time when you were celebrating creating a life with another man, and it bothers him that this specific picture is the one you chose to send him.

[chillii]

He said, why would I want to see pics of you pregnant from another man and that it made him sad that he won’t be able to see me pregnant with his child because of our age and circumstances now.

 

 

 

 

Yep l'm afraid that one was a no brainer .

[Blind-Sided]

And there's what you did wrong: You didn't think about how the photo may be received. And his response is perfectly reasonable.

 

Just let it go. It will all be forgotten soon.

 

 

 

I agree.

 

 

But... he knew you had a kid... right? I think it's more that he realizes that the current relationship won't have more kids. To some people, that's a big deal.