When a guy tells a girl he wants to take a “raincheck” on a planned 2nd date?

[greenlights0000]

I had a scheduled 2nd date for this Saturday that was set last weekend. He texted me today about taking a “raincheck.” I told him sure, I jokingly asked if he had a hot date, he just said sorry, that he’s has things he has to take care of. I mean, he didn’t asked about actually scheduling another date next week he just said raincheck. Then he told me that he appreciated my understanding.

 

Okay, did something “better” come up like with his friends? Or is he blowing me off like doing the slow fade with me...or does he actually have another date?

Edited June 6, 2019 by greenlights0000

[basil67]

Yes, something better could have come up with his friends. Yes, he could have a date with someone he's more interested in. Or Yes, he may simply not be interested in pursing at all. The lack of suggestion at a new date suggests that you won't be hearing from him again.

 

I would also suggest that it's not a slow fade - more of a cut off.

[Iris The Butterfly]

He’s blowing you off. He probably has another date, in any case doesn’t want to see you and hasn’t offered an alternative. For a second date asking for a rain check, unless he specified the reason- means “I’m not interested”.

[chillii]

Sorry to say but yep , sounds like he's not into it.

[preraph]

I bet it's his real girlfriend or wife or ex that he's cancelling for. If it was something like a family problem, he might have bothered to at least tell you.

[Lotsgoingon]

If he doesn't give you a really specific reason for canceling and doesn't lock in new dates, he's not interested. Same goes with a woman saying this.

[alphamale]

it could be any of a million things,, either way you should move on and find someone more interested in you

[The Outlaw]

Whether legit or not, at least he took a 'raincheck'. But has this happened before?

[greenlights0000]

I don’t know. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt in this one. If he doesn’t reach out to me by Tuesday next week, then I’m done. I mean last week he told me all these things like our “future” events that we could do. And he kept reaching out after our 1st date.

[basil67]

Nah, it's the second raincheck on this date if I'm not mistaken. Without both a reason and a new date booked, I wouldn't give him another chance.

[greenlights0000]

Nah, it's the second raincheck on this date if I'm not mistaken. Without both a reason and a new date booked, I wouldn't give him another chance.

 

You’re wrong. It’s the 1st raincheck with a new guy.

[frus69]

If he doesnt immediately offer an alternative date, this is a blow off.

 

But he may come back around

 

Edit: is this the guy who deleted you on tinder? Then chance of losing interest 99%

[The Outlaw]

Give him the benefit of a doubt. But should it happen again, move on. If someone is really interested, they'll make time for us.

[alphamale]

If someone is really interested, they'll make time for us.

but how do you know someone is really interested when you've spent no time with them?

[d0nnivain]

. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt in this one. If he doesn’t reach out to me by Tuesday next week, then I’m done.

 

Seems like a sensible approach but I suspect something "better" came along . . . whether that is a date with a different woman or his buddies made him a better offer, it doesn't bode well for you.

 

Meanwhile you change directions & plan a fun Saturday night for yourself.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Although it's perfectly possible that something legit came up that forced him to postpone your date, men who are truly interested in a woman wouldn't risk you moving on without nailing down the raincheck date or at least propose couple of options at that time. That's just my two cents.

 

It's fine to give him the benefit of the doubt but I agree, if he doesn't reach out by Tuesday, forget about him and move on. He had something better to do and so should you.

[Fekenaws]

In my experience, when a girl or guy offers a "raincheck" and doesn't offer with a counter date then they aren't interested

[alphamale]

Although it's perfectly possible that something legit came up that forced him to postpone your date, men who are truly interested in a woman wouldn't risk you moving on without nailing down the raincheck date or at least propose couple of options at that time. That's just my two cents.

 

It's fine to give him the benefit of the doubt but I agree, if he doesn't reach out by Tuesday, forget about him and move on. He had something better to do and so should you.

 

I agree MmB

[SugarLips72]

He’s not interested in a second date. Move on

[beentheredonethat77]

even the word 'raincheck' implies casual and anything but eager and excited IMO.

 

Def move on.