disneyfan90 Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 In other words, do you think it's possible to predict what someone's real life personality is like based on how they text? I always thought that one's texting habits could very easily be a predictor of one's actual personality - until my recent experiences. I once met a guy who was absolutely charming over text. He'd send funny pictures, videos, links, would tell hilarious stories and would subtly poke fun at me in a way that was just delightful. In a way, it was easy to fall for him just by reading his text messages. But talking to him in person was a whole other story - I was utterly bored. Our conversations didn't go anywhere. I held it out for quite some time thinking that he was just hiding his true personality, but the charming personality he had over text never came out in person. It baffled me. On the flip side, I met another guy who hated texting. His texts were always so short and choppy and our conversations would go nowhere over text. But whenever we met in person, it was magical. We could talk for hours and hours about absolutely anything. I felt a real strong connection to him whenever we were together in person. What is your experience with this?
alphamale Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 you can't tell anything about someone by the way they text 1
5x5 Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Can you really get a sense of someone based on how they text? No.
Rayce Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 No nope negative notta… it's one reason why I dislike texting so much.
crispytoast Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 you can't tell anything about someone by the way they text This. It's generally not a very good representation of someone's personality. I am glad you gave guy #2 a chance because a lot of great people aren't very good at text game or just cant be arsed to care about it. 1
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 disneyfan90, guy one was using other peoples' humor and creativity to entertain you. Guy two didn't want to confine his abstract thinking to limited-word expressions...
chillii Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Of course , not always, but it's nothing to do with predicting it's right there in black and white, or not. Butttt, for all kinds of reasons some people just don't show in texting either , so you may misread completely, a phone calls best.
Lotsgoingon Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 From texting, you can get a good sense of their skill at texting.
CLS63AMG Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Yes - the not very active, low key, boring types tend to be SUPER boring in person. The active, joking and fun ones tend to be SUPER active and full of spunk in person.
preraph Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 You cannot really know someone just from texting or email even. People are different in person than in writing. I am very different in writing myself. You can maybe tell if they care enough to correct their spelling errors and that is about all!
Realitysux Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Oh great news lol. I just started messaging someone who seems interesting and I wasn't looking to meet right away. I should once to make sure I'm not wasting my time. It's so hard meeting people these days and I thought it was me. I'm actually scared to even look now because I could just be setting myself up for disappointment. I can't get with the times, bring back ten years ago!
central Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 If they have an unusual style or content, then perhaps you can. Otherwise, probably not.
TooBad Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 I text the way I talk. I do notice women are (pleasantly) surprised by this. So I'd have to say that yes, it is possible. But I guess in most cases it's like dating, people trying to be at their best instead of just showing the way they are.
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 90% of communication is non-verbal. 100% of that subtext is lost through texting. So no you can't tell anything through texts. Realitysux -- go meet the person. That is the only way you will know. Otherwise put 0% of faith in texting. It's great for "pick up milk", "I'm running late" or "where are you", maybe an occasional "I love you" but otherwise it's a terrible way to communicate. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Short answer is no. Just like you can't really tell all about a person just on the things they say, it's their actions that really count. Some people are good communicators regardless of the medium while others are horrible at it. Face to face encounters are always the easiest and quickest way to gauge chemistry and often intent.
Redhead14 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 People need to stop dwelling on useless minutia as a way to "crystal ball" dating partners. Texting as a way to develop a relationship is horsesh*t. It's immature. It's the equivalent of passing a note in study hall. And, if two robots are dating each other, it's great.
vla1120 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 So much can be misconstrued through texting, especially people who text using abbreviations, slang, etc. I text in complete sentences with punctuation, so it is difficult to misconstrue my meaning. I wish everyone texted that way. In fact, I "forced" my daughters to use proper English when texting. If they used text lingo, I took away their phones (when they were younger, of course.) That might seem harsh, but I wasn't going to allow them to "dumb down" their communication! Now they get annoyed at people for using text slang. 1
The Outlaw Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 Not really. It'd take face to face conversations to better judge who someone actually is. Texting is nothing. It's just convenient.
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