crispytoast Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 (edited) @rightondude You have an extra ticket, invite a friend, go to the show, drink a few drinks and have a great time. Have no concern for the ex. @preraph I agree with you that's why I rolled my eyes. I was trying to convey sarcasm which I guess has as high of a chance of working on the internet as someone who cancels a date actually being sick. Edited June 6, 2019 by crispytoast 1
Happy Lemming Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Should I go by myself to this concert like some dorkus malorkus, try to find a friend to go with me, or just bail and stick to my original plan to hermit life it for awhile? C'mon loveshack, give me some guidance and make this work for me. I obviously suck at it on my own... Take a friend... Don't let the tickets go to waste!! You spent good time and money obtaining the tickets, so utilize them. I'm sure any friend would enjoy a concert. For me, my "male" friend and I had a blast at the game. Moreover, his wife was happy to get rid of him for a few hours and see him have some fun at NFL game.
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I say go and take a friend, any friend, since you have two tickets. It's a shame to let one go to waste. If you can't find a friend, go alone! I sure would. I find myself to be great company, someone I'm proud to be seen with!
LauraXX Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 If I never met the guy, a bit unwell feeling is enough to make me cancel the date. Honestly I dont have to force myself to entertain some stranger when Im not feeling well. But, I would actually reschedule, because Im not a flake. If I already have gone on a few dates with the guy, I'd still go even if Im sick (unless Im throwing up or cant get out of bed). I'd tell him Im having a flu maybe and ask to just Netflix and chill I agree 100%
OatsAndHall Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I've had a few women cancel because they were "sick" and I know I was being blown off because they didn't try to reschedule or were stand-offish when I tried to set up another date. To be honest, it's one of the few things in the dating world that irritates me anymore; don't accept another date or just tell me you've decided your not interested. Don't lie to me. I have cancelled two dates because I wasn't feeling well. One time, I had a stomach bug and vomiting. The second time, I had a nasty cold and didn't want to spread it around. But, I've had strep three times and the flue once over the last two years and I always started off feeling "under the weather". I really don't want a date to catch the flu from me.. But, I always rescheduled when I cancelled. 1
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I'd have to be contagious...but if a parent has a sick kid nothing you can do about it... Have you looked into why you have so many cancels ? have you googled yourself ? can they match your name or email up with anything online that might turn a girl off... What about your divorce is public ? in other words if they look it up what will it tell them ? Just thinking out loud... 1
soyou Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I'm a woman and I almost never cancel any date. If I promise, then I will go, unless the guys do something extremely put off or disrespectful. I also almost never have anyone canceling on me. Thank GoD! i'm sorry for what you went through. Must have been heart wrecking and disappointing.
BaileyB Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 (edited) I wouldn’t have to be very sick to cancel a date. If I really like the man, I want to be at my best when we are together... which means, I would reschedule if I was unwell. If I am just getting over something and it’s hanging on... I will let the other person know so that they can make their own decision. I seem to catch things easily, so I find it really inconsiderate when people who are sick insist on spreading their germs unnecessarily. Edited June 6, 2019 by BaileyB 1
BaileyB Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I had a guy whom I was dating for 6 months tell me his health had taken a turn for the worse....that he discovered he had a brain tumor. Told me he didn’t want to bring me down with his health issues and wanted time to himself. Never heard from him again. Found out he was actually dating someone new. Guess that was just easier than telling me he was no longer interested. Lol. This would be included in my “Top 10” bad but hilarious date stories... thank goodness you dodged this bullet...
malaiyas Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 It's circumstantial, I guess, at least for me. I made plans with someone online once and then canceled because I had the WORST case of strep throat. I never did reschedule, but it was primarily because there just wasn't any investment to do so on my end as this was someone I hadn't met before. I don't get very excited about dates, though, and especially not first dates from a dating app. If these are women you've met in person, that might flip the script a bit. I guess it depends on how many dates? I did see you mention it's happened a few dates in, which to me would be a clear indicator of a lack of interest... and they're just too reluctant to tell you as much so they let you down "gently." I'd absolutely try to reschedule if it was someone I was interested in. We live in strange times. Everyone wants the truth and acknowledges that they'd just prefer to be told what's really going on, yet they're too chicken **** to deliver it themselves! I'm sorry people suck!
Author rightondude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 I'd have to be contagious...but if a parent has a sick kid nothing you can do about it... Have you looked into why you have so many cancels ? have you googled yourself ? can they match your name or email up with anything online that might turn a girl off... What about your divorce is public ? in other words if they look it up what will it tell them ? Just thinking out loud... nothing about my divorce is public or noteworthy, and nothing of any significance comes up when you google my name. I think I just match with a lot of flaky women or women who are out of my league looks wise and probably have other options.
Author rightondude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 I'm a woman and I almost never cancel any date. If I promise, then I will go, unless the guys do something extremely put off or disrespectful. I also almost never have anyone canceling on me. Thank GoD! i'm sorry for what you went through. Must have been heart wrecking and disappointing. I almost expect it at this point, it's happened so often. It's just so crazy it is the same excuse from different women...this last time was just the breaking point because this date had been planned for quite awhile.
Author rightondude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 I ended up giving the tickets away to a good friend (ironically an ex who had used the sick excuse on me awhile back...we weren't meant to be lovers but she's now a great friend) and went to a bar with some friends. Had a great time. During that time (when I would have been out at the concert) I got a text from my original date asking how the concert was and how she wished she could have been there. I didn't respond back.
Kitty Tantrum Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I don't have to be very sick to cancel plans of any variety. I don't like spreading illness around, and I tend to assume that others don't want to catch whatever I've got. My own dad won't let me visit when I'm sick. I've never lied about being sick to get out of a date. I HAVE canceled plans because I was legitimately sick, and then decided, based on the response I received (guy obviously assumed that I was lying or just did not care at all that I was sick and kept pressuring me to go anyway even though I felt awful), that I would not be rescheduling - or talking to that man ever again. One of the most egregious things a man can do in my book is to lash out at ME, treat me like a dishonest person, etc., for the crap OTHER WOMEN have put him through.
Author rightondude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 One of the most egregious things a man can do in my book is to lash out at ME, treat me like a dishonest person, etc., for the crap OTHER WOMEN have put him through. I agree completely. I expressed some degree of sympathy but when there was no attempt to re-schedule I took it as likely BS. Even if it had never happened to me before and I weren't jaded, if I were telling someone I had to break plans, regardless of the reason, fault or no fault, I would realize I had disappointed them and would look to reconcile that.
gaius Posted June 10, 2019 Posted June 10, 2019 I've tried to romance my wife in various stages of sickness since I met her. From a little sniffle all the way to a nasty flu. Sometimes she notices I'm sick, sometimes not. But whether sick or tired, far away or busy as hell, it doesn't matter. If there's a chance for romance with her I'm there.
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