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Don't have mommy issues, my parents are still together lol.

 

 

I've always dated much younger around 26 to 30ish.

All I ever got was heartbreak and debt, sooo much drama.

I've been suicidal because of the heartbreak.

I wanted a relationship where I would grow but seems like I was just a tool for women to grow. I started dating on bumble and met 2 older ladies and it was different and enjoyable 47 - 50. I matched with this much older lady and thought she looked beautiful and she probably wouldn't respond because of the age gap. We've gone on a few dates and have been inseparable, the connection is just there. For the first time I feel I met someone who can push and support me. It's a different feeling and I feel good finally. On top of being smart, energetic and pretty she's very well off. I don't really like women paying for me but at this point I cant even compete and i'm not gonna try. It's kinda nice though for a change after being sucked dry and dumped.The age gap doesnt bother me but I do want children, guess that's out the window unless I found a woman just to give birth haha.

 

 

I think I'm happy and didn't expect it to be from someone much older than me. Anyone ever been with someone 20 years older? Any advice

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No, but I briefly, very briefly dated a girl that was 20 when I was 33. Initially, I wanted nothing to do with it whatsoever because of the age gap, because it's not my thing and it won't ever be. But my late mother told me that I'd 'Always wondered what could have been if I never tried' and I listened to her (while I wished I didn't) and put what I felt about it to the side. Despite at least feeling we were compatible, it didn't work in the long run. It was for the best, and I'm grateful for that. She pulled back and at the time, I was heartbroken. But she was a total waste of emotions because it was a wake up call for me. A much needed one. I'm not saying that older relationships don't work, but most won't because of the age gap. Different generations, beliefs, you name it. All you can do is give it your all.

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When you turn 50 she'll be 70.

 

How good are you at changing diapers?

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When you turn 50 she'll be 70.

 

How good are you at changing diapers?

 

 

Lol She's way too posh and well kept and dont think it'll ever happen.

She looks like a housewives TV actress and smoking for 60.

 

Granted I did think she'll die first but it could be the best years of our lives.

Kina risky but I feel good. I cant ignore the feeling.

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You're dating her, doesn't mean you have to marry her and take care of her in her old age. In any case, since she's wealthy, she can probably pay a nurse to do that, once it gets to that point.

 

I get the impression you're more concerned about what other people think than your own happiness in the relationship.

 

Why not date her for a while and see how it goes?

 

There's this 60-something couple who live next door to me. They're old enough to be my parents, but I find both of them so magnetic and attractive. They're both very active, open-hearted, funny, fun, and pretty sexy, too. Soon they're going on vacation and I'm gonna dog-sit and get to take unlimited dips in their gorgeous swimming pool :cool:

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Any advice

 

yes, don't date women over 45

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It's fun to drive a classic car once in a while but that thrill is gonna wane when you want smoother handling and power steering.

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Everyone's a little bit different. If this is what works for you (both) then it's what works for you.

 

IF you stay together (and you're a long way from knowing that), she's likely to die first, so that's possible issue.

 

You might wish to check out the move Harold and Maude which takes a look at this kind of relationship (although the age discrepancy is even more extreme). A lot of both humor and pathos in that particular movie.

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Despr8 Member

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To the last three replies :)

 

 

I dont care what anybody thinks honestly It's just new and would like to hear some tid bits of anyone who's ever been there.

 

 

45- I've dated for 25 years younger women always and it's left me broke and unhappy. My last relationship of 6+ years I met her when she was 26 and she broke my heart.

 

 

 

Im actually into vintage cars, muscle cars not a fan of the newer care lol but thanks :)

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Happy Lemming Established Member

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I think I'm happy and didn't expect it to be from someone much older than me. Anyone ever been with someone 20 years older? Any advice

 

Yes... but not quite 20 years older. I once dated a woman that was like 15 years older. No real problems, she seemed to have more rules about sex than I was used to. Don't do this, don't do that... I don't know if it was age related or not.

 

I didn't really care what other people thought. We had fun while it lasted.

 

The relationship ran its course and fell apart when I moved. During that time of my life I was very nomadic and moved around a lot.

 

As a general rule, I try to use 10 years +/- my own age.

 

If you are happy, just enjoy yourself, but don't get too serious.

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hey I think Christy Brinkley is like 60 something and I'd still date her. If only she'd call me back.

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hey I think Christy Brinkley is like 60 something and I'd still date her. If only she'd call me back.

 

she's your uptown girl :lmao:

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You say you don't have mommy issues, but one of the reasons you state you are enjoying this woman is because she can push and support you. Thing is, this is a mommy's job when her children are not yet adults. At the age of 40, you should be able to push and support yourself. I fear she's going to tire of being your support person really quickly.

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...I once dated a woman that was like 15 years older. No real problems, she seemed to have more rules about sex than I was used to. Don't do this, don't do that...

 

 

Uggh. How dreadful. NO THANKS.

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Uggh. How dreadful. NO THANKS.

 

It made for a rather "vanilla" experience... but I made up for it when I arrived at my new destination. I started dating this hot little Latina!!

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I’m still waiting for some women on here to say how gross it is to be dating a woman who’s 20 years older than the man.

 

*crickets*

 

Apparently, it only works the other way around.

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Nah I say it all the time on here how creeped out I get when guys my kids’ age hit me up.

 

I was just being respectful.

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Interestellar, the ages make a difference. I wouldn't call a 60yo guy and a 40yo woman creepy either.

 

However if we were talking about 40yo and 20yo, then it's creepy no matter which gender is older.

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You say you don't have mommy issues, but one of the reasons you state you are enjoying this woman is because she can push and support you. Thing is, this is a mommy's job when her children are not yet adults. At the age of 40, you should be able to push and support yourself. I fear she's going to tire of being your support person really quickly.

 

Nothing like that I'm very self supportive. I just said it messing around. Honestly it's less pressure with this lady and I helps me in general. After years of being a support system mentally and financially for my ltr with younger women it's refreshing to receive it back. I'm not looking for a mommy for sure. But I get what you're saying.

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I had this EXACTLY. at 40 I dated a woman that was 60. im 47 atm.

it didnt last long. just a few months. while I did date quite a few women older then me, today it would not happen. I prefer someone my age or around 42 at the youngest.

 

we had great conversation and I enjoyed our time together but I realized the par was too great.

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Only once, when l was 24, met this french chick 28, but she had kids and stuff and she was much sort of older. Hated it, everything was shyt, everything, only lasted a few mths and l spun the wheels back to the real world.

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It would not be the way most of us guys are wired but hey each to his own,

 

referencing another post, a 40 year old and a 20 year old dating, I dont have a problem with that really,

 

although ten years or less difference is my preferred option, the woman being younger of course!!!

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I say, date where your priorities are at. You want kids, don't date older, you want someone more mature with no drama, date older. Which is more important to you?

Doesn't matter whether you are female or male dating someone 20 years older.....the chances of it lasting is slim.

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