Ramlick Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 Do you feel a special bond with previous lovers? If so, how do these bonds affect your current love relationship? Does it prevent you from getting close on a deep level with your current love?
JS17 Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 If you really had feelings for a former lover then you created a bond with them. The experience with them will have helped you to grow as a person but if you're really over them then it won't affect your current relationship.
alphamale Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 Do you feel a special bond with previous lovers? Not over the long-term...I have never stayed friends or in contact with an ex-lover... If so, how do these bonds affect your current love relationship? generally, no... Does it prevent you from getting close on a deep level with your current love? No...
Outcast Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 Absolutely not. When it's over, it's over forever. Not missed nor mourned.
lynnered Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 Do you feel a special bond with previous lovers? no Does it prevent you from getting close on a deep level with your current love? i dont keep in touch with exs ,the past is best left behind.
Author Ramlick Posted September 24, 2005 Author Posted September 24, 2005 Some of you have said that you don't keep contact with former lovers. I'm talking about an emotional bond. Is there still a soft spot in your heart for some of your former lovers (whether you're in contact or not)? Also, do you ever think about them sexually (even though you might be with a different partner now)?
alphamale Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 Is there still a soft spot in your heart for some of your former lovers (whether you're in contact or not)? yes...but a "soft spot" is very different than an emotiional bond. Also, do you ever think about them sexually (even though you might be with a different partner now)? yes
Author Ramlick Posted September 24, 2005 Author Posted September 24, 2005 Alpha, What is the difference in your mind? Not arguing with you here. I would just be interested in your point of view.
Jadey Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 I have a soft spot for my ex, I think its only natural really. But it doesnt affect my new relationship. As far as do i think of him sexually? Not really no.
Author Ramlick Posted September 24, 2005 Author Posted September 24, 2005 What does "not really" mean?
whichwayisup Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 To me, a soft spot is somebody who you really and truely care about, always. Doesn't have to be an actual lover either, could be a crush or somebody you just connected with on so many levels. I have 3 male friends who I have soft spots for, it's not sexual at all, it's just I really like them as a person. My husband knows two of them very well and has no problem with it. I'm lucky, he understands because there's a woman at work he's close with, I know her too, quite well actually and we all socialize, go to eachother's cottages etc...
Jadey Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 What does "not really" mean? Something may cross my mind like remembering something i did with him, How his body looks, whatever. But then ill stop myself thinking it. But it hardley ever crosses my mind, just a one of thing.
Author Ramlick Posted September 26, 2005 Author Posted September 26, 2005 I wonder if any of you thing a former flame was more sexually exciting than your current partner?
Mz. Pixie Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I have a soft spot in my heart always for a guy I've known since 7th grade- I dated him on and off through high school and after before my first marriage. I also have a soft spot for my first love. If he ever needed me as a friend, I'd be there in a minute for him. I don't think of either of them sexually though as my husband is the best lover I've ever had.
fundamental Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 I wonder if any of you thing a former flame was more sexually exciting than your current partner? When I am with someone new, I cannot remember what I have done with a former partner.
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