Flame Aura Posted June 5, 2019 Posted June 5, 2019 (edited) And as for me telling my husband that I'm ready to go...What's wrong with that? There have been times that he has told me that he is ready to go when we're out and we wrap it up and leave. If we've been somewhere for 3-4 hours and I have to get home and get things done, I don't see anything wrong with telling him babe we have to get going. But it is offensive to me that he would say ok babe give me just a minute and talk for another hour. It's inconsiderate. Especially when he knows that there are things that need to be done for us to prepare for the next day. Question. If you were somewhere with your SO and you were getting tired and ready to go, would you just sit there and not say anything? Or would you get their attention and quietly let them know that you're tired and ready to go? There's nothing wrong with it. If I was out with my girlfriend, and she told me she wanted to go home, I would tell her no problem let's go. I wouldn't care one bit what anyone else we were with thought. She is my priority. Kings don't let their Queen just go home by themselves because they want to carry on having fun. Edited June 6, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator rude 1
Author Married Shortcake Posted June 5, 2019 Author Posted June 5, 2019 Flame Aura - Thank you. My husband would NEVER allow me to catch a taxi home. NEVER.
Gaeta Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Question. If you were somewhere with your SO and you were getting tired and ready to go, would you just sit there and not say anything? Or would you get their attention and quietly let them know that you're tired and ready to go? Before we leave home we agree on the time we should come back if one of us wants to come back earlier for X reasons. We usually respect the agreements we have with each other. If the party is on and my bf would like to stay then we check if he can ride back home with someone and I leave with the car. If before leaving home you tell your husband you need to come back early for xyz and once there he ignores that , then yes he is inconsiderate and being an arse. I would not call that controlling, I would call that being a jerk. 1
BluEyeL Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 You’re not necessarily wrong but it’s a given that when we go to a spouse reunion, we won’t have such a good tome and it’s more about him than about us. Now, doing that every year would be a bit much so I hear you why you would want to bring your own friend that you’re comfortable with . My H goes on a trip with friends once a year and I don’t go. Wives don’t go. We tried going as couples once and it didn’t go so well for me because I didn’t like the wives much and I was expected to hang out with them and do what they wanted to do, and I wasn’t interested in doing . So we won’t be repeating that scenario. We each go woh our own friends separately and we go together one on one.
stillafool Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I don't understand this thread or OP. First she has a problem going to the HS reunion because of her husband's rowdy friends because she is an introvert. When given good advice of DON't GO she doesn't accept it. Then she goes on saying she wants to go. What's going on here? Is this just a vent? If a HS reunion is only once a year, you husband enjoys getting rowdy with his rowdy friends, he likes to stay late, you want to go home early, then do you both a favor and stay home.
preraph Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 why should he get to have every friend he ever knew in his high school there but you don't get to have one of your friends? Talking to strangers all weekend is not relaxing and is usually not fun and is usually just tedious. of course she's going to want a friend there that she can just visit with and be comfortable with. her other alternative is to be in her room alone a lot which probably wouldn't bother her that much but would bother her husband. It's not like rooms on cruise ships on that nice to hang out in either. Your husband is selfish. You have a friend willing to go which is really lucky. Go and do what you want to do.
BluEyeL Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 I don't understand this thread or OP. First she has a problem going to the HS reunion because of her husband's rowdy friends because she is an introvert. When given good advice of DON't GO she doesn't accept it. Then she goes on saying she wants to go. What's going on here? Is this just a vent? If a HS reunion is only once a year, you husband enjoys getting rowdy with his rowdy friends, he likes to stay late, you want to go home early, then do you both a favor and stay home. Yeah what’s weird about this situation is that, understandably, she doesn’t enjoy these reunions, but she insists on going. I sensed a bit of “going there to keep an eye on him” vibe. Going to a spouse reunion is not fun. Having it be for a few days, every year, on a cruise, with people you don’t feel connected with, is worse.So,to me, there is a strong case for staying home. Instead, that’s not an option. OP feels she has to be there but trying to make her time more bearable.
Author Married Shortcake Posted June 6, 2019 Author Posted June 6, 2019 My husband asked me to go so I'm going. I don't have to "watch" my husband. My husband has a car club that he's a part of, he goes fishing regularly, and he rides horses, the man has hobbies. These things are not for me, however, every now and again I go when he asks to be supportive and sometimes I actually have fun. Win, win. He asked me to go on this cruise with him and it's been a while since I've cruised so of course I want to go. What is so wrong with that?? I just want a friend along so that when I'm tired of the rowdy bunch I can have someone to relax with. In a perfect world I would be able to say to my husband, "Babe I've had enough of this for a while, can we go a chill for a bit?" However, I know my husband. He likes to shuck and jive with his friends. So since the main purpose of the trip is for his reunion, I didn't want to interfere with that. (Hence me bringing a friend) If I felt the need to "watch" my husband, I wouldn't be with him.
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