Oneitis/NC/Childhood Friend/Grey Zone

[Moose87]

Hey everyone,

 

Second time around here. Much better place than before but still have work to do..I'm in a bit of a weird but fresh situation.

 

I started talking to an old childhood friend of mine on fb. She was a bit tipsy but we hit it off quite well...asked me if was I was single and implied that she always liked me but her being cousins with my ex best friend from childhood.

 

We went back and forth for days and had a lot of fun texts btwn ourselves. There was multiple texts from her end, her implying that I ask her out...I was a bit nervous but I did it. It has been a really long time since I felt excited by anyone telling me about their day, good morning texts etc. I invited her out for the date...but for whatever reason I could not steady my nerves during the date..it was the first time I was sweating like CRAZY. In fairness and in context, not sure if it matters but I made a big mistake in that I was hungover that day and she was getting really tired (she has been working a lot of hours at her nursing job). She apologized profusely, and said we need to hang out again but in a way more energized state.

 

We defintely broke the touch barrier during our date, and even have drifted into sublty sexual texts as well prior to our dating but I've placed a lot of doubt in my head during those times as well because she's ended certain sentences with "my friend".

 

On Day One when we first started talking she told me to keep "June 1st" open as that was her 30th birthday, the day came out around and she never invited me out. I did sublty bring it up but I think this was probably the only time I really came across as a bit needy...I think I've handled myself "OK".

 

My main issue more than anything is stupidly I've developed oneitis and I am having a hard time deciding what to do..my friends have suggested just asking her for the second date...but I worry that my oneitis state of mind will prevent me from having a good time...On the other hand...I really do miss the back and forth banter I had with her and the getting to know her stage. I've gone 24 hours NC so far

[d0nnivain]

What do you want to do? If you would like to see her again, pick up the phone, use the voice feature & ask her out again. She may be a bit freaked over the decade change but you don't make a big deal out of it. If she really wanted you there, she would have called on Saturday.

 

If you are done, just leave it be.

[Foxhall]

yes pick up the phone and ask for another date,

 

go out enjoy the next date, you will forget about nerves once you are enjoying the moment going full steam ahead.

 

have the viewpoint your going to charm and give this girl a fun evening. your going to give it your best shot,

 

if it does not work out shes not for you anyway.

[Lotsgoingon]

Quit all the useless texting and go out with her.

 

When her 30th b-day came, you could have called her. Stop worrying about being "clingy" and go for the relationship you want.